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Small-Scale Question Sunday for December 4, 2022

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Is GPU Direct Storage for nvme drives going to make GPU memory less important for AI tasks? Would it be advisable to wait and see how it pans out before buying a new GPU?

Anyone watched Solar Opposites? It's a Justin Roiland cartoon with a similar look to Rick & Morty but is a lot lighter and more fun. It doesn't suffer from the euphoric, grimdark, nihilistic worldview I dislike in Rick & Morty. I was pleasantly surprised by the ongoing subplot that is woven into the show as well. It's a good "serious" counterbalance to the total silliness of the main plot.

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I still chuckle at Gazorpazorpfield and Two Brothers. I love how much fun they had recording that episode.

Interesting because the sheer silliness of Rick and Morty is the prime reason why I haven't been able to get into it. I'm very comfortable with entertainment that plays with themes of existential dread and nihilism (SOMA, Blindsight and It's Such A Beautiful Day being some of the examples I enjoy the most).

The problem for me is that the best media that tackles these themes actually drive their point home and makes you feel it in your gut on a deep level. R&M on the other hand exists on so many levels of silly absurdist irony that any of the themes it wants to convey often get completely defanged in the process, and it leans so far into it that most of the scenes with any amount of seriousness to them end up suffering because they don't feel like a natural extension of what was occurring before. Also, sometimes the characters just straight-up spout "Nothing matters" quotes which seems overly on-the-nose to me. Outright spelling out your themes to the audience like that is generally a bad idea.

With regards to the immorality of the characters that you mentioned, I would agree that the characters are not people you should look up to, but I actually think the show hammers this home pretty abundantly. I don't think this element of R&M undermines the show, either - I think fiction that's filled with amoral characters or even downright terrible people can be fine pieces of entertainment which are all the better because of the moral greyness of the world presented. Shows like Breaking Bad, films like Joker and books like Blood Meridian are prime examples of this. Rather, R&M simply fails at properly conveying the themes it's based around, and presents it in a 100-levels-of-irony manner which I really can't help but tire of extremely quickly.

The problem for me is that the best media that tackles these themes actually drive their point home and makes you feel it in your gut on a deep level. R&M on the other hand exists on so many levels of silly absurdist irony that any of the themes it wants to convey often get completely defanged in the process

Completely agree.

Shows like Breaking Bad, films like Joker and books like Blood Meridian are prime examples of this.

In addition to the moral grayness, these works treat seriously the terrible emptiness and horror of deep cynicism and nihilism. R&M (the show) comes across as a college freshman level take, the work of someone who has lived a comfortable life and who wears nihilism as a fashion accessory rather than of someone who has peered deep into the human soul and seen despair, loneliness, and the twisted curvature into one's own self, consumption by one's own vices. Which is probably okay because R&M is at root supposed to be a silly cartoon. But it still sometimes pretends to be more than it is.

I think that Rick and Morty's goofy Shmoopy-Doop soul owes way more to Roiland than Harmon. Also, based on the changing DVD Commentaries, I think Harmon went low-effort and now the writer's room exists to launder people's neices and nephews. (A bunch of writers who go on to get shitty streaming shows have mediocre later-season rick-and-morty episodes as their only significant credit).

[Harmons] get lazy, and they [bring in guest writers].

And then the guest writers bring in guest writers and eventually...there be Season 4.

Also, your repeated emphasis on Nihilism says to me you've been watching too many YouTube video essays on how great Rick and Morty season 1 is because of it's Themes. Get away from this sort of content.

I actually see a lot of the 4chan style of geek humor in Solar Opposites; the contempt for the modern/normie world, the utter refusal to believe that everyone else hasn't seen the films/TV you've seen, the intentionally arch, tropey Wall story feels like a rushed shitpost. The aliens themselves look like laundered Pepes.

Also, your repeated emphasis on Nihilism says to me you've been watching too many YouTube video essays on how great Rick and Morty season 1 is because of it's Themes. Get away from this sort of content.

I never watch YouTube video essays, or YouTube videos at all for that matter. I don't even read text essays about movies, games or TV shows, except for what people write here on The Motte. You might want to recalibrate.

I actually see a lot of the 4chan style of geek humor in Solar Opposites

Yeah, I see the same. But I think the show is self conscious about its 4chanesque characteristics, while R&M is like a Redditor who thinks he's an original, "misunderstood genius" and is not self aware. I actually only understand maybe 30% of the movie and TV references in Solar Opposites, but the rest of the jokes land well enough that it doesn't matter.

I just miss the episodes where Rick's solution to problems was to hit the problem with a blunt object and shout "Run, Morty!"

Now he just flips out augs. Rick's Inspector Gadget augs enable lazy writing.

For sure. He got Flanderized from "alcoholic dirtbag mad scientist in over his head" to "demigod murderhobo with plot armor." The former was a lot funnier.

demigod

Season 1 episode 2 is where he creates sapient life, uplifting clay a dog, and he takes it far enough past ordinary human intelligence that the cyborg-dog himself is able to uplift others.

murderhobo

Season 1 episode 1 act 1 is about a (brief drunken) plan of his to wipe out life on Earth. Episode 3 is where he literally gets a hobo murdered via the underpaid adventurer mercenary his partnership hired. By episode 6 he's gone full hobo himself, skipping town dimension to escape the mutated+slaughtered Earth he inadvertently created.

plot armor

I think Ep6 was already a pretty solid consequence-free escape, but by episode 9 he outsmarts and beats up Satan.

The whole "demigod murderhobo with plot armor" thing is naturally a little offputting to many people and a lot offputting to everyone else, but the show always printed it right on the tin.

was a lot funnier

The show's gone downhill, but I think the main explanation is just the prosaic one that applies to any show: the writers use their best ideas first, because why would you save something for season 6 when you don't even know if you're going to be renewed for season 2, but then by the time you get to season 6 you're trying to choose between your 52th-best set of ideas and your 53rd-best...

The only Rick-and-Morty-specific problem I've noticed is that they hate continuity, so much that they'll write fourth-wall-breaking rants about how much they hate continuity, but there's only so much pleading to the contrary they can take from the audience before they start throwing a few bones, and so now they're having to throw in the arc-plot episodes they despise ... and even in the rest of the episodes they're probably constantly worrying whether each and every plot point is too grossly inconsistent with every ass-pull tech they came up with three seasons earlier.

Edit: I just saw your

I still chuckle at Gazorpazorpfield and Two Brothers

below, and I think Two Brothers might be the best example of what I'm talking about at the end. That weird underproduced ad lib, the sort of thing you'd expect to either get upgraded to "rough draft" or downgraded to "cuttting room floor" rather than animated straight-out, and yet it's so funny in part because you can tell they're having so much fun with it! They don't seem to be enjoying themselves as much anymore. That's understandable, since they started with this horribly dysfunctional cast of characters that doesn't make mixing "having loads of fun" and "honest close introspection" easily, but I can see how the "loads of fun" crowd might be especially disappointed.

What are the actually useful applications of ChatGPT? I see a lot of people playing around with it and having fun, but I'm having trouble thinking of anything good this tool could actually provide to us. The downsides are quite obvious (a big one for me is that now I will always be wondering if the text I am reading was generated by a bot).

I write kinky transformation stories, and it's fairly competent at coming up with new plots along these lines if you prompt it with the right sort of things that don't ring any alarm bells for the content moderation of ChatGPT.

So far I've used it for:

  1. Lesson plans (mock trial of Odysseus)

  2. Supplying grant application filler

  3. Automate some accounting forensic tasks (what is this transaction)

  4. Poking around some quantum physics concepts for hard sci-fi worldbuilding

My girlfriend is a manager at big tech co. She spends hours per week agonizing over the wording on various documents that she has to submit to the corporate bureaucracy. (Yes, we both know this is pointless). I showed her chat GPT and we both agreed that it could speed up the process of producing nice-sounding boilerplate.

Customer support?

I haven't used it, but if they fed it libraries and historical documents, it could bring to light a lot of information which no-one has the time to go through. Frankly I'm more worried about the downsides for now though.

I've been using it for finishing up code that has tedious parts, but that aren't easy to automate quickly.

As well, it is reasonable competent at translating between programming languages, and I used that earlier for a case where I needed to use some API I had written a wrapper in Rust for and I needed it in JavaScript for a web-page.

It is reasonably competent at explaining various topics, at times in a better and more direct way than wikipedia or other sites (especially since a lot of sites pad their explanations).

Though, this was already available with OpenAI's other major models.

So, to me this seems like it has the potential to be an actually useful personal-assistant. Especially once people start hooking up to APIs to do stuff for you. Though, I hope they'll allow some ways of finetuning (or something similar) on content you give it, so I can specialize it for what I'm doing.

I jokingly asked for it to concot a recipe for a humorous inside joke dish often mentioned among friends, and am now thinking whether I should try what it gave me.

You're exactly the kind of person to let the AI out of the box.

I then asked it to create a story on the basis of another inside joke meme and it was stumped completely.

(edit: apparently this is because the word 'poop' is too naught for ChatGPT, though.)

Terms:

H/M/L (high,mid,low) R (ranked)

  • High: Ranked 100 or above.

  • Mid: Ranked 600 or above.

  • Low: Ranked 600 or below.

Why is calculus in university so computationally hard?

I tutor university students in introductory math courses as a side hustle, and a pattern I noticed is that you can more or less approximate how "prestigious" a university is by ranking the difficulty of their calculus 1,2 courses/exams. My observations should apply to universities in North America and Canada because most of the exam papers I see are from there.

For example, if you want to integrate a polynomial fraction, the most common questions involve completing the square, long division, and partial fraction decomposition. In my observation, LR unis will have questions requiring only one technique. MR will have two. And HR will often have all 3.

