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Gheobhaidh mé bás ar an gcnoc seo.
3hr ago
New Year's resolution check-in ( @thejdizzler posted in last week's thread by mistake):
- Had an idea for a blog post which I intend to write the first draft of this evening.
- Went to the gym three times last week. Yesterday I did a 5k run on my lunch break, then went to the gym in the evening. I intended to do deadlifts, but found my lower back was bothering me too much, so I did bench press instead. After years of my herniated disc bothering me on my lower right side, the pain now seems to have migrated to my lower left side. Then on other days (like today) it returns to the lower right. Very strange. I need to get into the habit of doing lower back stretches several times a day even when I really don't feel like it. Can deadlift 1.84x my bodyweight for 3 reps, squat 1.22x for 8 reps and bench press .87x for 6 reps.
- Have not consumed any pornography since waking up on January 1st.
How goes it @self_made_human, @thejdizzler, @birb_cromble and @falling-star?
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5hr ago
I've heard this theory before and I think there's a lot of truth to it. I can't fathom why it would be though.
I know, it's dumb. My pet theory is that some people think that, by avoiding formalising a relationship by putting the associated labels on it, they can therefore protect themselves from emotional disruption. Obviously, this is silly: if you like someone and are dating them to the exclusion of all others, it's going to hurt if they break it off with you even if you never explicitly declared them your boy/girlfriend.
- I asked her to be my girlfriend two and a half weeks after our first date. She said yes, but then a few days later said she thought we were moving too fast and requested we go back to just seeing each other (albeit exclusively). Exactly thirty days after our first date, we again decided to be in a relationship, and have been ever since.
- Quite obvious.
- After our second date (which was perhaps one week after our first), I stopped pursuing other women on the apps.
- During the period in which we were just dating but not in an explicit, exclusive relationship? Not that I recall.
- Again, not that I recall.
- I think so.
If I drink while sitting and gaming or going online, I get nasty hangovers. But then if I drink while out with friends, I usually feel fine.
I'd say this is likely caused by i) drinking at a slower pace because you're talking to people and ii) I've heard it said that one of the best ways to avoid a hangover is to wait until you no longer feel drunk before going to sleep. If you drink at home, you're probably going straight to bed still drunk, but if you're out with friends, by the time you get home you've probably sobered up a bit.
Globally, my worst hangovers originate from mixing my drinks.* If I drink six (or seven, or eight) beers, I'll probably feel fine the next morning, if perhaps a little sleepy, nauseated or have a mild headache. If I mix significant volumes of beer, spirits, wine and/or liqueurs, I'll probably feel like shit the next morning, especially if any of the drinks were very sugary, even if the absolute volume of alcohol I consumed is lower than if I'd just drunk one kind of drink. Mixing my drinks also seems to be disproportionately responsible for the emotional symptoms of hangover, namely "the fear": the sensation of paralysing anxiety and dread that you made a fool of yourself the night before.
In terms of physical symptoms specifically (headache, nausea), I used to get the worst hangovers from cheap white wine. The only kind of white wine I drink any more is sparkling (prosecco, cava).
*That being said, the single worst hangover I've had in the last five years wasn't even caused by alcohol specifically. I went to a gig, mixed various drinks and someone offered me a cigarillo in the smoking area. I've never learned how to smoke cigars or cigarillos and always end up smoking them like a cigarette i.e. inhaling, when as I understand it you're only meant to "taste" a cigar. Never figured out how to do that. Anyway, I ended up getting too drunk and left the gig early (wasn't really enjoying it anyway, so no big deal). The next day I was so hungover I literally couldn't keep water down. If you're going to smoke a cigar, make sure you've got your technique down in advance.
FYI it's birB_crombLe. And I assume you meant to post this in this week's thread.
- Had an idea for a blog post which I intend to write the first draft of this evening.
- Went to the gym three times last week. Yesterday I did a 5k run on my lunch break, then went to the gym in the evening. I intended to do deadlifts, but found my lower back was bothering me too much, so I did bench press instead. After years of my herniated disc bothering me on my lower right side, the pain now seems to have migrated to my lower left side. Then on other days (like today) it returns to the lower right. Very strange. I need to get into the habit of doing lower back stretches several times a day even when I really don't feel like it. Can deadlift 1.84x my bodyweight for 3 reps, squat 1.22x for 8 reps and bench press .87x for 6 reps.
- Have not consumed any pornography since waking up on January 1st.
