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We were in an explicitly Christian homeschool group, and when I was young, my parents would take me to church and related events, weekly park meetups, and other homeschooling and church adjacent things. It was fine, I think. I don't remember too well. I was in Girl Scouts, with mixed results. I wasn't very good friends with the other girls, who went to a Christian school together. I tried attending the school for fifth grade, and dropped out after a semester, because it didn't help my social problems, and the curriculum wasn't anything better than I'd been doing at home. In retrospect, fifth grade is probably a bad time to try out school for the first time. I never tried again, but went to community college starting at 16, and liked it a lot. My husband was in Boy Scouts and had a much better experience, made it up to Eagle Scout level, but isn't sure about it anymore (and was in public school, so probably less socially needy). My parents are both bookish introverts, who did not enjoy public school and made few friends there.
That wasn't much of a problem for me, but I'm closer to the average interests and IQ than, for instance, Jason in the link, and my specialization is novels and art, so all my male friends in college could out-nerd me. Also, I joined the Orthodox Church (literally Byzantine liturgics) at that time, and everyone my age there out-nerded me all the time.
I guess my main experience has been that it's important to go find the little pockets of quirky book people, and move there. I've moved a fair bit in my 20s. There are all these interesting little subcultures, interesting little Great Books colleges, interesting little bookstores that run their own seminars, all sorts of things, and I just had to kind of follow them around. My husband and I are very high in trait Openess, and we've discussed that if the kids are having a lot of trouble in the local environments, we'd probably try moving, perhaps countries, or at least across several states, as close to a first resort. Which has mostly worked for me as an adult, anyway.
Edit: Ha, my mom talks about learning to read at three, by her father "reading the newspaper to her." She was especially unhappy that mandatory bussing (there weren't even black neighborhoods, it was just because that's what the other cities were doing) disrupted her ability to even get decent friendships out of school, or bike there and back herself
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