I'm not sure what "Ressentiment" adds to the discussion, or why it looks like a fake French version of resentment, which is similar and widely understood. If someone is resentful about their impotency, like some of the characters in JD Vance's book, how is it helpful to add "ressentiment" on top of that?
Gaashk
4d ago
Conservative women mostly aspire towards marriage, and are picky about religious groups, which clump politically as well. Like if a Catholic girl is a bit socialist, and her prospective partner is a bit into Republican coded Fait and Family stuff, but they both think they should listen to the Pope and bishops on serious matters, then that's fine.
Gaashk
4d ago
It is obvious, because that's literally what matchmaking is about, thinking about the desires of both parties, and whether they will match up. That's why I referenced Emma, because it's a novel where the female protagonist thought too much about what she valued in her friend, rated her too highly in respect to marriage, and made a mess of things as a result.
The ick is probably from times and places where women were literally bought and sold, and didn't get to choose.
Gaashk
5d ago
Yes, if he talks with his women friends about romantic matches and references Emma, they will probably be more interested and experience less ick.
Gaashk
5d ago
Yes, it does seem like that would come across as crass in most contexts, like thinly veiled male locker room talk.
Many women have complicated feelings about being hot, attractive, or even beautiful, and are constantly policing each other about modesty. Traditionally, they should be attractive enough to attract a husband, but not so hot that men are constantly lusting after them. They should have kids while they can, but also at a respectable adult age. Most belief systems regulate these things quite heavily, and "SMV"maxers are defectors, scorned by other women.
That might be a genuinely interesting story.
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