aldomilyar
2mo ago
I remember a few years ago that putting 'conservative' on your Hinge Profile was literally a death knell for matches.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Bars and clubs have kind of died as a place for 'average people to unwind', especially past University age. There's simply too much competition from other entertainment mediums, atleast in my experience. A certain subset of extroverted nightlife enjoyooors rotate around between eachother visibly, but as a subset of the population I believe it's smaller than it has been historically.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
This does not tell us much about the dating habits of the vast majority of women. The kindergarten teacher whose hobbies are crochet and collecting Disney memorabilia who is far too shy to meet a man off the apps (and far too insecure to create a profile at all) is not fucking a new guy off Hinge every week. The average man never even encounters this kind of woman except maybe in passing.
These women, in my experience having dated and befriended a lot of them, are just generally not on the market or only on the market for like a week per year in which they try Hinge as a New Year's Eve resolution and then quickly delete it after their third untoward comment received. Then maybe 6 months later they go home for Thanksgiving and get ribbed by mom and it's downloaded again but it doesn't stay.
I think that's less of a thing than it used to be. Social groups/interests are more gender delineated, workplace flirtation isn't what it used to be due to the potential massive ramifications of going too hard.
I spent about a year in 2022 dating a bunch of educated, upright upper-middle class 25-35 year olds with a view to finding a wife with whom to have children. I now have wife + child, but the experience made me think that the issue is that a lot of the shyer girls just only very sparingly spend time on the market. They'll download an app for a week or two until they have a meh date or get distracted, then either find a mate or delete the proverbial app for 6 months before quarter-heartedly trying again in hopes of their Prince Charming happening to be in the first 2-3 serious conversations they strike up on the app before the next deletion.
Also these women are truly inexperienced, which means those brief forays are more likely to go anywhere since the mindset is more 'formulaic husband interview' than anything romantic. I had about 60 first dates in 2022, 50 or so of which would fit into the broad category of educated women looking for something serious with actual careers and an intent on 'settling down' and I found about half seemed to legitimately be completely inexperienced romantically.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I do agree with you, but also feel that a lot of the people who end up in the dating app loop tended to have 'missed the boat' on stuff like meeting organically through friends group and at college.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Yeah hard to set a line for 'not noticeably promiscuous' but 5 sex partners feels a tad low for somebody who's 29.
On the market from 15, could do that with 6 2-year relationships or just say 3 4-year relationships and one extra 'body' in every dating period between whilst feeling things out.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Yeah 5 as a hard cutoff feels a bit crazy for a 30 year old. If they've been on the market from 15 onwards, which is broadly typical, that's achievable with 5 3-year long-term monogamous relationships.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I do think there's definitely correlation factors that make the actual pool bigger than a surface-level analysis would say, but also it's partially a cultural thing. Back when I was single, I got occasionally ribbed for largely dating Asian girls but in my experience wanting to tick the 'non-obese, has a career/some sort of actual job, nobody else's kids, isn't obviously overly promiscuous' boxes meant that the majority of my leads were Asian girls.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I don't think a 5 body count is some insane disqualifying factor by 30. That's like 12 (probably more like 14-15 realistically) years on 'the market' for a woman and you can easily get to there with year-long+ committed relationships.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I've also felt using it against other historical diseases is outlandish since it's not like somebody was sitting by every single dead body in the Spanish Flu outbreak and doing a genomic test to prove whether or not they'd ever expressed anything
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Why not? It's prettymuch the largest confounder in human history in terms of widespread behavior modification.
There's enough countries/regions in the world on various points of the infection virulence/lockdown severity scale you should be able to work out a metastudy
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Yes but Jan 6th aside from the location and the suggested vibe of 'If the control point of US democracy were held for 30 minutes by funny hat man, the entire USA would automatically fall under his control' was hardly even a Riot. People who were glibly encouraging far more Riotous riots and complaining about far more justified shoots suddenly dropped both principles in favor of pure team allegiance logic.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I'm confused. Prediction markets are a re-codification of a bunch of already-existing markets and are more 'a proposal to try and regear betting exchanges' than they are anything essentially new.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I think you can make an argument she was playing stupid games, but the public response to it is almost totally informed by 'Blue Team Good, Red Team Bad' factionalism. People who were vehemently pushing BLM and Defund the Police slogans a month before suddenly became totally cool with the idea of a justified shoot, whilst if Babbitt had been shot as an unarmed woman in a similar circumstance whilst say trying to approach Trump during a BLM protest or entering a capitol building she would be held as a martyr to the cause.
