DirtyWaterHotDog
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DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Relevant - https://youtube.com/watch?v=mKc32jQIY0w
the trouble is that some children are timorous and some children are reckless. In order to save the lives of reckless children, warnings are calibrated for their safety, the result of which is that the timorous live in a state of perpetual terror. What I needed to be told is, "Do you know what? Most days you won't die. It's fine," you know?
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Misborn is weird. SAnderson does seem to write characters in a manner that is almost entirely devoid of their sexuality. Nothing wrong with that, but Vin could be guy, a girl or an amorphous 4 limbed entity.......and my mistborn experience would have been exactly the same.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
India has had 3 strong queens in its time.
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Jhasi ki rani regained control of her city and held onto it for 5 years in a war against the British East India Company.
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Ahilyabai Holkar played a big role in the sustained rise of the Maratha Empire as the pre-eminent Indian power sandwiched between the Mughal and British era.
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More recently, Indira Gandhi girl-bossed in a manner that Hilary can only dream of. She was India's leader during the liberation of Bangladesh, managing the Sikh insurgency and seizing the Congress party despite the old-guard being completely against her.
The answer here is simple.
Can men respect
womenpassive-actors as agents?
The type of man that's described in traditional media, does not describe that average man. Hell, it doesn't describe 99% of men. It describes a human of initiative. Sacrifice : A human who chooses to set aside their own interests for the greater good. Growth: A human who starts from the bottom, and chooses to put in the work to improve. Moonshots: Someone who chooses to act even when the odds are stacked against them.
The hero is not male or female, the hero is superhuman. Gender doesn't matter. The hero has been portrayed by a man for a long time, but that's arbitrary. It can be a woman. But, girl-boss feminism is incompetent at portraying the hero. Because, the key subversion of a hero is that he seems super-human, but is in fact, a weak person.
Writing an effective 'weak' character needs 2 things.
First: Recognizing the freebies that comes with being an individual of a certain demographic.
Second: Actively depriving them of those freebies; so that the journey appears difficult and relatable to all.
Hollywood writers can't write a relatable girl-boss, because it starts with needing to cast a sexually undesirable woman. It starts with recognizing, that they need to thoroughly deprive their character of the 'women are wonderful' effect. Linda Hamilton in Terminator 2 is a properly relatable girl-boss, in part because she is NOT 'Hollywood sexy'. It also helps that all 3 male characters in the movie: John, Arnold & T2 are incapable of sexualizing her. She spent the entire first movie being weak, and she is relatable not because she wins, but rather because she tries against all odds. Linda Hamilton grows, she sacrifices, she shoots for the moon and she is relatable.
Honestly, America in particular seems to be inept at writing relatable women. Vidya Balan has played many a relatable woman. (Kahani, Bhool Bhulayya) in Bollywood. There's a never ending list of manga where you can respect, admire, empathize with the agenthood of the woman. Some examples are Kakukaku Shikajika & Silent Voice (The manga). I have yet to complete The Mother (2009), but it also gives me a similar vibe. Off the top of my head, I cannot think of many post 2000 American films that qualify here. Even British TV has more relatable women. Olivia Coleman played only relatable women before her big break in TheCrown. There is something about the brilliance of Victoria Coren Mitchell or the sharp wit of Jo Brand that makes them girl-bosses of a type that I am kinda jealous of, even as a man.
complete tangent :
one could argue that women actually deserve no "empathy credit" for their interest in male protagonists
This. My favorite movie is Pig (2021). I have shown it to 3 highly empathetic (1 is a licensed therapist) women. The movie is about 3 weak men, grief and the weaknesses of men. All 3 of them reacted with either platonic appreciation or confusion as they watched the movie. They understood the universal themes : grief takes time and death is sad. But they didn't understand where the weaknesses of either men came from. The feeling of abandonment without the warmth of a mother. The level of intense pair-bonding that men undergo and isolation in their grief, the desperate incompetence of a father who has only ever played the role of bad cop. I never cry, but I was bawling my eyes out at the end of this movie. my 'daily weeper' female friends felt nothing more than a general sadness in the air.
Women and men only relate across genders when it is the proverbial 1% superhero, and that's because the superhero has no gender. Women don't relate to the 99% weak men, and men do not relate to the 99% weak women.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Man-eating tigers is in the Sundarbans in the north-east. But it is a good thing to mention either way.
There are tiger preserves in the western ghats, but those are easy to spot on the map and avoid. It is near impossible to run into a tiger outside a tiger preserve in the ghats. Some forests have Leopards, but Leopards do not attack adult humans, so you should be fine. It is like hiking in Yellowstone or Glacier national park. Don't fuck with the Bears. 99% the bears/tiger/leopards won't fuck back.
India doesn't have trail systems like the US, and the western ghats are rain-forests otherwise. So backpacking in the western ghats, means going from village to village using routes that used by humans, bullock carts, farmers and motorbikes. These are well occupied lands, and you'll see the occasional person as you traverse through people's fields, orchards and occasional well-travelled jungle routes. Wild animals steer clear of these areas, they they'd rather avoid humans if possible.
