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User ID: 1389

I'm de-facto jobless as-of this month, as my company I cofounded ceases operations. I realized I rushed too quickly into job seeking (potentially because I was seeking some validation I have value as I watch 4-5 years of work disappear into nothing), and I'm trying to back up and work a little on myself (+ spend more time with my daughter) before I start looking again.

There are a couple dimensions of my life and my health I'd like to improve, and I'm wondering if anyone here has any insight on any of them:

  • I've found myself masturbating and watching too much porn lately, probably because of more free time. I've always wanted to kick the porn habit (since I was a teenager), but have never found anything outside of momentary success. Does anyone have any advice on reasonable strategies here? I have no issues with masturbation, don't conform at all to the whole nofap nonsense, but instead have had an internally sourced (i.e. my wife knows about it and is fine with it) guilt-based relationship with porn most of my life that I think I ought to address.

  • I stopped meditating after a particularly bad retreat experience (+ increasingly painful daily sits before that), and I'd like to start-up again, but I sense a lot of inertia present as I attempt to establish a habit again.

  • Years ago, I had a really bad case of norovirus followed (a couple months later) by a skin infection that required fairly hardcore antibiotics. My gut has never been the same, I've had intermittent fatigue and diarrhea for years from it. Every single doctor I went to, early on, was judgy, unempathetic, and ultimately quite unhelpful, so I've not been back to doctors for a long time to try to figure things out. I've tried a lot of things personally but nothing has worked for longer than a couple weeks.

  • Anything anyone recommends I invest my time into with a bunch of free time? I'm running and going to the gym to lift 5-6 days a week nowadays, so I have a good exercise routine going.

Two questions come to mind here when considering CBT/REBT or any of the third-wave behaviorist therapies (ACT, DBT):

  1. What is the effect size? To me, the cost of undergoing any therapy (>$200+ out of pocket per session, much more in the city I live in) means that the effect has to be quite large.

  2. Researchers studying these therapies probably practice them incredibly well compared to baseline--how well does the average person fair when an average therapist is performing these techniques with them?

I'd guess that the top 10-1% of therapists achieve great outcomes for their patients regardless of methodology (talk vs ACT vs something else), and the bottom 90+% do either nothing or worse.

Echoing a thread from /r/slatestarcodex:

https://old.reddit.com/r/slatestarcodex/comments/y1b4wj/how_are_you_optimizing_your_home_for_health_and/

How are you optimizing your home for health and wellness? What initiatives constitute the best bang for your buck?

I particularly feel curious about peoples' thoughts on HEPA air filters and water filters: do you think the current research supports the purchase and continued operation of a HEPA filter at home? Does a HEPA filter's operation become more viable with infants or small children in the house?

It's the terminal state in the eventual capital-ization of everything. No one can do anything for pleasure anymore and share openly, all activities eventually must turn into a money generating scheme or they're ultimately not productive.

The open source software world feels like a peek into an alternate dimension of what the world could've been like: in few other places do people share so much toil and effort so openly with others.