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RoyGBivensAction

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Married to a tomboy, so I have that going for me, which is nice.


				
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Married to a tomboy, so I have that going for me, which is nice.



				

				

				

				

				

					

					

					
					
					

					
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				Wellness Wednesday for September 9, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
If you wanted to ride the whirlwind, right after she first used the phrase, you should've said something like, "if you play your cards right, I'll show you some white supremacy," and then given her a deadpan-but-menacing look. (@Sloot can undoubtedly provide a much better line).


But seriously, you took the wise course. There is a certain type of woman whose behavior goes far beyond shit tests. It is sometimes presented in the context of "being a brat," but it involves behaving like a poorly socialized toddler and wanting a man who will put her in line. They are not happy unless all interactions are a power struggle where they can try to act however they want and the man has to corral them. Reasoning, cooperation, mutual respect, and the like all mean nothing. For them, a man must be able to make her submit to his authority, or he's weak and not worthy of her.


I have encountered several such women and found interactions with them exhausting. It seems like they are after physical violence (and I don't mean a fun spanking) because the bad behavior reaches a point where a backhand is the only correction. I'm a boring PMC white guy and my pimp hand is weak--using violence to keep a woman in line is not in my DNA. Aside from that, I'd also like to avoid DV convictions.


There is no long-term potential with women like that unless you're Iceberg Slim.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for September 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Yuddites is probably the most practical, but I think I prefer the Doomish (and like the Amish, it should always have "the" in front).


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for September 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I don't know what you're trying to say here.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for September 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I wonder if the chudjak bf has an engineering degree. Recently I learned that the "not asking personal questions" thing is a stereotype about engineers.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of September 7, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
That kind of bullying is routine in jury deliberations and doesn't rise to misconduct that would void a verdict. I listed a few cases on the issue before when juries were discussed.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of September 7, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I would prefer to be eaten first, not last.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for September 6, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Nor will we ever see such a candidate fail to garner some vague rape claims, often by large numbers of anonymous women.




One exception on this point: Romney.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for September 9, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Every single night, I go to bed feeling full and bloated. I can feel the contents of my stomach and it's uncomfortable to lay down on my back. I end up just laying there uncomfortable as fuck, not being able to fall asleep.




It's funny to read something like this (I have the same problem if I'm trying to eat big) when you can look around and see the average American has apparently no problem eating 3k+ calories per day and feeling full, if not bloated, most of the time. If I do a solid 3 meals per day, I'm still full from breakfast when I'm trying to eat lunch, and still full from lunch when trying to eat dinner. It's uncomfortable at best, but somehow all these people around me have discovered a way to power through...


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for September 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
KISS is fun, right? Everyone likes KISS.


Okay, maybe not, but I think they get way too much crap. Their '74-'77 material has the classic 70s dual guitar sound and is generally fun. Sure, they rapidly descended into rock star excess and became horrible parodies of themselves, but the early stuff has plenty of highlights.


Some videos from The Midnight Special in July 1975:


    

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    Deuce. Simmons almost rolls his ankle in his giant boots around 0:07 but recovers, so it's okay to laugh at the almost-disaster.
    

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    She. Note Frehley ripping some two-handed tapping during his solo.
    

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    Black Diamond. Simmons carefully moving the mic out of the way around 3:25 cracks me up.
    

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				Culture War Roundup for the week of September 7, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I was in undergrad in a small town in a very red state and about to head to class. I checked CNN site's for no particular reason that morning (it was not a habit of mine) and saw the news (when the site finally loaded).


I first thought, "this can't be real, this is from that Tom Clancy book."


Then I remembered the recent Onion article and thought, "well, we're fucked."


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of August 10, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


My sense is that the social and political capital possessed by these men helped protect them.




I note there's another thing your 3 examples have in common. I don't think that's what protected them, but it's curious that a commonality like that exists among the 3 scenarios that came to your mind.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for August 14, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
If by later period you mean '77-79, you're in luck as 2 releases so far have been from '77. Like the Dead, the Can live shows are very improv-heavy, so they're not typical "louder faster sloppier" live albums.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of August 10, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Bronies, channers, anime enthusiasts... I feel like Sam the Eagle sometimes.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for August 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Anakin: I'm in favor of community policing.


(filling the other panels left as an exercise to the reader)


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of August 10, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


This entire thread is reinforcing my already strongly-held impression that if you scratch a mottizen, a brony bleeds.




Learning that there are so many bronies makes me question the time I spend here.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for August 14, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Start with Krautrock, something repetitive to get me in the pedaling rhythm.




Have you been following the CAN archive releases? Or perhaps you knew them from the circulating bootlegs, but either way, some amazing stuff in there. The first release, Stuttgart 1975, remains my favorite.