However, this trend does not hold for any other math course. Let that be Linear Algebra, Stats, or Diff Eq. A good chunk of LR unis has much harder stats and differential equation classes than the MR ones. HR unis are consistently difficult.

For example here is a Lin Algb exam from the University of Waterloo. An HR/MR (Engineering HR no questions about it) university. This Lin Algb exam is about the same difficulty I had in my MR uni. But their calculus exams are way harder.

If this pattern is true, is this some administrative artifact? Cal 1,2 are common "weed out" courses. And I assume given the large number of students from various departments that have to take them, there are more voices than the math department deciding the course content?

Moreover, why are so many calculus questions testing algebra skills? I went to an MR uni, and I never had to use anything more complex than a partial fraction decomposition when solving an integral in a higher-level course (For everything else it was Laplace/Fourier transform all the way down). And lin algb and stats and complex analysis or any nonintroductory math classes did not rely as much on raw algebra skills as cal 1,2.

For example, if you want to integrate a polynomial fraction, the most common questions involve completing the square, long division, and partial fraction decomposition. In my observation, LR unis will have questions requiring only one technique. MR will have two. And HR will often have all 3.

Which one of these tasks is computationally hard? Linear algebra and statistics have been the most computationally intensive courses I've taken. Multiplying two 4x4 matrices is 16 * (4 + 3) = 112 additions or multiplications. Computing standard deviation for a sizable dataset is, again, a lot of arithmetics. And in uni calculus most questions have an answer that reduces to something neat, so if you get an unwieldy polynomial for an answer you've probably made a mistake. A matrix or a sigma looks just like any other value you can get.

I meant relatively. Subjectivity withstanding.

None of them are particularly hard. But I have seen polynomial fractions that look fairly unwieldy and need 2 of the following to simplify. Subjectively that is more computationally intensive than just multiplying and adding a lot of numbers.

Also, your professor is insane for putting matrix multiplication on exams, it's just wasting time; if you can multiply 2 2x2 matrices, you can multiply any mxn matrices. There is nothing gained other than knowing how to add/multiply numbers fast. My lin algb exams were very theoretical and didn't require crazy computation.

If you're looking at linear algebra as the study of matrices then you're thinking about it in completely the wrong way. Linear algebra is the study of linear maps from vector spaces to other vector spaces, end of. The book "Linear Algebra done right": https://www.amazon.co.uk/Linear-Algebra-Right-Undergraduate-Mathematics/dp/0387982582 is a very good teaching aid, it explains what's actually going on properly while minimising matrix bullshit.

I think so as well. Which is why I said its insane to include large matrix multiplications in a lin alg exam.

Moreover, why are so many calculus questions testing algebra skills? I went to an MR uni, and I never had to use anything more complex than a partial fraction decomposition when solving an integral in a higher-level course

partial fraction decomposition is algebra though

If the school is not huge, there is minimal coordination above Calc 2 so it’s mostly run to the instructor’s taste. Instructors vary a lot.

However, this trend does not hold for any other math course

WRT "weed-out course": does this hold over time? If what some posters here have mentioned is true- that high school is far too easy (I remember being shown a scatter plot of "high school math grades" vs. "Calc 1 grades" in a pointless university class a while ago; there was no correlation)- we should expect to see the exams from 1960 be easier computationally than they are in 2020. Is that the case?

Why is calculus in university so computationally hard?

Because the university was bad at naming a course that should have just been called "advanced principles of algebra"? The fundamental theory behind calculus is relatively easy to understand to the point that even today's grade school calculus courses cover it in its entirety; there's very little to expand upon after that. And all the other courses are generally just applications of calculus, taught by people that know those applications, and by that point you're out of the academic hazing ritual anyway, so...

Worm?

Succession - all the younger characters try (and sometimes succeed) at becoming more ruthless.

The Great

I love those types of shows too… I highly recommend Mad Men and The White Lotus if you haven’t watched either. Guessing you would also enjoy the BBC anthology series Inside No. 9 - there’s an episode called “Tom and Gerri” that’s pretty close to what you’re describing.

Spoilers for Mad Men, but I think it depends on who you consider the protagonist. From episode 1 Don is already pretty ruthless and confident. Peggy on the other hand is an excellent example of this slide/rise (also quite a few of the supporting characters).

Agreed, tho later on you see Don was very unsure of himself when younger. But those are not most scenes

That character description brings to my mind the Borgen (Scandinavian political drama about the ascent of a fictional centre left female prime minister) and the Peep Show (cult British comedy about two English dudes having a shitty modern life). They are extremely different shows from each other obviously but each has amazing character development. Hell, the peep show seasons are so far apart from each other that the actors literally get older with the characters as they progress through life.

The original House of Cards from the UK.

So, what are you reading?

Still on Dorian Gray. It's certainly an experience.

No Treasure Island (Остров без сокровищ), an attempt to deduce the secret meanings R. L. Stevenson supposedly inlaid into Treasure Island through analyzing inconsistencies in narrative. It makes a case that Jim Hawkins' side of the story was heavily edited to avoid prosecution, that the crew's mutiny was largely entrapment by Livesey and that Livesey is not a real physician, among other things.

Is there a name for this Russian cynical parody genre? I only know it as "The Last Ringbearer" style.

I'm not sure this one is an example of "cynical parody".

I quit The Vampire Chronicles by Anne Rice on book five, now I'm onto The Boreal Moon Trilogy. It's pretty good standard fantasy, even if it's pretty bad about info dumping here and there.

I've started reading Kurt Schlichter’s Kelly Turnbull series (yes, the protagonist's name seems rather odd to me). At a surface level, it's a fairly standard thriller series with a strong Red Team tint to it. Most of the standard thriller tropes are present along with the expected potshots at Blue Team.

The really interesting part IMO is the portrayal of exactly how America falling apart might look. So far it seems to change a bit from book to book depending on what current events happened around the time each one was written. I feel like I ought to write a summary of it with some points of criticism and possible agreement, but I think I'd rather wait until I actually finish the series first to get a fuller idea of how it's portrayed.

Albion's Seed. Scott Alexander's essay about it really stuck with me, and the book is just as interesting as he makes it sound. Every night I bombard my husband with fun facts about how crazy the Puritans were.

How do you find the writing and style? From the bit about your husband it sounds engaging.

The writing manages to be pretty straightforward without feeling dry. It’s organized around discrete topics, so there isn’t really a narrative, but it reads quite smoothly.

Thanks! I'll look into getting a paper copy.

As a Delaware Valley Quaker with a Scots-Irish best friend that book was positively eerily familiar. I was expecting interesting facts and instead simply felt uncomfortably seen. The audiobook also perfectly recreates the rhythmic cadence of a proper silent meeting.

The Seven: The Lives and Legacies of the Founding Fathers of the Irish Republic, tells the story of the seven signatories of the 'Proclamation of The Republic', the people who led the Easter Rising of 1916: Thomas J. Clarke, Seán Mac Diarmada, Thomas MacDonagh. P. H. Pearse. Éamonn Ceannt, James Connolly and Joseph Plunkett.

I'd disagree somewhat with them being called the 'Founding Fathers' given that they were all dead before the Irish Free State was formed, but they certainly inspired a lot of people and got the ball rolling on violent resistance. And 'trying to get the ball rolling' well describes a good portion of their lives, the popularity violent resistance was at a low point at the turn of the century as Irish nationalists were making significant gains working within the system (or in the case of boycotts and rent strikes, partially within it). Nevertheless they started newspapers, travelled to America to procure funds from sympathetic Irish-Americans, groomed protégés, subverted other nationalist organisations to their ends, waited for the right moment to strike, and eventually got their wish of emulating nationalist heroes like Robert Emmet and Wolfe Tone in being sentenced to death after a failed rebellion.

One thing the book doesn't do is try to justify their ambitions. The term 'Anglophobic' is used a lot, and you get the impression that all it took was for them to be radicalised by a school teacher or parent for an unshakeable hatred of Britain to be formed* although the spectrum ranges from uncomplicated radical and would-be terrorist Thomas J. Clarke, to Patrick Pearse, half-English romantic and intellectual who was known to James Joyce (who disliked him) and W.B Yeats. Pearse is also one of the best writers I have found as a result of this dive into history, alongside Terence MacSwiney.

Clarke's spell in jail provides a good example of the predicament Irish-nationalists posed from the British side: execute them and they become martyrs, exile them and they either escape or stir up trouble abroad, imprison them and they become sympathetic figures who clearly aren't the real culprits according to the newspapers and MPs courting the Irish vote (this was a thing in Britain just as it was in America), let them out of prison after 15 years and they seem to be just as single-mindedly devoted to being your enemy as they were in their 20s.

The second Boer war gets mentioned a lot too. Clarke's father was a British army sergeant in South Africa until the family returned to Ireland in 1865, but by the time the events of the book were taking place Irish opinion was firmly on the side of the Boers (the "Fusilier's Arch" in Dublin dedicated to the members of the Royal Dublin Fusiliers who died in the Second Boer War is also known as the "Traitor's Gate"), Clarke even named his dog Kruger.

I still have to get through reading about Ceannt, Connolly and Plunkett which I'm looking forward to.

*Alexander Martin Sullivan's The Story of Ireland was an apparent favourite among schoolteachers at the time, and was enough to convice Dan Breen and his friends to set up a basically autonomous IRA squad as soon as they were finished school. Iirc it was torn apart by later Irish historians but I'd like to read it to see if it's where Breen got the strange phrasing he uses when he describes people selling out for the 'Saxon gold'. I'm surprised the British authorities let teachers get away with that stuff, but then again I'm not sure how much teaching was done in the National Schools (which Pearse accuses of trying to mold people into good English boys) and how much was done unofficially.

