lagrangian
11mo ago
I've written impassioned arguments against shaming fat people, in fact.
I think it's helpful to distinguish two behaviors:
- Shaming fat people: "hey lardo, put down the donut, you're gross"
- Being ashamed of fat people: "the other day, I saw lardo eating a donut, it was gross"
IIUC, you're addressing (1). (1) is actively directing sentiment at fat people. It's unkind for sure, and unlikely (?) to be helpful. Fat people aren't unaware they're fat.
I think (2) is more common, and that you may be conflating it with (1). (2) is a valid, common, reasonable, borderline inevitable way to feel. Any suggestion that people should strive to eliminate (2) is naive. People like beauty, health, and symmetry. The same reflex that makes us avoid corpses, shit, and disease makes us avoid obesity.
That doesn't mean we can't have empathy for the difficulty of losing weight, or the tribulations of being fat. Willpower is hard! Free will is a fuzzy concept at best. But, it also doesn't mean it's reasonable to want people to not have the disgust reaction they so commonly do - that's not the same as "shaming" fat people.
lagrangian
11mo ago
Then you can find people who exhibit amazing willpower in all facets of life, and yet are fat.
Can you though, with any significant frequency? I find a remarkable degree of correlation between being overweight and most negative traits/life outcomes, in others as well as in myself.
lagrangian
11mo ago
See /r/slatestarcodex discussion of prostate play. I think it's almost certainly the case that all men can enjoy this significantly, with a little learning curve, but do find the extent of e.g. that post's claims surprising.
lagrangian
11mo ago
Flowers - 11 colors of Alstroemeria tubers, 9 of which have poked their first green bits out. Here's hoping that having the 2x2x10' raised bed dug out, then filling it myself with a hilariously overengineered mixture of things, works out well enough to justify the effort.
lagrangian
11mo ago
That sounds reasonable, but the market often isn't. In fairness, my portfolio composition is still the 100% VFFSX it's always been, and I just chunked my whole bonus into it, so \shrug.
lagrangian
11mo ago
I sure hope so, but that's about the size of the 2000 and 2008 crashes, so it's not inconceivable.
lagrangian
11mo ago
GP said:
should be in safer assets anyway.
Safer not safe. Bonds will continue to grow in nominal dollars, where stocks could drop 50%+.
I could construct the argument:
"People smart enough to be in my social circles are more likely to be fat, but only because the ones that are both smart and fit are in higher status social circles."
But:
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