People who grew up in India probably have an innate "common sense" understanding of how to not get eaten by tigers. OP almost certainly does not.
Agreed
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
As an Indian, I am gonna GLOAT. Big time.
My ass-wipe toilet-paper of a passport gives me 1 and only 1 real perk. I get to get to Bhutan Visa- free. MUHAHAHA
Is this what it feels like to be from a developed nation, but for every other country ? 🥲
India is a great call out.
People speak English, generally safer than than the crazy parts of Africa, and the locals will be more than happy to give you the real down low.
I genuinely find more diversity in my own country when travelling across states, than I do when travelling across the western world.
The 2 best locations to backpack are :
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Western Ghats - Go at the end of the wet season. Beautiful rainforests that remind me most of hiking in Hawaii or Puerto Rico. Is well settled, and you will pass through some relatively-untouched ancient ruins as your pass through smaller settlements. One of the safest, cleanest and wealthiest parts of India. You will walk through a lot of tea-plantations and orchards. Some of the best food in the country and unquestionably the best fruits in the entire world.
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Himalayan foothills - No, I do not mean the HIMALAYAS. The foothills are much more fun to backpack through. They are safe, well settled and the pahari/nepali people are some of the most humble and welcoming people you'll meet. Himachal, Uttarakhand & Nepal are the best places for this. Lots of interesting dairy & red-meat-based items and soup based dishes. The food is surprisingly simple & mild by Indian standards, no less flavorful. Heartiest meals you'll have. The best cheese I've had in my life was here (Kalari), and you can't find it in their own regional capitals, let alone anywhere else in India or the world. Spring here is like Switzerland on steroids.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Nope, if anything, the goal is not to regain Anheuser-Busch as a conservative stronghold. The goal is to inject fear in every other organization, that 1 mistake is all it will take. Anheuser-Busch might be forgiven if they grovel, but not if they apologize.
Conservatives do not want SJW hires to be rendered impotent. They want SJW hires to be screened out at the hiring phase itself. Sadly, given the pool they're hiring from, that seems like a lost cause.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
non-Western countries
This is an odd way to frame the demographic problem.
As of 2014, according to Statistics Sweden, there were around 17,000 total asylum immigrants from Syria, 10,000 from Iraq, 4,500 from Eritrea, 1,900 from Afghanistan, and 1,100 from Somalia.[13] In the year 2017, most asylum seekers come from Syria (267), Eritrea (263), Iraq (117), and Georgia (106)
The refugees are entirely Muslim and from middle-eastern or adjacent nations. What kind of term is non-western ? As if there can be any homogeneity in a group that you've created as a negation of another group.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
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A hike that was on the edge of my abilities, needed meticulous planning, and was executed to perfection. (for me : Kathadin Knife's edge, Trans Catalina)
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Seamlessly executed potlucks where all your different friends groups come together and mingle. I have almost cried in some of these moments from the feeling of belonging.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
This is gold.
Is there a : "Not culture war, but quality contribution that socially awkward people should be told at least once" section ?
While you're speaking they're busy crafting an awesome insight in their heads. This leads to people simply announcing their thoughts in turn. Everybody then feels a curb-stomped because their insights were left on the vine. Here's a trick -- write down notes on what you'd like to say before the meeting. That way you don't have to keep it all in your head. Free up enough bandwidth to listen. They may have good thoughts you didn't have, your superiority notwithstanding.
I have been personally trying to be a better listener, and this is great. It's funny how it is so obvious when I read it, but so few people are able to put it to good use.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Bring enough garbage bags and make sure to scout out a proper restroom. There are somehow never enough garbage bags, and no one wants to go toa disgusting portapotty.
bring sunscreen even if she doesn't.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Frank LLoyd Wright monstrosities
Yeah, who hates on Lloyd Wright ? Maybe OP means the kind of boring modernist buildings that bastardized Bauhaus which was inspired by Lloyd wright.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Makes sense why I never wear one.
I never go to plays, and when I do it's improv-ish. I love jazz, but the underground kind. My NYE parties are house parties with a bunch of 20 somethings. And I have been to a $$$$ restaurant just once, on vacation, so I didn't have a suit. If I ever wore a suit to a work party, I'd look really out of place. Hell, I already look out of place for not just wearing swag tshirts and baggy jeans in my tech workplace.
I love layering with bombers, work jackets, heavy shirts & corduroy..... but all of them fall on the wrong side of dressed up. I think there is some truth to this scene, but I could never dress as douchey. Not rich enough to pull it off either ahahaha.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
One nice suit. Wore it once for a wedding 2 years ago. Where do you guys find the occasion to wear a suit ?
I do care about fashion, but all my clothes are casuals. To the first approximation, I look like someone who purchased the basicBastard and then stepped into a Uniqlo for the rest.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Sometimes you just don't have the time for it.
Ironing clothes, folding clothes....is just unnecessary work. Especially if they come unwrinkled from the dryer. Cooking and clean bathrooms is more essential, and I agree that they're necessary skills.