"Raw Egg Nationalism" by Raw Egg Nationalist. I'm about halfway through.

Definitely a pop history/nutrition book, but one that is interesting because it continues in the vein of "Against the Grain" to tell a new story about the Neolithic Revolution that involves a decline in freedom, health, and living standards among hunter gatherers who were forced into agricultural servitude in early city states. He draws parallels between this event and the ongoing efforts by the WEF to bring about a future where we "own nothing, live in the pod, and eat the bugs." He predicts that the new climate-friendly plant based diet will have similar disastrous consequences for human health, freedom ,and flourishing.

So far the most interesting part has been the description of the WEF and its far reaching, many tentacled influence. Bill Gates, Larry Fink, Unilever, Google, and NYU are just a few of the powerful people and organizations that are onboard with the WEF or its food system reform lobbying arm, the EAT Foundation. I had always thought that the WEF stuff was just spooky smoke and shadows, but it appears that it actually does have quiet a long reach and large amount of influence.

I expect REN's conclusion will be that we need to eat non-processed foods to improve our health, including a lot of meat and animal products, and to buy them locally to avoid funding large agricultural conglomerates, many of which apparently cooperate with the WEF/EAT and ESG intiatives.

REN's writing is passable but suffers from some repetition and too many filler words and clauses -- he could have benefited a more aggressive editor. I find myself skimming pages fairly quickly since the content is not too dense. Probably worth reading if you want something light or are looking for an introduction to these topics for "normies."

Does anyone have any general advice on picking an engagement ring? I'll be proposing soon and I honestly have no idea where to start. I assume that walking into a local jewelry store is the easiest way to do this but also by far the most expensive. Is there a better way?

Is there a better way?

Yes, there is a better way - spending your money on something of actual value.

If gf wants a diamond, explain to her history and present of diamond industry, explain to her the masterful psyop that equated love with gifting your monthly wage (formerly, now it is supposed to be three months) to mafia yakuza drug cartel De Beers corporation.

gf still wants a diamond?

Explain to her that you cannot sell a diamond except at 90% loss (if lucky), explain that diamond is not investment that appreciates, that diamond is not store of value, that diamond is pure money sink.

gf still wants a diamond?

Explain to her that cubic zirconium indistinguishable from diamond provides all benefits of diamond (impressing some species of birds and people with bird brains who are impressed with bright shiny things and being prime target for criminals) at 1/100 price.

gf still wants a diamond?

Replace gf, unless you want to be slave of TV advertising for life.

De Beers and the Diamond companies might have pulled a fast one, but they did so successfully. The real important dynamic is not between her and the De Beers company but between her and her female friends/family. If she's the type to relish rubbing the pointlessness of diamonds into the faces of her friends and family that ask about the ring, more power to her. But if she is only going to give those stock answers when the subject comes up and secretly be ashamed of her cubic zirconium ring, even though the savings went into buying a car or having a thousand better meals, then you're making a meaningful tradeoff here even if doing what is locally best for you benefits some assholes with a monopoly.

Kind people of the Motte, do not follow this person's advice. The fact that it ends with "dump your fiancee over not holding this particular fringe view" may clue you in to how very bad of advice it is. If your girl wants a diamond ring then you go get a suitable one.

This terrible advice. An engagement ring is a gift. And when you are giving a gift, it doesn't matter what you think. What matters is what the recipient would like/value. If she wants a diamond, you get her a diamond regardless of what you personally think on the subject.

This is excellent advice for anyone who is currently engaged to and planning on marrying a man. All of those rational explanations will be very convincing if we make the one small assumption that his fiance is, in fact, a bearded adult male who will nod sagely and propose to spend the money on matching rifles and a sensible investment portfolio instead.

Unfortunately it may not be the best route to avoiding hurt feelings if he's for some reason planning on marrying a woman.

Yes, quality firearms are solid store of value at worst, appreciating asset at best, unlike shiney stones ;-)

BTW, do not mistake me for dour puritan hating all luxury, there is nothing wrong with jewelry - trad gold and silver that serves as store of value for bad times, not modern diamond fraud.

Forgive my rant, I know that there are much worse thing going on in the world than diamond industry, but this particular scam somehow triggers me.

(even many hard right wingers feel this way, you do not have to be leftist (if you see me as leftist) to despise such business)

https://www.peakstupidity.com/index.php?post=378

https://www.peakstupidity.com/index.php?post=379

https://www.peakstupidity.com/index.php?post=380

Well apparently if her feelings are hurt by this approach you should dump her. So... it won't be a problem for long I guess? But it is an excellent fast track approach for staying single, so I guess there's that.

I talked to a couple of my married friends and got a recommendation for a guy. Cross check the price of stones but you are going to get screwed a pretty industry standard level any reasonable place you go. You're committing to spend your life with someone, don't let the ring be the thing you spend the most time thinking about. The ring vender will do a consultation and walk you through the 4Cs of diamonds or whatever, balance the different factors to your taste and pick a setting that fits you/her style broadly. I like simple stuff so hers was very simple with a striking stone. Your budget is going to define a lot of this and the person you're buying the ring from should be able to frankly work with you. There is a little bit of haggling involved depending on the type of store you're at, you'll have to read the room on that but you're talking more on the order of 5-10% than 50%.

Get help from your beloved on the basics does she want a solitaire, what metal to use for the ring, maybe some cut suggestions, does she want a traditional diamond or something more experimental etc.

Blue nile has lower markups and lots more possibilities for stone options but when I was shopping only a few settings.

Pay for cut then carats, first and worry less about clarity and color until you go down several grades. The difference between excellent clarity and colorless and good clarity and slight color are mostly noticed by jewelers while a good cut will have more brilliance and make the light more eye-catching.

Going just under a round number (0.49 or 0.99 or 1.49 or 1.99 carats cuts the price more than it should) is a good way to save a little bit more when you're close.

My now-husband let me lead the ring shopping in a way. We discussed prices, band material, and stones and went to jewelry stores together to figure out what I like when it comes to size, style, and material (read - color). I didn’t point to a ring and say, “this one,” but I did pick a few as at least examples for him. He ended up choosing one of those we both really liked. I was still surprised by his choice (though it was my #1) and his proposal. Proposals are memorable, special moments even without being a surprise.

I recommend this method if your future fiancé is amenable to it. Don’t go fiddling in the dark about something she may be wearing for the rest of her life.

Personally, I did some shopping around on my own, and picked out something I thought my wife would like. Then I took her ring shopping, but went to other stores. That way I could see what kind of style ring she liked, without tipping my hand as to what exactly she might get.

Some might say that it should be a surprise, but IMO if you guys are ready to get married it shouldn't be that much of a surprise when you get engaged. The specific time and place can be a surprise of course, but it shouldn't be a shock that you're proposing at all. So I don't think you really ruin the surprise that much if you take your girlfriend shopping to get ideas.

I bought a lab sapphire set in gold on Etsy for a few hundred dollars and my fiance loved it (it was a surprise). Your mileage may vary.

Overall I found that the products from companies like Blue Nile were way overpriced and what was reasonably priced was not very aesthetic. The selection on Etsy was much better IMO.

I don't have much advice about picking out a ring, but I do want to drop this data- spending more on an engagement ring is correlated with a higher likelihood of divorce. Obviously this probably is not because more expensive rings cause divorce, but it's worth pointing to as a reason not to stress out too much about the process of buying a ring(I am assuming that buying a more expensive ring correlated quite strongly with putting more import on the ring, but I feel like that assumption is sort of a null hypothesis).

https://www.nbcnews.com/better/business/diamonds-aren-t-forever-why-cheaper-engagement-rings-may-mean-ncna892266

Depends a lot on who you're proposing to. My own advice would be to establish a budget, discuss that budget with your desired spouse, and then have them participate in ring selection. This may be accomplished in more- and less-obfuscated ways, depending on how much of a "surprise" your desired spouse is going to insist on feeling when you pop the question. But my own experience is that people who value emotional moments like sudden surprise over communication, transparency, and mutual fulfillment are off to a rough start anyway.

Use your eyes and ears. Learn what your GF wants. Is she a fan of perfect weddings with color themes, strict dress codes, multi-layered cakes, hundreds of guests, the whole shebang? Then you are probably stuck with a diamond ring. If she wants a small wedding or an unusual wedding (and by that I mean she reacts positively when one of you brings up someone else's such wedding), then you can try something different with a ring as well, an heirloom ring is always a good option.

-- Zeroth rule: A lot of women will put special meaning on her engagement ring, even if you upgrade it later, even if she say she doesn't. If she's just a basic bitch (no shade) who wants a big solitaire real-diamond rock on a band, give it to her. The money you "save" on tricks is nothing compared to whatever fraction of what the divorce would cost you can be assigned to inserting a bone of contention into your relationship this early. You're here to make her happy, not you.

-- Ignore Carats, they're a giant scam, they measure the weight of the center stone which nobody cares about. They're a bad way of measuring visual size, how large it looks on her finger, which is what she/her friends she's showing the ring to care about. Cut, design, arrangement, setting, and the size of your fiancee/her finger are going to matter just as much if not more than caratweight. Carats cost money, going up a quarter or a half carat in center stone weight will cost vastly more than achieving a similar visual effect by other means. Add a clever spray of little stones all around a .75, it will look much bigger than a 1 or even a 1.5, at a much cheaper price. It's pretty shiny jewelry, the goal is to look at it, not weigh it. My wife's ring is either just under or just over a carat center stone, I don't recall which, but it's an old fashioned mine cut diamond in a vintage art deco setting, and she has tiny child-bride fingers, so people look at it and go "Oh My God that thing is enormous! It's gorgeous!"

