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IDK if my experience is relevant, but ...
As part of junior orientation at the math-and-science high school I attended, there was a dance. Having avoided all school dances up to that point, I decided to see what all the fuss was about, and also there were two girls I hadn't spoken to who went out of their way to find me beforehand to be first in line, so w/e. I had no experience or education on anything dance-related other than one squaredancing class in 4th grade PE, so the girls did the leading.
Going from "I bearly know your name" to hands on swaying hips for minutes at a time was kinda traumatizing and I spent the rest of the event curled into a ball on a bench trying to sleep.
This was 2004. This school also had a weird gimmicky rent-a-senior day, and all I remember about that was that someone used this to force an outspoken Republican student to stand in the cafeteria with a pro-Democrat sign at one point, and when I was in earshot, he reacted to one of the people wisecracking at him with "Yeah; we should just give everyone money," in a bitter voice. And I thought, "lol silly hyperbolic republican, acting like democrats want to give-everyone money." The slope seems way less slippery at the top.
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