I understand why the Red team hasn't pushed her since they tend to be more accepting of violent consequences to 'fuck around and find out' but the handling feels deeply hypocritical on part of the Blue Team.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I just felt like it should have been brought into the vampire climax somehow and felt like it just kinda weirdly floated above the rest of the movie just to tick the 'racial oppression themes' mentioned box moreso than really contributing to the plot perse. Also like the only two real white person interactions of the movie are 'The Local Klan is ready to go on 24 hours notice for the grave crime of selling an old barn' and 'Old drunkard's friend is mass lynched for the crime of having $20' which is a pretty insane setup.
If it had tied into the vampire plot with say the Vampiric mulatto woman going to the local town and making up a rape or something to galvanize the Klan into action to get the vampires into the barn I'd buy that, or if it somehow tied into the source of the Chicago money with organized crime contacts using the Klan to try and get revenge. Otherwise it's just a child's understanding of the South where mass lynchings were a daily occurence in every locality.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I just watched the movie Sinners. Good movie, enjoyed the use of Folk motifs and generally cracking vibes and pace until the last 10 minutes or so.
I felt like the story they were telling didn't really need the bit with the Klan at the end, just seemed super detached from the rest of the movie. Would recommend the movie, all the same.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
I think it's a transgression but I also feel like the consequences are a bit too hardcore for what's essentially masturbation. Dude's essentially been exiled from his life, whilst having hung out with some of the guys who are in the B Team orbit they're hardly above locker room behavior and a lot of that stuff is essentially Craig Jones' personal brand. His main media thing last year was a bunch of sexually charged stuff around Gabi Garcia/challenging her to do an Onlyfans shoot with him if he caught her in a particular submission that he actively went for and only relented when she essentially said 'I will let you break my leg instead of tapping since I don't want to play into the onlyfans thing' (https://youtube.com/watch?v=HID-Xi8hOUw&t=741) which IMO is way more of a consent issue than anything Rod did.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Niche Hobby Drama alert
In the sport of Brazilian Jiujitsu, there's been a recent drama in which a popular grappler called Jay Rodriguez has been kicked out of the B-Team (Most popular team in the sport despite not tending to actually win things) due to sexual impropriety. The original message said that he'd obtained illicit images of female training partners.
This was revealed a few days ago, and it has since been revealed that the alleged impropriety is that Jay Rod's Girlfriend discovered that he had been deepfaking nudes of female competitors he'd met on the mats. She then exposed this to the team upon finding out, but it's acted as a bit of a touchpoint for drama in the sport as a result. The original message made it sound like he'd been taking creepshots or sharing actual nudes. It's additionally attracted drama as the mouthpiece/defacto leader of the B Team is Craig Jones, who is by far the most charismatic person in the sport but also has a long history of putting out content which could be considered a bit sexually untowards. He had the famous intergender match last year against Gabi Garcia, has done a lot of travel blogging with ladyboys, massages and other broadly risque subjects and is generally a 'loose unit'. Now he's taking the moral high ground against Jay, which has created some controversy.
Personally I think that it's reasonable to kick Rod out once the deepfaking became public knowledge, but also the comms were handled poorly. BJJ sex scandals are more common than you'd expect, but typically tend to be more of the 'Brazilians versus the age of consent' age-old rivalry than something with such a modern tinge.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Yeah but the ones harboring the market dominant minorities tend to be anti-Chinese and, atleast in the case of Malaysia, also quite Anti-Jews
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Isn't this stuff just reasonably common with Leftist handling of 'Oppressed groups', in which the oppression is centered and what the group actually believes/practices just doesn't really come up despite the fact they're some combination of borderline theocratic, hardline conservative and run contrary to woke culture. The point is they're the underdogs and therefore you root for them, not that the society where they hypothetically got on top would be significantly more repressive than the status quo.
aldomilyar
2mo ago
Continuity of their states also probably impacts it. If Chinese Communism had fallen with the death of Mao he's probably viewed a lot differently versus now where he's definitely controversial but cannot be effectively completely nuked without undermining nation building.
aldomilyar
3mo ago
It is kinda funny seeing all the equivocation of the Gamer Word with literal murder coming out of this.
aldomilyar
3mo ago
Especially a topic where at this point the vast majority of people know the consequences of saying anything particularly taboo can be life-altering on a random vox pop.
aldomilyar
3mo ago
Also the sea exploration one is a lot easier to trial-and-error, especially over a multi-generational timeframe. Not that the Polynesian navigators necessarily got purely lucky, but each exploration mission is far less costly on society.
Yeah but the game has changed on both fronts. Incomes are more equitable between genders, and whilst domestic duties are still difficult the average Divorcee isn't an Irish Catholic Mother of 14 that needs to wash and darn the socks by hand. I think there's a potential middleground between the two approaches in which it is possible to acknowledge marriage as a partnership, whilst still feeling that divorce settlements far, far, far beyond the amount it'd take to literally retire and have a comfortable rest of life are a bit outlandish.
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