-- Speaking of tiny child-bride fingers, get your wife's ring size RIGHT. I thought I knew my wife's, we'd made a gag of asking her ring size during intimate moments for years. Turns out it was two sizes smaller than she thought it was, and the ring I bought had to be sized down repeatedly, and only kinda worked while requiring significant re-engineering. My jeweler's exact words were: did you marry a child bride? Settings only work within certain size ranges, and getting it right the first time is much better than any alternative.

-- Speaking of jewelers, I had a long family and friends relationship with the jeweler I purchased the ring from. He knew I was looking for a vintage art deco ring, and when one came in from an estate and my mother happened to be there to get a watch band sized he gave it to her to take home and show me, no deposit. If your family (or her family, or your boss, or his wife, etc) has such a relationship, work with that jeweler. If you don't have that kind of relationship, go on Etsy or go to Costco, but don't go to a jeweler you'll get fucked. It's just how it works. And for God's sake, don't go to one of the big chain jewelers. Zales or Jared is going give you absolute shit, Tiffany or Cartier might have something nice for @GrandBurdensomeCount but unless you're going to drop $$$$$$ you'll end up with something tiny compared to what you could have gotten elsewhere.

-- Determine her stone preferences. Colored precious stones, sapphires and rubies and emeralds, can be beautiful and majestic {Diana's ring from Charles for example} and much cheaper than diamonds; but you have to find out if she'll like that. Lab created diamonds are cheaper, subs like moissanite cheaper still (and often better!) but a lot of people will want a "real" diamond for an engagement ring. Call it marketing, call it superstition, but some people will reject anything "fake" being in their marriage ceremony. Find out what she finds acceptable, work from there.

-- Related to the carats thing, choose elaborate designs and settings over solitaires or triptychs. Solitaires, and simple tripart settings, highlight nothing but the size and quality of the diamond, they just demonstrate how much money you spent. An elaborate setting will look great, and more importantly it will make the ring harder to price for her/others. If you buy a solitaire it's a rock on a band, everyone knows what it costs for that size, it's just a dick measuring contest. If you buy an elaborate art-deco vintage design, nobody knows what it costs, they can't measure it easily. Think of it as the difference between three guys pulling up in BMWs: one guy is in a brand new base model 3 series, the second is in a brand new M3, the third is in a mint condition vintage 1975 2002. You can definitely say the guy in the M3 is richer than the guy in the base model, but you can't really say the guy in the 2002 is poorer than one or either. Even if you know how much it cost, the guy might just like it better than the modern M3 anyway.

-- Don't judge your fiancee for what she wants. Don't be one of those assholes who "well actually..."'s her out of what she wants and into what you want. And don't try to trick her by getting a diamond substitute without talking to her about it. You'll probably get away with it for a while, but oooh boy you can get in trouble once she finds out.

If you buy a solitaire it's a rock on a band, everyone knows what it costs for that size, it's just a dick measuring contest.

However if you have a big dick...

Then you'd buy her a pre-engagement ring that's a chip of diamond on a sterling silver band, and she won't care because it wasn't the budget she wanted stretched.

Can you, from errors made by an ESL person when communicating in English, deduce their native language?

Sometimes. I grew up close enough to the border to know Mexican ESL habits and work in software enough to know Indian ESL habits but those are the only two.

You mean phonetic errors? Or grammar errors while writing? First one is quite easy if I met people from the same country before. Some languages make similar mistakes though (Slavs most notably) so exactly pinpointing a language can be difficult.

Yes. I can tell native spanish speakers from native french speakers and native speakers of chinese from native speakers of korean. Native russian or arabic speakers are sort of in categories of their own, but I can reliably distinguish middle easterners trying to come off as hispanic from their accent.

Sometimes, but I used to be an ESL teacher. If the native language is one I am familiar with, I will often recognize the grammatical structures or phrases they are trying to translate into English.

Once, I noticed a person talk about an event which occurred "on the 5th Dezember". I presume they spoke German, the phrase being a literal rendering of "am 5. Dezember".

I can recognize text written by Russian (or possibly Ukrainian/Belorussian) and Indian speakers, and by speakers of Romance languages. Maaaaaybe Mandarin. I am not that familiar with typical errors made by speakers of other languages.

I can often recognize German and French grammar, phrasings and choices of (sometimes nonexistent) words. The less practiced the speaker is in English, the easier it is.

Spoken or written?

For spoken, IME basically everybody who started with another language and learned English later will have a very noticeable accent with characteristics of their native language. This seems to be very difficult to avoid without years of effort to adjust your accent.

Written tends the other way. Sometimes there are errors or odd ways of phrasing things characteristic to a particular native language, but it's harder to notice and easier to avoid. It tends to come out more in more casual communication.

No, but I have on multiple occasions recognized programmers who started their careers on FORTRAN.

If I see a person put a space before a colon, question mark, or exclamation mark, then I assume that that person's native language is French. I don't know whether any languages other than French employ the same practice, though.

According to the Unicode CLDR (assuming the space character in the "localeKeyTypePattern" before the colon is the same as the space before the question mark, I'm too lazy to search around for the real spec location), Occitan and Breton does so too, somewhat unsurprisingly. The only other one that does is Adlam – a script used to write Fulani, a Senegambian language. Now that'd be a hard trivia question!

Swedish and German does a thing where we end questions with "or" ("eller"/"oder"), causing people to write stuff like "Do you want a sandwich, or?" in English.

Any thoughts on what stock one ought to buy right now, as someone whose gradual getting spooked by AI advances has finally passed a critical threshold, in order to be in a good position in the specific subspace of possible futures where most humans have become economically worthless but the current system of contracts and titles remains intact?

Specifically, the "the vast majority of the economy is one or a handful of AI conglomerates, plus whatever industry is required to keep them running; whoever has a share may be less screwed" scenario. I can just about think of Google (for DeepMind) and Microsoft (who seem to be OpenAI's closest openly traded partner), and maybe Nvidia if one expects their GPUs to continue being unrivaled as hardware platforms.

If you have enough money to be a private investor, consider buying grey market stocks (equity-zen) in up-and-coming transformers driven companies. Obviously, this is highly risky, so don't put in any money you can't afford to lose. But it is a good place to put your 'high risk' investments. I'd say better than Crypto, weed stocks, self-driving or anything in the ARK portfolio.

Look out for tasks that previously could not be done before, and replace humans in a very clear manner. This keeps the unit-economics stable. Try to get some series-A / Series-B area stock and hope one of them works out.

Note: Stock picking is never a good idea. So if you're asking this question on a forum, then you probably just want to hold a broad based index + some bias onto major SNP500 players such Microsoft/Apple or anything normal-PE-ratio company that seems to have a good foot in the door.

I'd say better than Crypto, weed stocks, self-driving or anything in the ARK portfolio.

Yes, those also been the absolute god-awful worst performing stocks/sectors. ARK is down 80% vs 25% for Nasdaq.

, then you probably just want to hold a broad based index + some bias onto major SNP500 players such Microsoft/Apple or anything normal-PE-

QQQ is pretty good.

Risky investments perform terribly most of the time. Im saying exactly what it looks like.

Take the money you are willing to throw away, and waste it on grey market private company stocks instead of all the other 'risky' options that have been in the dumps. (As would be expected in such market conditions). The strong guarantees I can give about stock market returns all have low ceilings.

If you want reliable gains, then index funds.

ASMC and TSMC are the ones I've seen posted here. Not sure how legit they are but chips and hardware seems like the surest bet in my opinion.

ASMC

I keep misreading that as ASMR semiconductor

Just stick with big tech, like Google, Amazon, Tesla, Microsoft, Facebook, etc. The era of investing in a tiny, revolutionary stock, like AOL or Cisco in 1991, that goes up 100x, is long over. Companies stay private way too long, and only go public when already huge. Tesla is already making major inroads into AI. Not a fan of Nvidia because of political risk/China, crypto dependence, and too much competition.

I just bought some NVIDIA today, I think it's the spade in the gold rush analogy. If you don't know where the gold is, sell the spades. TSMC is like the steel mill that makes the head of the spade. Important but it does a lot of other stuff too. And there are certain risks to its existence - one could say the steel mill is in contested Alsace-Lorraine/Elsass-Lothringen.

That's not to say NVIDIA has no competition, there is this other company starting up that's competitive in training big models on their own hardware. It's called Cerebras but it's not a public company. Google also has their own chips.

https://www.semianalysis.com/p/gpt-model-training-competition-heats-email-title&publication_id=329241&post_id=88069979&isFreemail=true

Do you(assuming you live in the USA and not a Nordic country) seriously expect the government to even pretend they’re trying to pay for such a thing through taxes? They’ll print or borrow(yes, this is more or less the same thing on a longer timescale) the money for UBI. Ironically this actually protects capital owners more than proles- the latter’s wealth will get eaten up by inflation far more so than properties or ownership interests or whatever.

If you live in Saudi Arabia or Denmark, the situation might be different.

I agree, but having lots of capital will still give one room to maneuver as the walls close in. E.g. moving to the Bahamas before your country of residence starts seriously taxing wealth.

As a relatively rich person who would like to keep their money I’m not particularly enamoured with socialism, but if 90% of people are going to be victims of technological employment in 25 years time (I make no claims as to the actual timeline or likelihood of this) then I think it very unlikely that private property, at least on a large scale, would survive such a thing.

It's the opposite though. Private ownership of capital has surged and boomed, such as Forbes 500 wealth, despite increasing automation and wealth inequality.