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11hr ago
Our go-to is a local roastery called 3FE. Their house blend is solid and reliable. I've been thinking of trying Cloud Picker again. My girlfriend likes an Italian roast, although it's a bit too dark for my liking.
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2d ago
I once spoke to a guy who worked in a recently founded distillery. While waiting for their first batch of whiskey to age, they started selling gin and vodka just to get a bit of revenue in their coffers. To their surprise, their gin and vodka ended up being so popular (winning assorted international awards) that many of their customers are entirely unaware they distill whiskey.
They might have been more selective than the average man when it comes to deciding whom to fuck, but once they selected me (or any other man who passed the selection, I'm sure), they wanted to fuck a lot.
I think this is exactly what people mean when they say "the average man has a higher sex drive than the average woman": that, owing to their higher sex drive, men tend to be far less discriminating in their choice of sexual partners.
Consider which demographic makes up the lion's share of prostitution customers vs. which makes up the lion's share of prostitutes (likewise strip clubs, porn consumption etc.) More darkly, consider which demographic commits most rape and sexual assault vs. which demographic is disproportionately likely to be a victim of rape or sexual assault.
Consider how many sexual partners the average gay man reports having in his lifetime vs. the average lesbian or heterosexual woman. While gay men are unrepresentative of the modal male experience on many axes, I think it's fair to say that gay male sexuality is what unconstrained male sexuality looks like (that is, male sexuality operating without the constraint of female selectiveness and libido).
I also think survey data (e.g. "how many times have you masturbated in the last month?" "how often do you look at pornography/erotica?" "have you ever visited a prostitute?" and so on) would probably make the disparity readily apparent.
Almost nothing about human culture is compatible with the claim that women are exactly as horny as men.
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2d ago
The best I can say is "persistence". Sticking with a relationship I know makes me happy even when my gut is telling me to cut and run. Per High Fidelity, it's about learning to recognise when your guts have shit for brains.
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2d ago
And the pernicious one is the avoidant who is mostly aware they're avoidant, and keeps trying to establish relationships with people then withdrawing suddenly, closing off all contact as if the connection never existed, and move on relatively quickly.
You rang?
Thank Christ I broke out of that cycle.
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2d ago
Men are the horniest at 40
Personally, I don't find this claim remotely credible.
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2d ago
I think most people would define "promiscuous" as "number of sexual partners in a given timeframe" i.e. a person who provides a number greater than X to the question "how many sexual partners did you have in the last twelve months?" It seems weird to me to describe as "promiscuous" a man who slept around in his early twenties, then decided to join the priesthood, took a vow of celibacy and hasn't so much as kissed a woman in decades.
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2d ago
I read a book about attachment styles which made the more specific argument that securely attached people tend to pair off with other securely attached people early on, resulting in a dating pool made up primarily of insecurely attached people. This results in the "anxious-avoidant trap", a relationship made up of one anxiously attached person and one avoidant person, which is mutually unfulfilling.
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2d ago
I don't think this is a remotely accurate portrayal of Christie's oeuvre. In the most recent Christie novel I read, for example, the killer turns out not to be a member of the landed gentry, but rather
Silent Hill 2 etches a surprisingly nuanced and complex portrayal of a grieving widower, touching on some of the ugly realities of watching one's spouse slowly succumb to illness that even unvarnished warts-and-all literary fiction avoids confronting. While it's at it, the game includes a secondary character who is a
Spec Ops: The Line depicts a well-meaning protagonist with admirable goals, whose monomaniacal stubbornness, refusal to take responsibility for his actions (indeed, refusal to even acknowledge the consequences of his actions) and steadily declining mental acuity combine to make him progressively more unlikeable and loathsome. The lead writer described him as a tragic hero whose fatal flaw is his inability to reconcile the disparity between the man he would like to be and the man he really is. Even if you don't buy into the meta aspects of the game's presentation, Walker is a masterclass in writing a character who is believeable and unlikeable, while still retaining the player's sympathy.
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2d ago
Grease (both its original stage production and film adaptation) and Happy Days are both prominent examples of the wave of fifties nostalgia that swept the US during the 1970s. I chose the "Buddy Holly" music video to illustrate that the effect is cyclical: 90s looking back fondly on media from the 70s which was itself looking back fondly on the 50s.
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2d ago
Tbf What Remains of Edith Finch is really good.
Glad you enjoyed Ten Little
About one-third of the way through The Matriarch.
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3d ago
I used to think this concept was incoherent, and yet listening to Holst's "Jupiter" makes me feel patriotic for a planet I've never set foot on and never will (because one physically cannot "set foot" on it).
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