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I think that men who are insecure (whether or rightly or wrongly) about their own sexual value on the market often fear and resent promiscuous women simply because the promiscuous woman is an extreme version of the already huge difference that these men feel between how easy it is for themselves to get laid and how easy it is for the average woman to get laid. Also, they fear the power differential in a relationship - they perceive that the woman could leave them at any moment and be fucking some other guy an hour later, meanwhile it might take them much longer to find a new sex partner. These fears are somewhat understandable, but become quite pathetic-looking when instead of being honestly acknowledged, they are instead wrapped up in some ideological cover such as religious LARPing, posting pictures of tradwives on social media, or performative misogyny meant to get likes from other men.
There are much healthier ways of dealing with this insecurity. For example: 1) maximizing one's own sexual value and game to the extent possible, 2) realizing that men and women have different kinds of advantages in the sexual marketplace and that it's not really a situation where women hold all the cards, 3) realizing that since women tend to not be as driven by constantly wanting to fuck hot new partners as men are, even a relatively promiscuous woman, if she actually is into you, is not necessarily going to ditch you to go bang some other guy who happened to wander by. And if she does, it's not the end of the world, there are plenty more women out there.
Very high status men don't need to feel any of this kind of insecurity to begin with. If a business mogul or rock star's hot partner leaves him, he can easily find a replacement an hour later, too. Very high status men generally don't spend their time chasing hot women, they spend their time fending off all the hot women who are throwing themselves at them. So these men just have much less psychological motivation to care about a woman's promiscuity than the average man does.
I agree strategies you outline are more realistic in this day and age. One individual cannot change the whole society, so it is "healthier" to adapt. It is still legitimate to wish the society was otherwise, because other societal equilibrium has been possible in the past.
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It's very big if, and response to it may vary over time.
I believe it's is psychologically much easier to maintain idyllic romantic notions of sex as this super special thing called "making love" (notion that is conductive to longterm monogamy) if you ever have sexual anything with one person.
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