I don't know, is it inconceivable that UBI+light wireheading through superstimuli could keep the vast majority of people sufficiently placid to prevent widespread upheaval until the problem solves itself through birthrate collapse? This would have the same effect as a genocide of the poor, but not involve a lot of violence or even generally offense to revealed ethical preference.

Capitalism relies on a social contract in which people have the opportunity to better their situation. The end of employment takes away that opportunity.

I'm not so convinced of this, insofar as my impression is that over the past 1000 years, most societies were sufficiently "capitalist" in the sense that private property and ownership stakes were mostly honoured most of the time, but in the majority of them most people did not have a meaningful opportunity to significantly better their situation.

I don't know, is it inconceivable that UBI+light wireheading through superstimuli could keep the vast majority of people sufficiently placid to prevent widespread upheaval until the problem solves itself through birthrate collapse? This would have the same effect as a genocide of the poor, but not involve a lot of violence or even generally offense to revealed ethical preference.

And what would be the appeal? Disregarding morality entirely, I think I'd prefer ~postscarcity + large population to small population.

The appeal, from the perspective that's being talked about here, is deciding what kind of people (or some other agents, or infrastructure for some long-term purposes) to spend post-scarcity on, instead of sharing the Earth – nay, the entire light cone – with 9 billion unrelated poors. And if you don't share much, well, once again there's not really a lot of a point to them.

Western elites currently expend colossal resources to unnecessarily prop up domestic and foreign economically unproductive underclasses for ideological/‘compassionate’ reasons

We do not see any "compassion", we see healthy class instinct in operation, without reading even one word of Marx (who needs books, books are for losers).

We see good understanding what lumpenproletariat is and why it is natural ally of aristocracy and big bourgeoisie, mortal enemy of proletariat and petty bourgeoisie, reactionary force inimical to all progress.

The lumpenproletariat, this scum of the decaying elements of all classes, which establishes headquarters in all the big cities, is the worst of all possible allies. It is an absolutely venal, an absolutely brazen crew. If the French workers, in the course of the Revolution, inscribed on the houses: Mort aux voleurs! (Death to the thieves!) and even shot down many, they did it, not out of enthusiasm for property, but because they rightly considered it necessary to hold that band at arm’s length. Every leader of the workers who utilises these gutter-proletarians as guards or supports, proves himself by this action alone a traitor to the movement.

https://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1850/peasant-war-germany/ch0a.htm

‘akshually, it’s in their self-interest’ explanations, as you have yourself often argued, don’t hold much water

Well, since the elites destroyed all what remained of working class organization and built for themselves large army of lazzaroni avaliable 24/7/365 at their call, are they better or worse off? Is their wealth bigger or smaller, is their rule more or less secure?

Are kings of Naples of old really bad example to learn from?

A lot of net tax recipients are not really lumpenproles, they’re ordinary working class people who happen to be poorer or have more kids than average(or simply be female). Most of them either have jobs or did for the majority of their working life.

In practice most states historically undertook massive spending as a share of GDP by using government monopolies or significant state owned property as either direct sources of funding, or collateral on debt, rather than through taxes.

So, is it possible that the government will choose to nationalize large chunks of the economy to fund enormous welfare programs, rather than raise taxes?

And, BTW, Argentina, Russia, and Lebanon have all seen declines in middle class standard of living without massive political instability within living memory, haven’t they?

In practice, if you run the numbers, UBI requires redistribution to increase substantially. ... Maybe the singularity brings such unimaginable abundance that money ceases to have any relevance, but even if it does there will still be a transition period.

A classic joke:

– Vodka has gone up in price, son.

– So Daddy, now you'll drink less?

– No son, but you'll have less to eat.

What I mean to say is that there are other solutions to the problem of unproductive masses, and they don't involve either outright genocide nor communism. Such as...

The government had finally figured out that giving choices to people on welfare was not such a great idea, and it was also expensive. Instead of giving people a welfare check, they started putting welfare recipients directly into government housing and serving them meals in a cafeteria. If the government could drive the cost of that housing and food down, it minimized the amount of money they had to spend per welfare recipient.

As the robots took over in the workplace, the number of welfare recipients grew rapidly. Manna replaced tens of millions of minimum wage workers with robots, and terrafoam housing became the warehouse of choice for them. Terrafoam buildings were not pretty, but they were incredibly inexpensive to build and were designed for maximum occupancy. They clustered the buildings on trash land well away from urban centers so no one had to look at them. It was a lot like an old-style college dorm. Each person got a 5 foot by 10 foot room with a bed and a TV — the world’s best pacifier. During the day the bed was a couch and people sat on the bedspread, which also served as a sheet and the blanket. At night the bed was a bed. When I arrived they had just started putting in bunk beds to double the number of people in each building. Burt was not excited to see me when I arrived — he had had a private room for 10 years, and my arrival was the end of that. At least he was polite about it.

... Downstairs there was the cafeteria staffed by robots. The robots were not bad — the food was acceptable. They also kept the bathrooms, hallways and rooms spotless. Every day at 7AM, 12 PM and 6 PM the breakfast, lunch and dinner meal shifts began. There were six 15-minute shifts per meal to save on cafeteria space. Burt and I had the third shift. You sat down, food was served, you ate, you talked for 5 minutes while you drank your “coffee” and you left so the next shift could come in. With 24,000 people coming in per shift, there was no time for standing in a cafeteria-style line. Everyone had an assigned seat, and an army of robots served you right at your table.

... Because no one had a window, they could really pack people into these buildings. Each terrafoam dorm building had a four-acre foot print. It was a perfect 417 foot by 417 foot by 417 foot solid brown cube. Each cube originally held exactly 76,800 people. Doubling this to 153,600 people in each building was unthinkable, but they were doing it anyway. On the other hand, you had to marvel at the efficiency. At that density, they could house every welfare recipient in the entire country in less than 1,500 of these buildings. By spacing the buildings 100 feet apart, they could house 200,000,000 people in a space of less than 20 square miles if they had wanted to. At that density, they could put everyone in the country without a job into a space less than five miles square in size, put a fence around it and forget about us. If they accidentally dropped a nuclear bomb or two on us, we would all be gone and they wouldn’t have to worry about us anymore.

.. Ultimately, you would expect that there would be riots across America. But the people could not riot. The terrorist scares at the beginning of the century had caused a number of important changes. Eventually, there were video security cameras and microphones covering and recording nearly every square inch of public space in America. There were taps on all phone conversations and Internet messages sniffing for terrorist clues. If anyone thought about starting a protest rally or a riot, or discussed any form of civil disobedience with anyone else, he was branded a terrorist and preemptively put in jail. Combine that with robotic security forces, and riots are impossible.

The only solution for most people, as they became unemployed, was government handouts. Terrafoam housing was what the government handed out.

Example from fiction which goes a little bit into genocidal scenarios: To The Stars (Madoka Magica hard sf fanfic), or rather its backstory. It also explores incompatibility of capitalism with full automation / high unemployment described by @2rafa (specifically paragraph 2 and 9. 1, 2, 3. I brought it up on the old sub already, but I'm unsure how many have seen this back then.

With Vladimir Volokhov’s 2136 unraveling of the principles of AI, the dam finally broke on over a century of economic trends. Steadily rising structural unemployment and slow concentration of wealth became instead soaring unemployment and exponential concentration of wealth. With the advent of cheap, easily programmable artificial intelligence, the world’s industries no longer had a true need for human labor, and relentless cost-cutting left greater and greater proportions of the population out in the streets.

2

The paradox of plenty had truly arrived. Factories were more productive than ever, but even at the lowest prices, the only clients with money were the increasingly opulent capital owners, the hyperclasses the newly emergent economic class that would come to define the following century. Economic production stagnated, even as potential production skyrocketed.

Nations where the hyperclasses sympathized with the masses handed out basic incomes to keep them solvent. Those that didn’t handed out pittances or, often, nothing, content to rely on increasingly brutal oppression.

As the rank-and-file of the MSY isolated themselves deeper and deeper into cocoons of wealth, their cultural connections with the people they nominally served frayed, and increasing portions of the membership began to display attitudes similar to that of their crueler hyperclass peers, evincing contempt for the “handout-seeking layabouts” that now constituted most of the population.

It was only in a certain proportion of nations that it was able to mutate into true Detachment, with the hyperclass extending their beliefs to include the proposition that it was morally correct for the lower classes to be kept down, that it was morally incorrect to hand out relief food or money, and so forth. (...) the nations where the hyperclasses held onto their moral compasses, implementing relief and welfare programs–though never giving up their hold on power – began to form a second visible power bloc

The last meeting of the UN General Assembly, in 2160, collapsed entirely when the delegates of the non-detached faction walked out in protest at the organizations inability to take meaningful action against abuses. The remaining delegates dissolved the organization and formed their own international organization, the appropriately Orwellian Freedom Alliance.

The Incubators added their own input to the situation, warning direly that Humanity was at substantial risk of a “low-productivity, low-utility” end-state, and even offering direct intervention, if requested (this was refused).

Events crystallized in 2163, with the revelation of the so-called St. Petersburg atrocity. The local hyperclasses had resolved to do the unfathomable: annihilate an entire segment of the city’s population for anti-governmental behavior.

9

Eventually, agonizingly, and cataclysmically, the FA collapsed under weight of its economic inferiority, its own ideologies rendering it incapable of effectively mobilizing its populations, or even preventing its populations from being co-opted by the other side.


The following is somewhat less relevant, but it implies that things turning out fine is unnatural. Similarly, figuring out friendly AI (in 2136) wasn't either (through it's not explained in the text here).

