falling-star
10mo ago
Marrying and having children with a citizen seems like it would give someone sufficient attachment to the nation.
falling-star
10mo ago
Miimoji
falling-star
10mo ago
Congratulations and good luck my man!
falling-star
11mo ago
To clarify: I only did the whole logs and report thing for 7 days. It's a bit cumbersome to do and the format breaks down when I'm leaving the house for long periods of time. Also did not want to ask too much of my friend.
Just found out I have covid and am isolating now. This plus the general energy drain has me concerned. I was really happy huffing the "pink clouds". Really only needed to get off 50% of my bullshit for that effect. Going to need to find inside stuff to do to keep the torch lit here.
falling-star
11mo ago
Thinking about how I'm feeling then narrating it. "There's a soft, fuzzy, buzzing sensation behind my eyeballs. It is pleasant. My lungs hurt a little from breathing hard. That is satisfying. The buzzing sensation has spread to around the top of my forehead. My head feels warm in a good way. I am pleased with myself feeling good through exercise. My thighs feel heavy but not very sore."
Make observations like above for ~10 minutes. Preferably while somewhere comfy. Additionally let yourself linger on or sink into positive feelings.
falling-star
11mo ago
I never had any luck on apps, but lately I've had more success talking to chicks at bars. I think a crucial ingredient here is I'm going with 1-3 other guys who are trying the same thing. That and talking to everyone, not just pretty chicks.
falling-star
11mo ago
If you hustle a lot to get involved with research and get good internships every year, you can get pretty good prospects. Don't get too obsessed with leetcode though, it's not super necessary and makes you insufferable.
falling-star
11mo ago
I’ve recently done a self improvement thing that was so ridiculously effective it’s going to sound like I’m selling a self help course. I’m not. Over the course of 6 days I went from borderline depressed and listless to being full of will, oozing charisma, and generally vibing. On day 7 I picked up a chick I just met and broke a year and a half long dry spell. First time I did anything like that.
The process is simple. Write down every thing you do and how you’ve feeling with time stamps. Send that shit to a trusted but physically distant friend once per day. I would write down everything I ate, every time I worked, every time I fucked around on the web, when I went to bed, when I went outside etc. In addition to showing it to my friend, I would read over the previous entries every morning. When I would consider doing something not great for me, I would remember I had to tell my friend. If I did it anyway, I would be reflecting more on it because I would be writing it down.
The silver bullet this clued me in on was going for runs, then focusing really intently on how my own head and body feel afterwards. I’m not sure if this is some form of grounding/embodiment or gratitude meditation. Normally a run is like a +2 to my mental state, the focus afterwards boosts it to a +6.
I made a few other small but extremely impactful routine changes. I’m not sure whether to call it charisma, force of personality, vibe, or just plain power level, but something about me is more now. People seem more drawn to me and often go out of their way to do me favors or give me things. I’m working much harder and to a higher standard at my day job. When I’m just fucking around and enjoying myself, I enjoy it more.
So any advice as to how to further increase this power level? This sounds like it’s getting towards New Age territory, so if possibly I’d like to minimize the woo.
falling-star
11mo ago
For some of us it's a matter of work hard play hard. Hedonism and ambition can be made compatible.
When marijuana was first legalized where I lived, it was a massive PITA to get it and there weren't that many dispensaries. The illegal trade still retained a huge portion of the market share. At a certain point, legal vs. illegal isn't what people are choosing based off. It also becomes convenient vs. inconvenient. If the above rules were put into place, you'd find no shortage of "beer guys" within the month.
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