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I interpreted @Goodguy's comment to mean that someone arguing for reducing women's liberties for the sake of improving their own dating prospects is loser-coded. Caesar and Augustus probably had more conservative sexual ethics than most western people do today, but I imagine that was for reasons other than worrying that they'd lose out to chad if women could choose their own suitors.
I think that the concern that either sex would chose the fleeting fun of an attractive partner instead of someone who's dutiful and pro social springs eternal, actually.
Parents have always feared this and will always fear this. They simply used to have more cultural power to enforce their will in societies that had or still have more tight knit familial bonds.
And moreover, the consequences of licentiousness used to be far more immediate and catastrophic for women before widespread contraception and on demand abortions. It's no surprise that the sexual revolution and the advent of that technology coincided.
Still, the more pernicious effects remain there and that includes the destabilizing effect of winner takes all harem dynamics.
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You are correct about my meaning. I probably should have made that more clear in my original comment.
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It's not "loser-coded" if you're just a loser. Nobody would even blink an eye at a poor person being for socialism, it's not even a great condemnation to note it. It's sort of a trivial statement that losers look like losers.
"Loser-coded" implies that the act itself carries the stench of failure and ressentiment no matter who does it.
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