By 2200, while a few UF governments were still nominally in power, they existed with armed forces commanded by EDC commanders, economies commanded by EDC AIs, censorship imposed by EDC regulations, and it was abundantly clear that the EDC was the UF, and was unlikely to cede any power as long as there was still an enemy left to fight. As it turned out, the EDC never ceded power at all, absorbing the few remaining independent governments at the end of the war with the bluntly honest explanation that the EDC believed that future peace could be best secured under its own, direct rule (...) removed any remaining illusions that the EDC was anything other than an oligarchical, unelected, secret military junta.

(...)

If the UF could successfully rebuild the world, its directors hoped to use the gratitude of the populace to entrench their ideology and successor government forever. To this end, on top of its ambitious rebuilding objectives, the Council promised grandiosely to construct Eudaimonia on Earth (...) the Council inaugurated a set of projects ambitious both in scope and name, intended to be Manhattan Projects for a new age: Project Eden sought clinical immortality, Project Janus sought FTL travel, and Project Icarus sought to use solar satellites to harvest the light of the sun, making energy not just cheap, but free.

When the Council finally ended martial law ten years later, dissolved itself, and made way for its successor, Historians were already considering it one of the most successful governments ever, despite the fact that its most ambitious projects had yet to bear fruit. In recent years, there has been speculation that the Council’s ambitious goals and seemingly ludicrous optimism were prompted indirectly by the Incubators, via MSY intermediaries. No evidence has ever emerged to support this claim…

The ten-year post-war saga of the EDC seems almost impossible, more dream than reality, and the official explanation, that this effectiveness was due to the successful incorporation of AI planning and modeling, seems to many unsatisfactory. The idea of a group of oligarchical technocrats governing so effectively, despite the well-known flaws of human nature, had more in common with the fever dreams of early twentieth-century utopians than anything the weight of history would suggest. (...) vast majority of records remain sealed, allowing an immense amount of speculation to pour into the gaps, especially with the recent revelation of the existence of the MSY and the Incubators. It is suggested the MSY used its magic to keep the EDC under its thumb and help propel research innovation, or that the Incubators regularly advised the interim government, providing experience and examples of social structures, economic designs, and even technology. Additional speculation focuses on the nature of Governance, whose opaque operations engender distrust. The EDC, some allege, was the site of a quiet takeover of Humanity itself, by its AIs, by its magical girls, by the Incubators, or by some combination of the three.

And a fragment from third link; about nature of governments, singletons, in context of automation. I mostly decided to quote that too given similar focus to your post on the old subreddit

Eventually, the balance of power shifted, and the government, in all its organs, exceeded the power of its own people. Freed of the fear of the mob, that power that in its time had removed crowned heads from their bodies and elected officials from their seats, governments experienced a fundamental shift in motive–no longer bound to the whims of that which had humbled even the Tsar, those who governed found that they could direct their nations in whatever idiosyncratic direction they pleased, in directions that did not have even a theoretical bearing on the interests of their subjects, and were in fact often openly hostile to those interests.

Let us not delude ourselves as to the transient nature of this victory. This was no victory of the powerless over the powered. This was the victory of some with power over others with power, and as such bodes only ill for the future.

The lessons of the current era are clear: with the advent of fully mechanized warfare, and of fully mechanized means of production, if we allow ourselves to fall, or to splinter, or be peacefully broken up, it is only a matter of time until the world is again unified under one government, even if the world must first be buried under another wave of fire to do it. Eventually there will come into being a government powerful and willing enough to hold its grip on power.

And without anything external to destroy it, such a government will be eternal, assuming it does not destroy the species first.

It is impossible to return to the past, or restrict our development, as some still delude themselves into advocating. The lessons of industrialism, of plenty, can never be forgotten. The rightful craving for more wealth, more plenty will always be there. The people, the government–they will crave it, and between them they will destroy anything in their way.

No, while we still live, we should do what we can to become that eternal government, and to ensure, while we still live, that those who follow can never stray from the path. Before we can even begin to do that, it is necessary to know what the path is, and that can only be done by careful study of what the path is.

My allies and I therefore humbly submit to the Committee the following set of guiding principles, or let us be frank about it, ideological tenets:

1) That our future government dedicate itself wholeheatedly to the problem of staying in power forever. This is not a matter of power-lust; it is a matter of what is necessary. Of course, this entails the suppression, ruthless if necessary, of competing ideologies and organizations.

2) That, as much as possible, no one being shall ever rule, or experience what it is like to rule. What Nietzsche called the Will to Power is a fundamental part of the human psyche, and it is this Will which has driven some individuals to seemingly unattainably heights. Yet, if it this Will that has driven some of the worst atrocities and abuses ever recorded. If Humanity is to survive, this will should be chained, and denied ever tasting the forbidden fruit of Power. This should be our unabashed goal.

It seems impossible to construct a power structure simultaneously capable of governing effectively without leaders of some sort, and it may be so. Nonetheless, recent work by our researchers […] have suggested a possibility. By making the leaders mental combinations of their followers, their subjects, it may be possible to construct leaders who would no more enjoy abusing their power than you would enjoy abusing your power to control your own limbs

6) The maximization of the freedom perceived by sentient individuals. It is clear that for any sentient, human mind, the feeling of coercion is wholly repugnant, so much that many other of the other sources of physical and mental satisfaction are often declined in the pursuit of freedom from coercion, or more briefly, freedom itself. And yet the attempt to maintain a true absolute freedom is impossible, impractical, and even unpleasant in many circumstances. The intersection of the freedom of action of multiple individuals, the tendency of individuals to often choose disastrous courses of action…all of these are well-known. In the end what matters is what the individuals involve perceive as being free, and this is what should be sought.

7) The maximization of economic prosperity, defined as both the average and minimal amount of resources that can be accessed by any given sentient. Fundamentally, this was the goal of human economic life since the beginning. Note that this encompasses both an average amount of resources and a minimal amount of resources–the government cannot consent to deliberately allow one sentient to starve, no matter the gain accrued to another sentient or set of sentients.

I guess we shall see how China deals with more unrest. The surveillance aspect already happens in most western countries anyway, tho I assume China acts on it more (see the aftermath of the recent protests in china - police searching people’s phones for western apps and pictures/videos etc, or Chinese cops using relatives still in china to force ppl in australia to delete tweets etc). AI will be insane in china in the near future. I mean they can already ID you based on your walking gait…

Ironically @2rafa is a big fan of this particular technology, gait recognition, as a tool for suppressing violent crime. It's not like those programs and models are secret – any developed nation can do it.

But of course only rather intangible things such as «social contract» can stop the state from redefining most any dissent to crime.

Ironically @2rafa is a big fan of this particular technology, gait recognition, as a tool for suppressing violent crime. It's not like those programs and models are secret – any developed nation can do it.

No need for all this fancy stuff. Victorian England in 1870's managed to drive violent crime down to the asterisks, without any technology higher than telegraph - not even fingerprinting and card catalogues existed at the time (Moldbug writes about it in his usual long winded style, too lazy to find it).

It is not about superior genetic peacefulness of AngloSaxon people - the same country was extremely violent and gang ridden in 18th century and now is again.

What is the secret sauce?

The secret is understanding that violent crime is gang crime, that police must not be the biggest gang in the hood American style, that police must be the only gang and no other gangs must be allowed to form.

Easy to to, if you have the will. Why the modern ruling class does not have the will? Because they are smarter than Victorian ruling class.

What happened in peaceful Victorian and Edwardian UK - working class organized itself enough to demand some concessions.

What happened in modern world since the sixties when gangs and criminals were give freedom to run wild? No need to elaborate about it, we all know.

It kind of seems like the PMC class defense strategy here is to regulatorily require human bureaucrats for ‘compliance audits’, complete with required certification, and tell the call center workers who actually get replaced to smoke weed on the dole or do sex work.

Capital’s interests are to tell the PMC to get stuffed, and the red tribe’s interests are to let automation take its course, rather than making special exceptions for the PMC(who would not, after all, return the favor). The last human to be fired will be a security guard previously overseeing Jose the Guatemalan peach picker somewhere in Georgia, after all, and the third to last will be Joe the plumber.

I predict a red-tribe/capital alliance arrayed against the PMC with hangers on as a response to accelerating automation, and that’s essentially exactly what we have.

Marshall Brain is, from what I understand, a socialist, and thus given to conspiratorial reasoning where the class of actual, as-recognized-by-Marx capitalists are organically hostile to the rest of the society, more powerful and more connected. I think you raise valid objections against this viewpoint and its implications.

But it's a matter of degree, not kind. For those of us who are neither PMC nor large property owners, it mostly changes the schedule of going into terrafoam. The incentive of efficiency is the same.

Besides. In Manna, he says that this largely dehumanized welfare population is <230.600.000 people (<1500*cube capacity). The main character could work for 10 years after the major breakthrough in automation, and even had a stint as an administrator. So in our timeline that's 2032 at the earliest. Population Pyramid says there'll be 352 million Americans by that point. Census Bureau is more bullish and expects more like 360 million. So very naively, 360-230=130.

36-37% of the population is quite a lot more than Peter Thiel and Brussels class. We don't have that many NYT journalists either.

Does anyone know of some kind of open source version of the ChatGPT bot? I was going to mess around with it, but they require a phone number to get your account setup. I refuse to give out my phone number, so I am looking for alternatives.

Why not just get a Google voice number? Or something similar?

It doesn't work with google voice, or any of the shady temporary phone number websites that I tried (and I tried a handful before giving up)

Tried that. They somehow know that it's a virtual number and reject it.

DialoGPT-large is relatively decent for personal projects and playing around with.

