lagrangian
1yr ago
At some point, you have to directly address the issue with the reviewer or your/their manager. Some engineers waste time nitpicking at CR, don't stand for that shit. On the flip side, some people write shit code and need the mentoring, so the right move depends heavily on to what extent each possibility sounds like your situation. I eventually had to refuse to work with one guy over his wasting time code golfing shit at CR.
lagrangian
1yr ago
Both. I've tried five or ten anti anxiety meds - SSRI, Buspar, lavender, SNRI - and it's the only one that I like. Everything else made me spacy or depressed or sleepy.
I also like that it's easy/fast to titrate on/off. A few days should be enough to know if you like it. It should also be cheap and unlikely to raise flags.
Like everything else ever, may not be great for your appetite or dick.
lagrangian
1yr ago
Instead of 10k * 6.5M people, I think 100k * .65M people would work much better. 6.5M is 2% of the country, which might be rather destabilizing, especially if (likely) concentrated geographically.
Given the cost per capita of citizens in low income brackets, even if they're not involved in crime, you could bump that up greatly while still net spending the same. Back of the envelope, five trillion in US income taxes is 17k/person, or 170k/decade/person. Assuming half of people generate twice their share and half generate none and consume the other half's, you then double the per-person savings: 340k/decade.
Either my math is terrible, or you could give real near half a million bucks per person (100+340)!
over 9% of males can expect to be imprisoned in their lifetime
Wow, I would not have guessed. See source here, including racial breakdown: https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/Llgsfp.pdf
But, do note that the above is 1997 report using 1991 data. I believe rates are up since then, though, so I don't mean to disagree with your point.
lagrangian
11mo ago
In what is my new favorite excuse, ChatGPT told me wrongly, my apologies. Checking Wikipedia (ironically, given how often we were told not to do that at first), per capita peaked in ~2008 (including local jails).
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_incarceration_rate#Growth_and_Subsequent_Decline
year total per-100k
1940 0,264,834 201
1950 0,264,620 176
1960 0,346,015 193
1970 0,503,586 161
1980 0,503,586 220
1985 0,744,208 311
1990 1,148,702 457
1995 1,585,586 592
2000 1,937,482 683
2002 2,033,022 703
2004 2,135,335 725
2006 2,258,792 752
2008 2,307,504 755
2010 2,270,142 731
2012 2,228,424 707
2014 2,217,947 693
2016 2,157,800 666
2018 2,102,400 642
2020 1,675,400 505
I just have a single kind of sock. No need to pair them. Is your way bad? A little weird, but if the rest of your place is classy, seems negligible to me. If the rest is a mess, then it makes you look a shmidge worse, but on it's own, who cares?
lagrangian
11mo ago
I've been seeing a woman for two months now. Both early 30s. She's very busy with work (which often takes her out of town), but even so, we've had an all-day date each weekend. She's finally in town during the week, so we're getting dinner tonight. I think I'm going to ask her to be my girlfriend. We talked about things a couple dates ago and established that we're not seeing other people. I feel like exclusive and girlfriend aren't even very different, but a little. More expression of intent to grow things. It's not that we discussed and avoided bf/gf labels last time, we just didn't talk about it.
It's been a minute since I've gotten this far into things with someone. (Four years ago, a three month relationship; seven years ago, 7 months; some fucking the ex mixed in there...) And the last couple times I have, I felt like I had more sense that there was a reason things wouldn't work out. This one actually seems plausible, which is scary. It's not entirely clear to me how I feel about her, which is reasonable for two months. But it just makes me feel guilty, like am I just saying things and following steps because it seems like the thing to do (and also, sex)?. I don't think so, I really think there's something here, but feelings are confusing. Who knew.
We've both basically lived alone and had intense jobs forever. It's weird imagining fitting someone into my life, maybe even living with someone eventually. Weirder, I think I like the idea. This just in: even programmers are social mammals.
