5434a
1d ago
Sadly that's the way the game has developed. I think the refereeing of this tournament has done a good job of limiting the worst of these tendencies and hopefully there's more that can be done. The new rules about time wasting have been a welcome change too.
5434a
1d ago
We were lucky it wasn't 4-1, and we only have the courage and bravery of the goalposts to thank for that.
I don't think we deserved to win, getting to the quarterfinals is the standard benchmark for England and anything more is a bonus. The problem people have isn't with losing per se, it's the way that we lose. Even the way that we win. Let's say that somehow we'd held off Argentina for 40 minutes (!). Would you be proud of the result and confident going into the final, or feeling an unpleasant mixture of relief and trepidation? You can excuse keeping your back against the wall in a match where you're a man down, but in any other scenario it's an admission of a shameful lack of ambition. Too much of England's success has come from lucky breaks against weak opponents and a failure to capitalise on our advantages.
5434a
3d ago
I can't see any big difference between your approach and my own, and the closest I've come to being stood up was when I arrived at the agreed place, texted my date to let her know I was there, and she texted back with something about how she was busy, and had forgotten, and it was late, and she had an early start tomorrow, but she'll grab her coat and meet me for one quick drink anyway. Maybe it's the extra quarter inch of height that does it.
More often it was myself trying to back out of a date that I inadvertently set up by messaging women I wasn't interested in while I was drunk and the brakes were off, or women I talk to where we have a great rapport online but who live too far away for meeting up to be feasible. All the same I'd never flat out stand them up or ghost them.
5434a
6d ago
advice feminists offered to sexually frustrated straight men was "be more feminist"
My memory is this pre-dated the mass internet access of geek feminism and the blogosphere and goes back at least to the '90s and the idea of the New Man. I was too young to have any real awareness of gender discourse prior to that but I see traces of the same message in repeats of popular 1970s sitcoms too (Bob in The Likely Lads, or the daughter's boyfriend in Til Death Do Us Part).
Unfortunately, unlike The Last Psychiatrist's dictum that "if you're watching it it's meant for you", barring convoluted epicycles I think these messages were received and absorbed by exactly the sort they weren't meant for. The Scotts A of the world were never going to cat call women and become wife beaters, it just gave them another reason to feel anxious around women.
If you deliberately make yourself look different it's unreasonable to expect that you will be treated the same. There are others but one of the common responses to people who look different is ridicule.
Signal = "unalike"
Response = "yes"
Ridicule is more likely when the signal appears inauthentic or incongruent.
5434a
12d ago
if all demographics are truly equal then their visible Representation should be equal
Proportional, no?
5434a
19d ago
imagine a very attractive young woman, and then imagine learning later she has a penis. You probably don't want anything to do with her anymore. That's fine! But it is proof you can be attracted to trans people
Imagine you like the colour red but you want to paint your shed green, and when the person you paid to paint your shed buys a pot of green paint and opens it they find that it's full of red paint, and you get annoyed that they've painted your shed red and their explanation is that the label says that it's green, and besides colour exists on a spectrum and what we call red is a neuro-socio-linguistic construction, and you're failing to account for people who are red-green colour blind.
Imagine if the painter tells you they have painted all of their own sheds red because they believe that red sheds are better than green sheds, but they reluctantly agree to repaint your shed and then go and pour the leftover "green" paint into a new pot of green paint, making it neither red nor green. How is that possible to add red-called-green to green and get something that isn't red, red-called-green, or green? Does it matter if they show you their revised work in a black-and-white photo where you can't tell what colour the shed is? Does it matter if they show you the lid from the new pot they used that objectively proves the new paint was green before it was opened, or that the labels on both pots say green?
5434a
26d ago
I wonder if he'll stick around until the next general election.
How long after Starmer's replacement is installed until the "not directly elected - no mandate - not legitimate - call an election" drums start beating?
They play dirty, but the clincher is they're proud of it.
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