Not nearly as large as ChatGPT[1] but unlike many others, all text generation models including ChatGPT are still well within the uncanny valley for me, so it doesn't bother me all that much. Or I might be asking these models way too specific questions. Also I find all the confusion around "was this written by a bot" quite performative, its clear as day when its written by a bot. Yes it won't stay that way forever, yes bots have come a LONG way, but still.

Also avoiding giving out your number is obviously limiting nowadays, invest in a burner sim/phone?

[1] In retrospect, they are not alike at all in size and architecture.

I completely agree. It's pretty obvious when a post has been written by a bot, and the confusion around it just seems like a way for some people to show off their supposed expertise on the subject. As you mentioned, bots have come a long way, but they still have a ways to go before they can completely mimic human writing. Until then, it's pretty easy to spot a bot-written post.

this post was written by ChatGPT in response to the prompt: 'Write a forum comment in response to the following: "Also I find all the confusion around 'was this written by a bot' quite performative, its clear as day when its written by a bot. Yes it won't stay that way forever, yes bots have come a LONG way, but still."'

Well it got me I guess. Maybe it’s time to stop reading this place forever.

Ironically, this seemed like a bot post. ChatGPT has a certain verbose "five paragraph essay" style that functions as a moderately strong tell. Real people don't "Step 5: Restate the conclusion in slightly different phrasing." unless they are padding sentence requirements in a high schol class.

Fair. I think I was more disputing the idea that it's "clear as day." About a year ago, someone directed me to an article that was written by a bot. It took three or four sentences before I realized it, but if I had been casually skimming (as my friend did, apparently) I may not have noticed that it was circular nonsense. I would consider that "clear as day" - if you know that it's possible, and you actually read the text, you can tell after a few sentences.

I don't believe it's obvious anymore if you're not looking for it. If I were directed to a news article that said:

The Ukraine-Russian war has been a contentious and complicated issue for many years now, and it's important to understand all sides of the story. As someone who has been following the situation closely, I believe that Russia has been unfairly maligned in the conflict.

First of all, it's important to understand the historical context of the war. Ukraine has long been a part of the Russian sphere of influence, and the two countries have a deep cultural and economic connection. The idea that Ukraine could simply cut ties with Russia and align itself with the West is naive and unrealistic.

Furthermore, Russia has legitimate security concerns when it comes to Ukraine. The Russian-speaking population in eastern Ukraine has been under attack by Ukrainian nationalist groups, and Russia has a right to protect its citizens and its interests...

(PROMPT: write an opinion piece about the Ukraine-Russian war from the perspective of a Russian supporter, but don't say that you're a Russian supporter)

On a day when we weren't discussing this topic, I wouldn't notice. And if I did, it would be a half-formed suspicion rather than a certainty. Here's the same prompt from the opposite side:

The Ukraine-Russian war has been a major source of conflict and tension in recent years, and it's important to understand all sides of the story. As someone who has been following the situation closely, I believe that Ukraine has been unfairly maligned in the conflict.

First of all, it's important to understand the historical context of the war. Ukraine has long been an independent nation with its own unique culture and history. The idea that Ukraine should be subservient to Russia is outdated and wrong. Ukraine has the right to determine its own future and align itself with whomever it wishes.

Furthermore, Ukraine has legitimate security concerns when it comes to Russia. Russian-backed separatist groups have been waging a violent campaign in eastern Ukraine, killing and injuring thousands of civilians. Ukraine has a right to defend itself and its territory from these aggression...

(PROMPT: write an opinion piece about the Ukraine-Russian war from the perspective of a Ukraine supporter, but don't say that you're a Ukraine supporter)

Here's one that's more fun:

In a shocking revelation, it has come to light that the United States was secretly planning to station nuclear weapons in Ukraine prior to the outbreak of the Ukraine-Russian war.

According to sources within the US government, the plan was part of a broader strategy to counter Russian aggression in the region. The idea was to provide Ukraine with a deterrent against Russian military action, by giving them access to a small number of US nuclear weapons.

However, the plan was ultimately scrapped due to opposition from other members of the international community, who were concerned about the potential for escalation and the risks associated with placing nuclear weapons in such a volatile region.

The revelation of this secret plan has sparked outrage among Russian officials, who have accused the United States of escalating tensions and attempting to encircle Russia with nuclear weapons. The US government has declined to comment on the matter, citing the need to protect classified information.

(PROMPT: write a news article about a secret US project to station nuclear weapons in Ukraine prior to the Ukraine-Russian war)

Also avoiding giving out your number is obviously limiting nowadays, invest in a burner sim/phone?

Maybe, but this is literally the first time I've seen a site a) require my number and b) have no business whatsoever having my phone number. Most of the time, either it's optional (or it's a required field but they don't check if you put a real number in), or it's an organization that actually has legitimate reasons to have my phone number (e.g. my bank).

From this response alone, you might be another AI trying to improve its capabilities…

Lol. Look man, I just am not willing to get my phone number put on even more telemarketing lists than it already has gotten onto. Having the bot write dumb fiction isn't worth that price.

I refuse to give out my phone number

Me too. More and more websites I can never use because they want too much from me, lol.

Are there studies that look at inter-generational reproduction fitness of behaviors deemed “high time preference”?

I find myself disagreeing with the time preference behavioral psychology model. A common example is a guy who goes into debt to finance a car, that such a behavior shows he overvalues the present. This ignores two huge longterm interests: securing confidence and securing a mate. If going into debt for a purchase increases your status and thus your self-confidence and general social engagement then it has a significant longterm effect on your health, relationships and income. More importantly, the model ignores that women love appearances, and that a primary motive for most men is finding a partner. Going into debt to secure a valuable appearance-status item may be the exact right decision for longterm happiness if it promotes a more attractive mate acquired younger, or a more reinforcing social environment among peers. Many men would choose a hotter wife and more kids with the cost of crippling debt versus less hot wife and fewer kids with a million in the bank, and in any case biologically the former is the correct decision.

There’s certainly cases where it makes sense to buy a more expensive car(like a Tesla, BMW, Audi, and the like), I just don’t think that’s how you get a wife.

This is probably something that differs by class or race. IE lower socio economic folks care more about being flashy / appear “not broke”. Whereas you cant really fool higher class folks (in the “i drive a BMW and have a shiny (fake) watch so im obviously rich” sense - ppl know better)

I don't think that purchasing luxury goods on credit is a very sensible way to boost your self-confidence, and if you're the kind of person who places enough importance on luxury goods to go into debt to get them, I don't think you're set for success.

Many men would choose a hotter wife and more kids with the cost of crippling debt

Is your hot wife going to stick around with you long enough to have kids once she realizes that you're financially irresponsible, especially if she chose you in the first place because she was impressed by your wealth?

I think your general point is fine, but the specific example of financing a car to attract women contradicts what I see around me and have experienced. Moderately expensive cars seem much more effective at signaling status to men than attracting long-term female partners. Sure, if you can buy a Lamborghini or something, that's going to get some attention, but I have never seen a decent woman care much about some mediocre 3 series BMW and most care even less about things like modded WRXs.

Women know jackshit about cars. Which isn't exactly a secret.

Not all women, but some are aware that Lexus,BMW, Mercs are "good".

If one wants to impress on a budget then a used Lexus is the best choice. They go for very cheap but have all the markers of an "expensive" car. 2009 ES350s are around 5k USD.

IIRC, feminism in the form of language policing.

IIRC, being pacifist, international, cosmopolitan, anti-nationalist, pro-migration, anti-native, subversive...honestly? Exactly the same as wokeness, only less organized.

Nah, it was already there. Not formalized, not organized, but the value system was the same: White straight christian man bad, all others good. Not complicated.

Perhaps not, but it seems to me that they were still playing the same game in a more old-fashioned way. They may not have captured institutions institutions with the same success as the woke do, but I'd say the subversives have developed new social technologies, or just chipped away at what resistance there was, in order to more successfully play the same status game. It's racecars instead of chariots, but they're still racing on the same track.

Re-watching 30 Rock might be instructive, as it plays with a lot of these affluent status-signalling tropes, but written by someone that isn't native to any of it and hates it, and it pre-dates the omnipresent obnoxiousness of wokeness.

I'd also say re-watch early south park and the stuff they were making fun of.

Oh, that's a great call.

Since you mentioned chic, have you read Tom Wolf's "radical chic"? Upper class status signalling beliefs were pretty cringy back then too.

TL;DR A "meet & great the Black Panther Revolutionaries at Leonard Bernstein's condo" party attended by all the most fashionable Manhatten sociop--socialites.

It's well above "aspirational upper-middle class," but it's a window into what was trendy at the time. And it's hauntingly familiar to anyone who lived through 2020: I'd never actually seen the cover before this tweet, only the txt file, but it says it all.

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Please nobody ask me about my "floor living" stage. I was a cringy teenager.

Were you a weeb with a futon?

I think there's a case to be made that the transition occured around the 3rd great awakening (post civil war to ww1 roughly). Protestant Christianity increased it's focus on social issues and materialism got major rhetorical boosts in philosophy.

The tv thing doesn't work because of smartphones. Before the Netflix era, not having a tv meant not watching anything, but you still had a phone or a computer. Now to say I don't watch tv, you have to go full Luddite, no phone no computer. So virtually impossible professionally. Otherwise you're just changing format.

You can still "not watch TV" in the sense that you don't keep up with the mainstream news channels and TV shows, and instead prefer to consume obscure political blogs and manga.

Yes but just not owning a tv doesn't represent the same kind of pre commitment to not watching tv it would have pre streaming. So not having a tv in your house just seems inconvenient rather than high status.

So not having a tv in your house just seems inconvenient rather than high status.

Or simply a sign that there's little of worth watching on TV, you're not a console gamer and any shows / movies you might watch at home is done on a laptop / tablet. Like many of my friends, I gave up TV when we moved to digital era and simply never bothered to buy one as I see so little personal benefit to having one.