There are only 24 hours in the day, and I don't mind if a couple of low-priority chores fall to the wayside while I am doing something more important. Wasting time while ignoring chores is pretty immature though. Especially because you can often waste time and do chores at the same time.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
The trick is to always store your sock inside the other matched sock. That way, it's zero effort.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Note : this is a uniquely Hollywood problem.
British TV media seems to be as creative as ever. Indian movies are in a golden age of new IP. Salman's lousy pseudo sequels and RRR overshadowing Bahubali's thunder proves that. Japan seems to be in the midst of a creative revival too. Major long running shows are ending, all the lazy soft-sequels are stumbling out of the gate (Boruto) and the newer IPs are crazier than anything that has come before (DANDADAN, Chainsawman).
maybe most of the cinematic creativity is flowing into television
This is my guess too. It has allowed creative directors to get bigger budgets than they could've imagined. Directors cast 1 big name for the thumbnail, and the rest of the mini-series gets filmed indoors. Great way to make a good buck, get more $$ over longer view times and if viewer numbers are tied to thumbnail/trailer impressions anyway, then that's all you need.
Some have mastered this model. Mike Flanagan managed to make money off Midnight mass. Would have been impossible in any other era. TV shows like Bear should have been a movie, but they managed to turn it into a nice 8 episode T series and get an unusual project greenlit.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
This entire conversation gets to the root of 2 questions about segregation:
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Is sex based segregation fundamentally different from every other kind of segregation by group ?
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Is all segregation a form of affirmative action ? There are always group level differences, and the lower-performing group benefits from segregation.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
I am infamous for speaking in metaphors and getting unjustifiably annoyed when the person asks for me to 'explain it better'. It ties into the old 'blind men and the elephant' story. I HAVE to explain an elephant in metaphors as long as sight does not exist yet. You then get someone asking for a phrase to capture the animal, and I am forced to call it a 'trunk nosed rhino' in resignation. It's the 'real world concepts' version of that.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
because Indian tourists aren't known for their civic sense, at least back in India
I've started thinking that civic sense is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If a large enough critical mass around you maintains the environment in a certain way, then even the least-cultured person starts spontaneously behaving in a "cultured" manner. It's why ghettos are so toxic to nations that seek eventual integration.
Funnier still were the morbidly obese Western sexpats trying to hire a bike to drive them back, when they got on the back behind the tiny Thai drivers, the vehicles often threatened to rear up in fright.
Despite being the least unexpected of all the things that surprised me on this thread, something about this is rather disgusting.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
Post- communist / post-socialist countries are not as kind to the communists.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
That's honestly the hardest one.
No one gets India
Because that "no one" includes me. But it is also the one I am most likely to finish.
DirtyWaterHotDog
2yr ago
My entire batch will be going to a resort near our town next weekend to get shitfaced and honestly I cannot wait to try it at least once in my lifetime
This is your best opportunity to rack up 'I owe you' points.
Only be buzzed. Get them the buckets when they need to puke. Put them in bed. Help with the clean up of broken bottles. People remember, and the multiplier of good will you can accumulate here is incredible. Be the DD if you have to be. (don't drunk drive kids)
Also, I'd much rather remember the good times than be too shit faced to have any clue what happened. And drunk people are more fun to play with when you're sober.
I do, it is amazing. I haven't driven a car once in 2023. I used to have to drive a car everyday on the west coast. I can confidently proclaim that at least all NYC boroughs, Boston (until 2022 MBTA collapse), Mumbai, Madrid, Singapore & Paris can be lived in completely car free.
Note: I have nothing against cars. I literally have an automobile-engineering degree and spent a past life building cars at a big-car co. I love cars, I love road trips and I don't drink just so I can be the happy designated driver. It's just ....... Cars just make no sense as the primary mode of transport in an urban environment. Yeah you can have a car. A fast, spacious and small car. VW Gold R, Model 3 & the Mazda 3 Turbo are better SUVs than SUVs. You just don't need to drive it 99% of the time. Guess what ? The roads are still packed with cars. But now those who NEED to drive can drive, and the rest of us get convenient options.
This can be achieved in smaller towns too. There is high car ownership in college towns (Amherst, Ithaca) and small town New England (Portland Maine), but people still walk around or take transit for most occasions. The car comes out when it's needed.
Many major cities now have bike sharing systems around the city which completely eliminates the need to carry your own bike around.
Sounds like Portland, Seattle, SF..... west coast cities are not walkable. They are not even cities. They are dystopian examples of human deterioration. West coast cities are exactly what happens when car culture is unwilling to cede any ground. Not a single wealthy boomer lives in the city core, because highways drop you in the middle of the city core anyway. All 3 of these cities are designed with meeting the needs of car based visitors more than the needs of the residents. And it shows.
I fully agree with you here. Progressives are idiots. Stringent enforcement of public-safety is first step towards convincing people to move out of cars.
It is true. They did ruin everything. It's just that it is a self-fulfilling prophecy now. Boomers created the wound and cars were the bandage. So if you ever suggest removal of bandage it gets met with obvious anger. But if you ask for funding to treat the wound itself, it gets treated with confusion and dismissal.
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