janeerie
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janeerie
10mo ago
It allows people to choose how they want to live their lives. Many will make bad choices, many will be less happy than they otherwise would be, but one of my basic values is liberty/self determination. You may not value this as highly, in which case you would prefer stricter gender roles.
Women's lives used to be extremely constrained, with no opportunity to explore their potential. That's no way to treat half the world's humans.
janeerie
1yr ago
Yeah, the last thing I think about in relation to Elon is trans issues.
That said, these days I'm mostly just disappointed in Elon. I wouldn't boo him, but I wouldn't cheer him either.
janeerie
1yr ago
Very well said. I found the Offerman episode really lovely and it fleshed out the world.
I was disappointed with Ellie's romantic backstory, but that's because it missed the opportunity to show how a teenage female friendship can be so intense and all-encompassing without having a romantic element. That's the kind of story that doesn't get shown enough.
janeerie
11mo ago
Thirded. I have an anxiety disorder and have experienced all of these. Heck, I'm having a few right now, even though I've got this crap pretty much under control. It's also extremely likely that such a distressing physical event would spark panic attacks.
Find yourself a good SSRI!
janeerie
1yr ago
I think the reason feminists are interested in making periods non-taboo is because it's something we have to deal with regularly and need to make accommodations to our lifestyle to do so. It shouldn't be mortifying to buy tampons at the store or have an accident in public.
I don't think we need to go running around yelling "yay, periods!" but it would be nice if it weren't an unmentionable thing. We have no problem making jokes about poop in public, and that's just another bodily function.
janeerie
1yr ago
This is a good point - I see Christians on here, but I don't often see them using religious doctrine as an argument for/against something. I would hope that we push back against that when they do.
janeerie
1yr ago
Not OP, but considering the educational polarization happening in America (where the less educated are more likely to be on the right), it seems reasonable to think that superstitious beliefs will cluster on the right.
This is of course not universally true. There are plenty of nonscientific beliefs cherished by the left. But in my anecdotal experience living in red states, you're going to see a lot more distrust of "mainstream" science and medicine on the right. These people love their CBD oils and naturopaths.
janeerie
8mo ago
For a woman, a bit dumb and indicative of low self-esteem?
This nails it (cf. my 20-something self). I don't think morality comes into play so much as just poor decision-making. I'd say most woman grow out of it eventually, so it seems odd to judge one for her past.
janeerie
1yr ago
The writing manages to be pretty straightforward without feeling dry. It’s organized around discrete topics, so there isn’t really a narrative, but it reads quite smoothly.
janeerie
1yr ago
Galileo's Middle Finger by Alice Dreger. Parts of it read like a good mystery story, and I appreciate that it doesn't retread the usual culture war arguments. It's been a great read!
janeerie
1yr ago
I'm not really sure what boobs have to do with anything, but yes, it's entirely consistent to be pro-choice and pro-surrogacy since both stances allow women to choose what to do with their bodies.
It sounds like your objection is the exchange of money for these services (assuming you think adoption is ok)? This seems similar to the objection many have to allowing people to sell their organs. It's an intuition I personally can't relate to, but there are legitimate arguments about the ethics of the practice.
janeerie
8mo ago
Hi, I'm your wife.
Well, not really, but you sound just like my husband. I don't assign him tasks because he's not my child, but I hate that I have to do most things myself.
Why don't you just do stuff when it needs to be done? It's very easy to say "It doesn't need to be done now; I'll get to it later." My father-in-law does this all the time also. But then these things never actually get done. As with the example of the plane tickets, the sooner you buy them the better, so you should do it as soon as your travel plans are finalized.
It seems you understand this and the real question is how to make yourself do things, but the only answer to that is to just do them. I'm very curious why this is a stumbling block. Do you think of tasks and just have other things you'd rather do? How important are those other things? Do you just forget about tasks (in which case you need to be ok with your wife reminding you)?
janeerie
6mo ago
Caviezel is into QAnon and believes the elite cabal are extracting adrenochrome from children through torture. So the connection is not spurious.
janeerie
1yr ago
I think this is what has bothered me most about the people rushing to defend Musk. It's "the enemy of my enemy is my friend" mindset, and it's quite silly. There is no need to pick a side here. Both Musk and the people getting hysterical about Musk are acting like children.
janeerie
1yr ago
It seems like something the wonks have an interest in, but I don't see it in the general discourse. I would be surprised if my non-terminally-online family members or neighbors had a clue what it meant. I could be wrong though!
janeerie
1yr ago
As one of the last print newspaper subscribers, I've actually been really enjoying this story line (even though I disagree strongly with most of Adams' politics). I have wondered, though, how many readers know what the hell he's talking about. ESG is a pretty niche topic.
janeerie
8mo ago
I feel the same way, and so arguments like this are puzzling to me. I find the idea of an afterlife incredibly disturbing, and felt that way even when I was a Christian. At the time though, I did enjoy feeling that there was a God looking out for me.
janeerie
8mo ago
How about their present? How do they act now? How do they treat you and others?
When I met my husband, I never asked him about his history. I just observed how he behaved in our relationship. Seems pretty simple to me.
janeerie
10mo ago
Yes, I would be extremely put off by either of these suggestions. God, I am so glad I don't have to date anymore.
janeerie
11mo ago
My in-laws live with us, and my MIL has basically receded from life since age 75. Very overweight, can't hear very well, in pain all the time, and won't do anything to try to improve the situation. She has inspired me to make sure I never stop moving and thinking. My FIL is a little better because he helps take care of my son and does the cooking, but he could still stand to get out of the house more.
My own parents went into severe hibernation over the pandemic and still haven't come out, but they are at least staying active and taking care of their bodies.
One big difference between the two couples is class: my in-laws are blue-collar while my parents are white-collar. If I were to generalize from this tiny sample, I would say there is more of an expectation among white-collar groups that you will keep your shit together as you get older.
janeerie
1yr ago
I don't see how this follows. I'm a mottizan - why do I think the mottizan is a clown unless he is making bad arguments and saying stuff that isn't true?
Similarly, there are plenty of Catholics who I take quite seriously. The ones I don't take seriously are the ones who are acting like clowns.
janeerie
1yr ago
For me, it's more of an issue that being idle is bad for my mental health. I start spinning onto other problems to solve if I don't have something meaty to work on. I don't think being unemployed would be terrible (I'm sure I'd find something to do), but I'd just rather not.
I'm not going to assert that men or women had a great deal of liberty in the past, but there were still a much larger range of options open for men than women. Are you really going to argue that men and women had equal opportunity to higher education, the professions, property ownership, and elected office before the mid-Twentieth Century?
Yes, it's very nice that women didn't have to go to war and were allowed to donate their time to social movements, but they were the property of their fathers and husbands and had nothing of their own. That is the life of a child, not an adult.
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