Pongalh
2d ago
An example of politics being interested in you. You can avoid alt right or whatever stuff, but the women you associate with will infer it from your statements nonetheless.
Pongalh
2d ago
Do you think that's literally the only example I've ever seen, not simply the most salient?
Pongalh
2d ago
and more likely to instigate divorce when the status differential is changed in their favor
Ok, my second anecdote in a row, but yea. Friend of mine's little brother is overweight, and was married to an overweight woman. Well, she lost the weight, he didn't, and you can guess what happened next. My friend's wife said she saw it coming, a tale as old as time.
Pongalh
2d ago
Looking hot is the number one determinant of whether people interpret you as fun charismatic and confident.
Oh come on. I had a friend who was quite handsome but mumbled and had the presence of wallpaper. Ended up drinking himself to death, creeping women out on the way.
Pongalh
2d ago
If the accusation is that women looking to hook up with guys outside clubs in Miami prioritize looks over the politics and social views of the men they hook up with, OK?
Miami. You don't say! It's sad that young men really just want a decent-looking Jesse Buckley-style female friend with similar interests that grows into a LOVE interest. But they're so adrift they're pining for the longstanding trope of superficial club chicks? Chicks who existed in the 80s too - when things weren't so bad - and so a constant.
Pongalh
2d ago
Two criticisms: This documentary is biased and trying to pile on young men, and, Where are the female equivalents?
Focusing on the latter maintains your good points here about just Theroux just letting these people speak.
Pongalh
8d ago
That's it. That's everything. In a parallel universe, crimes committed by illegal immigrants or other left-sympathetic figures would move from local news to a national roundtable discussion. But it consistently fails to be escalated to such. It stays local (and even there is massaged, see affiliate reporting on BART crimes, purely locally). Unlike Ferguson, Missouri, a local crime that made the big time.
Pongalh
10d ago
DoorDashing is like that, tipping an advance. You do it as an incentive to give great service, not as a confirmation of great service given. Predictably I'll leave a generous tip but they won't come to the door, wanting me to go out to a parking lot (I usually order only when at a motel) and forget things.
Pongalh
10d ago
Interesting. I was at the first Coachella that same year. It had a somewhat more electronic music focus than Woodstock 99, with one tent entirely curated by Warp Records. There was far, far less debauchery than apparently what went on at Woodstock. The composition of attendees was more hipster-y and presumably UMC, which explains some of that. I recall two guys from San Luis Obispo who helped procure Autechre for the festival.
Pongalh
15d ago
"I don't have much to say except it's disappointing how Americans are bound to precedents."
Lefty Damage Mag put this humorously: "Can We Have New Bad Things?": https://www.damagemag.com/p/can-we-have-new-bad-things
Pongalh
17d ago
Right. That's the part I fear. In theory the single elderly can keep each other company, run errands for each other, etc. I'd sign up for some kind of mutual aid society of that type.
Pongalh
19d ago
I think it's a sign that most westerners are fundamentally unprepared to defend their societies from aggression and stagnation.
Huh? What does Iran have to do with any of the problems afflicting Americans domestically? Sex recession, unaffordable homes, the meaning crisis, woke more broadly? This is just another foreign policy distraction because it's the only thing elite American conservatives have to address their own meaning crisis.
Pongalh
25d ago
Yep. I wrote an article for a website called Topix ~2012 that was very respectfully written, claiming single motherhood was deleterious for children. The focus of the piece was almost entirely ON THE CHILDREN. Putting their welfare first. But it was rejected for "punching down" at single mothers.
Pongalh
25d ago
I remember that. What was unconscionable was the father and his young wife getting it on Bill (or Ted's) room!
Pongalh
25d ago
It's depressing how easy it is to run circles around so many arguments I've heard from women I've dated. But it doesn't strengthen the relationship, i.e. she treats as dispassionate sport and maybe learns something. It just creates bad vibes and results in a breakup. But I can't be with a dullard either, who isn't interested in ideas and arguing, no matter how nice or well-composed or healthy she is. It's a bummer.
Pongalh
25d ago
Interesting. But it seems that younger women are complaining of age gaps more than older women. That's my anecdotal observation.
Apparently, the zeitgeist has turned away from "bad boys." It's not the 90s anymore. Not going to college and having served time isn't hot anymore. This is what I'm picking up at least from black YouTube. (My ex - Boalt Law school-bound at the time - once said I was slightly hotter to her after explaining I'd gone to continuation school, didn't graduate on time. I don't see a woman saying that nowadays.) To what degree does this suggest that women don't in fact want jerks?
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