pigeonburger
4d ago
I think the main reason to hide your power level in this situation is that majority of women, especially in cities, are going to be at least tepidly liberal, probably just fully in line with mainstream liberalism. Liberal bubbles are extremely strong and their media dominance allows them to pretty much never have to meaningfully engage with opposing opinions; from your average city liberal's perspective, conservatives or anyone more conservative than maintstream neo-liberalism are either willingly ignorant morons or hateful.
If you can first make her realize that you are neither of those things, if you lead with the "actually a smart and caring guy" part and then reveal you're also moderate/conservative, then there's a pretty ok chance you'll burst her bubble. If you lead with the moderate/conservative, you'll likely just bounce right off.
pigeonburger
5d ago
I'm not sure I'd put this on kids or parenting attitudes. The important questions here are:
How foreseeable was this flooding? Is that a zone that historically floods? What was the worst ever flood there? Was this not the worst, only a bit worse than the worst ever, or like completely out of proportion with anything that ever happened in the area?
If it was reasonably foreseeable what was the plan to mitigate this risk and why did it fail?
And finally, if it was foreseeable and the plan was inadequate, whose idea was it to let kids in a vulnerable area there?
pigeonburger
3d ago
Exactly, until they have had a chance to actually interact meaningfully with you, women are going to be maximally uncharitable with anything you say on your profile. Because they can afford to, as "men willing to message them on apps" are not a scarce ressource at all for them. So if you mention anything about anime in your profile, especially if it's one with limited real estate (I don't know how Hinge works specifically), then they will assume that this means anime is a massive part of your identity, so their mental image of you will shift to that of a neckbeard weeb with waifu bodypillows..
It's the same as with the politics we were discussing in this thread too. Until there's a bit of time/emotional investment from her part, you want to avoid giving her any reason to reject you; because as far as she knows, somewhere in her inbox is a message from her perfect 10, 6'3, 8" cock, liberal surgeon/prince who shares all the same interests as her, so why would she waste any time trying to understand what kind of human being someone with any yellow flags at all is like?
Once she's met you, or had some meaninful communication with you that humanises you, that changes, of course.
pigeonburger
5d ago
So what exactly do you really believe is the parallel? First, is the increased budget for ICE an increase in the salary of ICE agents or more funding to accomplish their task? Because the second wouldn't make them feel any extra loyalty. Do you also seriously believe that Trump is planning or hoping that ICE is going to stand on his side against... the US military? All other state law enforcement? Seriously, state what you believe Trump is doing here and listen to yourself, and then realize why everyone is telling you this is just TDS. He's just funding the main tool he has to do something a majority of americans explicitely wants him to do, and which fuels his popularity.
pigeonburger
4d ago
I don't know about them coming back, I've had one most of my adult life, at different levels of kemptness (as of now, decently trimmed). At first it was because I was conforming to hipster fashion. I've experimented with my facial hair a fair bit, I've had handlebars even at some point. But now my wife would divorce me if I shaved my beard, and it conforms to image I have of myself, as a gruff and stern looking.
I'm also a sysadmin, so it's basically a uniform for me.
pigeonburger
4d ago
Do I need to persevere until my brain just gets it?
That's what worked for me.
pigeonburger
4d ago
Great advice list! Couldn't have said it better myself. Ultimately the overarching goal is communicating that you're a well-rounded and well-adjusted guy, everything you do on these apps should be done with that in mind and your advice goes a long way towards giving tips as to how to do so.
I have not watched John Wick 4, but that does sound like something Keanu Reeves would have asked to put in the movie, as a direct hommage to Zatoichi.
There was a discussion here recently about whether it was better to immerse yourself in the world of fiction or to be analytical of it. Personally, I think both are worthwhile, and the best works manage to give a good time to both modes of media consumption. Probably that inclusion was meant more for people who analyse the movie than those who want to believe in it.
I'll give you though that the John Wick movies have gotten steadily worse with each one, and I think it's for the simple reason that studio execs don't have restraint and cannot accept that perhaps sometimes you should not give what the public begs for.
The first movie's story was great because of how little they went into the assassin society stuff. It's there, but it's not the main thrust of the movie, it makes the movie feel richer by being hinted at. By the third movie, that's all there is left. Mystery is like spices in cooking. You put a bit of spices in your meal to make it taste better, you shouldn't just shovel spoonfuls of spices into your mouth. John Wick 2 was an overly spiced meal; still a meal, but they should have cut down on the spices. John Wick 3 was like shoveling spoonfuls of spices.
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