Also, the Beat Club channel out of nowhere 2 weeks ago dropped new CAN footage from 1971: "Halleluhwah". The footage for "Paperhouse" has been around but as far as I know the new one was never previously available.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for August 14, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


still I’m gonna take the rec for your first film if only for the big knockers




A fellow man of refinement, I see.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for August 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Would you consider another branch of Law or are you burned out from the whole thing?




I would consider it, but as I live in a rural area (it's debatable whether @birb_cromble or I live more of a country mouse life), the options here are slim to none. I'd have to move to a city, which would bring all the negatives associated with that.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for August 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


This also describes friends, but I'm not sure even I have a ton of friends who would listen to me vent about things along those lines for as long as it takes for catharsis.




As mentioned in another reply, I only vent about these things to PD friends. I don't tell friends and family about work, and even my wife is occasionally surprised at things I do at work (like the amount of social work and mitigation gathering and stuff that doesn't seem like legal work at all) because I really, really don't talk about it.




Alternatively, I second the questions about whether you can switch to a less... visceral branch of law.




Not without relocating.




I just fucking know that if I had opted for law, I'd have turned to drink.




I don't even have that, as even mild drinking (like a glass of wine with dinner and then an after-dinner cocktail with friends) started to give me hangovers that wrecked the next day, so I'm a boring sober guy who doesn't even have stories of past alcoholic excess to go with it.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for August 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


It sure does reinforce my wish that public defenders like you got more cultural respect, though.




It's a good thing I get paid so much to make up for that lack of cultural respect... oh wait.


I don't expect much cultural respect from Red Tribers, but the decrease in cultural respect in the last 5ish years from the NPR liberal set is vaguely annoying.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for August 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


After a certain point, I almost felt like I was doing harm by telling them these horrible stories that they were not equipped to process or understand.




Aside from my other PD friends who deal with the same issues at work, I don't share what I experience at work with friends or family. As you note, they are not equipped to hear this stuff.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for August 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Today is one of those days where I wonder if I should be in some sort of counseling. And then I wonder what the point would be since the only truly actionable advice would be "find a new line of work."


I have been a public defender long enough that I now mostly have murder cases and sex cases (plus supervisory duties). My rural area is thankfully low on murders, but not so low on sex cases. It is generally possible to have semi-normal conversations with murder clients. It is almost impossible to do so with a 40yo man accused of having sex with a 13yo girl. Or a 30yo man accused of molesting his 8yo step-daughter. Or a 70yo man accused of molesting every child in the neighborhood. Or the pick-an-age man who has collected TB of CSAM, some of which is so appalling that just reading the description (much less having to actually see the videos) is something straight from the torment nexus.


Even for someone jaded by years of this work, it is wearing to hear the delusional and horrifying things they say. Some of them don't see anything wrong with what they've done, and some are even proud of it. And of course, if they're confessing to past actions they haven't been charged with, that's confidential information that goes to the grave with me. So they finally get to unburden themselves (or brag) and I can do nothing with it except store it away in my elephant's memory (I am not Funes the Memorious, but I remember far too much).


So there are days like today where I had custody visits with a number of my clients and it would be great if I could somehow memory wipe my time at work.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of August 10, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I don't think academia is a great position to be in long term.




It seems like I've been hearing something like this for 10+ years, yet academia stills seems to be around and the main gatekeeper of white collar/tech jobs. The system can stay irrational longer than you can stay alive, or whatever variant of that saying you prefer. What percentage of applicants are getting a white-collar/tech job with mid-corp, big corp, NGO, fed/state/local government, etc. without the piece of paper that says they can be a good boy/girl/them and follow the dictates of HR? As long as those areas demand the paper, academia will be strong enough to cause all kinds of problems.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for July 24, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Well, you don't need a million dollars to do nothing, man. Take a look at my cousin: he's broke, don't do shit.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 20, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
"In the interests of justice" isn't a judge thing, it's prosecutor-speak. That's the language they use when they file a motion to dismiss a case. It's intentionally vague because it can mean many different things.


It could be "there is new evidence indicating this defendant is innocent and we fucked up badly by charging him," "this case is going to fall apart because the victim is no longer cooperating," "the victim disappeared so we need more time to try to locate them and maybe we'll refile if they're found," "there is now a newly elected DA who doesn't want to waste time on a case this small," or "this case is now politically toxic and we want it to go away." Or dozens of other options.


Judges don't question the motion because regardless of the true reasons, if a prosecutor doesn't want to pursue a case, then practically speaking it's dead because there has to be a prosecutor for the case to proceed. The judge grants the dismissal (usually without prejudice meaning it can be re-filed if necessary) and everyone goes to work on other cases.