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A lot of the complaints I see online are based on perceived double standards. Height vs weight is a cliche in the gender wars.
Incels are the ones that emphasize looks the most and imo it's backwards. They're upset at failing , so they construct an ego protection ideology that states that looks are all that matter (therefore it's not their fault - everyone else is shallow). They did not start out believing it was all-important.
Except the entire "body acceptance" movement and complaining about "unfair beauty standards". People upset by basic inequity in looks exist across the spectrum but the female half seems to be vastly more visible and prestigious.
This is basically the inverse to TRP's "women always want a high value male and many just refuse to lower their standards instead of dying alone" theory. Some of them also say that men are relatively simple about their needs (the implication being that women are almost immorally fussy about dating), just to make the parallel stronger.
I think both of these are dubious and, frankly, there seems to be an element of spite to them. Maybe I'm just an optimist, but I think most people don't hang all their hopes on dating an Instamodel or having Tom Hiddleston make them eggs in the morning before handing them a Centrum and let this actively ruin their actual prospects.
Sure, if you ask them that's what they'd want. If they're just consuming a fantasy (which is what Onlyfans and ads are) then that's what they'll buy but the calculus of real life speaks pretty loudly to most of us, very early.
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