Also weird is that I'm in good shape and have money now. I've never been terrible on either front, but man, does seem to be helpful. How to split expenses is an awkward thing I haven't figured out yet, and I just don't care that much. She seems quite well off actually, for not being a programmer/doctor/lawyer. Also, hot. And not crazy. Didn't seem to particularly care for my briefly discussing the motte style politics, but also just doesn't seem to care about politics or generally be terminally online, which might be better than agreeing with me in the first place...
lagrangian
11mo ago
Showing your hand at this point may seem right, but in my view is just an effort at a dopamine hit. Which very likely may not get the desired reaction.
You might be right.
I asked, she said yes, but also something vaguely dismissive about labels in general. It didn't go super poorly, like she said yes, and I don't get the impression I'm going to wake up to a "hey sorry about this but". But I was hoping for it to be a little more... Romantic?
It seems like she is really intensely trying to find a life partner, and I'm vaguely skeptical that I would ever want to put up with someone forever. It's not that I go into a relationship hoping to break up with someone, but five for five, I have gotten bored and done just that. Life partner kind of sounds like a thing I would want, I'm definitely a boring suburban person and fond of routine. But also, the ADHD, it's a thing , so always hard to know if I am right about what I want.
lagrangian
10mo ago
I have physically removed the piezo speakers from most appliances in my life. It's often not that hard.
lagrangian
10mo ago
I wonder what the corresponding task you should set a man is? Perhaps very similar.
Several hundred hours of grinding leetcode is plausibly more degrading...
lagrangian
10mo ago
You may be thinking about super sayiin ultra orthodox/hasidic/haredi Jews, who are a minority of orthodox Jews (I think), who are a minority of Jews (I think). Orthodox Jews are wealthy:
Amongst Jews, in 2016, Modern Orthodox Jews had a median household income of $158,000, while Open Orthodoxy Jews had a median household income of $185,000 (compared to the American median household income of $59,000 in 2016)
lagrangian
10mo ago
My favorite thing to remember when things are atypically terrible: by definition, things are usually less terrible.
lagrangian
9mo ago
Withings sleep tracker. It's a pad that goes under your mattress. I doubt it's as good as a watch-based one, but I'm 100% guaranteed to use it every night. This means I have much more data to never look at or do anything with. I think it's good at tracking, snark aside.
lagrangian
9mo ago
Small automation tasks on my PC.
PyAutoGui for automating mouse/keyboard tasks (including browser), Selenium for more involved browser tasks (from Python or any language). A shmidge of bash/terminal/regex goes a very long way.
We have lots of programmers and aspiring programmers on here. Is there interest in my hosting a (possibly regular) "office hours" via discord etc? Career advice, code review, anything I can help with. --FAANGer
Edit: link is http://meet.google.com/ieq-zixv-xwf
lagrangian
9mo ago
Yes
Wow, ok, let's do it. Provisionally scheduled for Thursday 7/13 at 6:00pm Pacific. Google calendar/meet event here.
I'm open to other platforms/schedules if people have input. Barring that, I'll be in the call as scheduled. I will post a reminder in the Wednesday Wellness thread.
Edit: link is http://meet.google.com/ieq-zixv-xwf
lagrangian
9mo ago
Fascinating. I have held this to be true for a very long time, but your point seems to check out. The only counterargument I wonder about is if the dispersal is different in a way relevant to health risks. I.e., maybe Fukushima makes the immediate area very irradiated, but the Earth in general is ~unaffected, whereas coal makes the Earth in general relevantly more irradiated.
lagrangian
9mo ago
No info is required when signing up, at least for me (from the US)
lagrangian
9mo ago
I can pm you an account if you like, randomly generated or of your choosing
Signal boosting (albeit a bit late): Ask a FAANGer office hours scheduled for Thursday 7/13 at 6:00pm Pacific. Google meet link.
Edit: the markdown link handling has a bug. The link is meet.google.com/ieq-zixv-xwf
Edit2: current office hours population is three (including myself)
Edit3: had a second round of office hours, with three newcomers. Total people today: 7. Not bad! I will try again next week, probably at the same time.
lagrangian
9mo ago
How about http://meet.google.com/ieq-zixv-xwf
lagrangian
9mo ago
"barefoot" shoe trend
Check our Xero (prio/hanna being my favorites)
What about adding intuniv, a combo anxiety/adhd/blood pressure medication, to dex? I love the combo.
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