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Gotta disagree, after decades of internet arguments I have lost any ability to tell genuine difference between two. Nearly every "true repulsion" is just a "temporary insecurity" according to someone else. "Not being into fat people"? There is a loud crowd of activists who will try to argue you into that its your social and cultural environment speaking, not ingrained psychological repulsion. Into monogamous relationships? Not difficult to find a polyadvocate who will argue its a temporary insecurity enlightened people learn to deal with it / it disappears. Repulsion to seeing two males being intimate? A different, overlapping crowd will argue that it is a temporary insecurity you need to deal with. Not gay? If you are good-looking man and go to gay bar, someone is likely to try arguing otherwise.
It is not limited to romance and sex either. I say it feels bad when I have less things and status than my peer group: one person will reply that it is a natural response to inequality, other will reply that I am just being jealous for no good reason. Don't like taxes? one person will reply that it is natural response to government taking money, others will argue that you have misguided idea about stealing.
Also, for whatever is worth, my opinion on skinny vs chubby is one of those responses that has changed over time (/anecdata)
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