TiltingGambit
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TiltingGambit
4d ago
Yeah that’s an interesting take.
TiltingGambit
4d ago
I disagree that the problem is she's too busy and energetic, and submit she's just picky and is waiting for prince charming.
TiltingGambit
5d ago
No. No, there is not. The reason I say this is because I do know of atleast one person who does match that energy - and the amount of hoops that he had to jump through to find someone who did match him was... well, it wasn't herculean, but it was definitely more than one and definitely more than you'd expect given the guy in question.
I don't understand this. You're saying nobody wants to match her energy (there are definitely guys who are super energetic and want other people like this, too) but you know a guy and his GF made him jump through hoops? I don't think hoop jumping is limited to high energy girls.
If anything, you detailing her list of hobbies explains pretty much everything about her and why she's having so much trouble.
Again, I don't get this. Having a lot going on is a good thing for most people. She's certainly doing what she can to avoid being boring and not relying on her looks.
TiltingGambit
6d ago
Agree on all points. I mentioned in another reply that in addition to her real monday-friday job, she is also a qualified physio and is still working at a hospital on sundays. I'm guessing she has half a chance with a doctor who comes out of a bad break up or something.
TiltingGambit
6d ago
A huge variety. The usual chick stuff, she does pilates, has a side gig cake making business, works a second job at a hospital as a physio on sundays (I suspect her plan with this is to meet a doctor), studied data analytics in her spare time, mostly for fun and to help her with random tasks at work. She's done a lot of different dance styles, coaches high school gymnastics.
She also does charity work.
Whether you're interested in those things or not, she is definitely out there doing things. And compared to the average instagram scroller, she might be in the top 5% in terms of extra curricular activity. And she's a thin, blonde, athletic looking person. She's attractive.
I'm not single, and I'm more her big brother type of work friend. I would never date her because she's got way too much going on in a week to week kinda way. But there's a lot of guys who would be able and very willing to match her energy (I would have though??)
TiltingGambit
6d ago
I have an objectively hot female friend who would be a total catch for any guy. Very confident, green flags around being able to fit in with guy-groups, heaps of hobbies, etc. She's single at 32 and doesn’t seem to have had meaningful relationships, and isn't hooking up or anything.
Got to talking about her dating life. I asked her why not go to a bar. She said "do I really want a guy who does bars and clubs at 32?"
I do think she's holding out for a top 5% earner who's tall and handsome.
She's done a recent round of dates off apps. Nobody got a second date. She's seriously disappointed with the type of guys she has available to her. And my thinking is that most great guys (ha) are probably locked down by a great girl (ha) at that age.
She did the career thing, and has somewhat waited out the pool of guys that she considers worthy of a relationship. She's probably going to settle for somebody at one point and be somewhat quietly disappointed.
The "businesses only care about quarterly profits" crowd don't seem to have ever talked to a business owner/founder/competent CEO/mid tier+ chairman.
It's a meme that only lives in the minds of those critical of business or stock markets.
Saying that a country has never been longterm-pilled is actually even more egregious. And I don't know how hard you're redefining things or playing word games to say families don't take a long term view of life. I certainly do, so does almost everybody I know.
Post a definition of what you mean by "longtermism" and I'll post 20,000 examples to demonstrate that there are businesses, countries and families that have all had a long term visions of the future, and have worked towards them. Short of you saying "longterm" actually means "2,000 years" this seems like a totally indefensible comment. And if your view od short term is "quarterly reporting" then I'm going to suggest longterm should be in the range of 10 to 20 years.
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