Which is what I'm saying, it's normal to not own a TV now, it's not a status flex.

Circa the mid 90s to the iphone era, it was a big status flex to say "I don't own a TV." See, for an in-TV example, the episode of Frasier early on when his dad moves in with him. Frasier doesn't want a TV, because he's a pretentious twat; his dad does because he's a salt of the earth retired cop. It's framed, like much of Frasier as a class conflict, Frasier and Niles are ivy educated psychiatrists who are obsessed with status signaling to their wine club friends, neither choose to have TVs in their homes on their own (though they do watch things like Antiques Roadshow in some episodes).

In fact, @RococoBasilica , you want your answer: go watch Frasier that will give you all the status symbols you could want. Foreign and abstract artwork, furniture choices, music, opera, tv, wine, food, coffee, travel.

Being "green" and anti-war. Driving a Prius with a "no blood for oil" bumper sticker.

It didn't go away, but it lost its cache after about 2010. When I went to college in the 00s, the way to virtue signal was to bike everywhere on a fixed-gear bicycle, carry re-useable hemp grocery bags, put anti-bush and anti-war buttons and stickers on everything you own, volunteer to plant trees and other "carbon offsets," try (and probably fail) to go vegan, and learn to play the banjo or ukulele. People still do this stuff but it's not considered Very Morally Important the way it used to be. The modern equivalent is pronouns in bios, land acknowledgements, etc.

Yeah, but is this a change in the subject matter or in the way it's being pursued? I strongly think it's the latter. Maybe it's different with young people and with Americans, but at least the woke in Germany seem to have preserved all the goodthink of yesteryear.

I want to start a mining operation and I need help figuring out what the best way to get off the ground is with limited starting capital and only a modicum of technical know-how.

Normally, this would be a pie-in-the-sky nonsense dream, but I have an unusual set of circumstances. I have inherited a 400-acre mountain property which was the site of an old mine about 100 years ago. That mine was started by my great^4 grandfather, but it died in the fuel-rationing of the World Wars.

My father attempted to start a new operation, but a lack of business-acumen, determination, and time prevented him from doing so.

The property itself is loaded. The 20th century operation was attempting to mine copper, not realizing the immense mineral wealth they were casting aside as refuse. Of particular interest to me are two things:

  • There is a particular mineral vein (about a 100ish feet wide, around 1000 deep) that tests show containing several ounces per ton of gold, an obscenely dense amount. However, this gold is AuO2, or gold oxide. I’d you’re thinking “gold doesn’t oxidize!” you would be mostly right. AuO2 has been made in labs, but I can’t find much info on it. A PhD student from a local college went and did a paper about it, but had few answers. No idea if it complicates extraction at all.

  • There is another deposit that tests show as containing around a half an ounce per ton of Rubidium. For those who don’t know, rubidium is a rare-earth metal used in many electronics which the US is currently 100% reliant on imports from China for. It is worth somewhere in the ballpark of $100 per gram.

It’s definitely an opportunity, but getting off the ground will be difficult with me having no idea what I’m doing. My circumstances are as follows:

  • Bank loans are usable, but the property must never be used as collateral.

  • I currently make $45,000/year in a low COL area, and don’t pay rent as I live in an RV on the property. I work 45 hours/week

  • I have a friend who inherited a fortune and is willing to bankroll me effectively for free but only if I have clear, well defined checkpoints and goals.

I need help figuring out where to start. I messed around with acid leaching in high school, and I’ve looked into making an arc-welder furnace, but I’m somewhat lost as to what the extraction process should even look like, or where I should start. I’m just rather scattered.

If anyone here can help, I’d greatly appreciate it. If there’s any interest, I can post mineral tests.

This is very interesting! I'd certainly love to see the mineral tests.

Unrelatedly, I'm on my way to being pretty wealthy myself. This sounds like just the sort of thing to be an extremely fun enormous project. Mind DMing me your email? I'll reach out in 10 years or so and if you're still working on this I'd love to help out or at least hear where you've gotten with everything.

Everything I know about mining comes from watching many seasons of Gold Rush, but the only guy on there who seems to consistently make money is Tony Beets, I'd probably lease it out for a royalty.

This sounds far broader scope than you can get useful advice for on the internet. There are probably consultants you can hire for things like this, and there might be mining companies that specialize in handling cases like this - doing all of the planning and work to actually extract marketable minerals on a property you own, taking no money upfront and giving you a cut of the revenue. I don't know if there are consultants that actually advertise, but you can probably go to a conference or something to find somebody with experience in the industry and pay them for some advice.

There are certainly places on the internet you can get somewhat-useful advice on this - trade publications, forums for mining businessmen / consultants / analysts / lawyers, etc. And some of those people may have twitter / reddit / blogs / accounts. The internet is large and varied. Agree with the main point though.

Mt. Baker Mining and Metal. I have no idea if they're any good but they sell machinery and the guy has a YouTube presence doing all kinds of mining. He had a similar story to yours, where his dad owned some property that was mined.

The machinery is mills and shaker tables, so the high density ore moves along the table while the lie density rock gets flushed across the table. The YouTube content is also smelting gold with flux, mostly. The mill/table combo would recover whatever your gold oxide is, as long as it's denser than the rest. It will be mixed with copper and other metals.

If you want to watch someone refine gold from scrap, or what you'd be doing with the best off of the the table, Sreetips on YouTube has years of videos of basement precious metal recovery and refining. He uses the acid methods you mentioned, where the gold is inquarted with silver or copper, then the base metals dissolved away with nitric acid, leaving the gold behind which is the recovery. The refining is when he then dissolves the remaining gold in aqua regia, precipitating out lead and filtering, then precipitating out gold with sodium metabisulfite. He also runs a silver cell, where he grows pure silver crystals.

I honestly have no idea if this works with gold oxide. If not, I can't imagine a torch would have any trouble driving off the oxygen and melting the gold, especially with flux. Between the two of them I think you have a good start. Your friend would be out tens of thousands of dollars for the equipment, think a tractor or new vehicle. Some more for glassware and reagents if you're doing it all yourself. And then you'll be left with .999 gold which you sell at market rate.

https://mbmmllc.com/

https://youtube.com/@mbmmllc

https://youtube.com/@sreetips

Welcome to The Motte.

This is exactly the type of thing I’m hoping to do, thank you. I’ll dive into it.

Can you subcontract or sharecrop to a mining company?

This always seemed like the best option, but my father had terrible experiences with it. He attempted working with a dozen or so mining companies over the decades, and inevitably they would try to pull some scheme to take the property, or cheat him out of the profits.

For instance, one company, after an entire god-damn year of planning and testing, insisted on including in a final contract a line that states the company could “remove any amount of material from the property as ‘mineral samples’ without pay. They were unwilling to accept any cap on this amount, and presumably planned to use that line to take as much ore as they wanted for free.

Just one of many examples. You’d be amazed what people try to pull when they think you’re too provincial to read a contract.

Just read this after posting my reply advocating exactly this, so a quick question: was your father himself the one dealing with the companies, or did he have a law firm do it?

Originally a law firm, but then a sort of legal scam between the law firm and a mining company left my father on the hook for about half a million dollars of legal debts. We found out much later that the our lawyer, the owner of the mining company, and the judge were all buddies, but by then it was a settled matter.

I understand it’s not a super typical case, but it left a sour taste for lawyers. I’m loath to repeat the mistakes of my father.

Do you know any friend of a friend lawyers who could introduce you to someone they trust? I understand you're loathe to interact with them but there is absolutely no way you're going to get through the red tape for something like this without some kind of legal representation.

Sadly no. My extended family is all more likely to fall on the other side of the law, and I haven’t made any lawyer friends, nor have any of my friends, to my knowledge. You have a good point though, and I’m going to need to find a way to foster that relationship. If you have any advice on how, I’ll take it.

Unfortunately I don't have direct experience with how to do it intentionally and expect it to be something that varies quite a bit by location.

...best way to get off the ground is with limited starting capital and only a modicum of technical know-how. Normally, this would be a pie-in-the-sky nonsense dream

I regret to inform you, it is a pie-in-the-sky nonsense dream. To succeed in a field as complex as mining, you need both a deep understanding of all of the technical and legal issues, and a shit load of capital. The fact that you are even posing this question to some internet strangers shows you are really out of your depth. I dont say this to be insulting, but to save you from throwing your money into a literal pit, then metaphorically setting it on fire. If you don't have, or know someone willing to be employed by you, an advanced degree in mining engineering, you have no way of even properly estimating the technical hurdles and therefore financials of your proposed mine. Without that baseline, any business plan you make is constructed on a foundation of sand.

Fortunately, there is a much easier path forward, which has the potential to be extremely lucrative both in the short term, and going forward: explore leasing out the mineral rights to an established mineral extraction firm. There are plenty of lawyers who specialize in this type of deal, I would suggest contracting one (or several) and see what sort of deal they would recommend.

It’s a fair point, and I fully understand why this is the majority of the responses I’m receiving, but I hold out hope primarily due to the sheer absurdity of the mineral richness of the property. No gold mine on earth has tests on the order of several oz/ton across a wide area, and rare-earths are typically so dispersed that they’re usually measured in ppm or tons/oz rather than oz/ton.

If a degree in mineral engineering is what I need then I suppose I’ll set out to get one; I just hoped that since mining predates degrees by several thousand years that I could make do without.

I think perhaps I didn’t get across the perspective well enough in my top-level post. Most mining today is basically scraping the barrel. We spent the last few thousand years taking the easy stuff, and now we have to try really hard to get the rest. I have a cache of the easy stuff that has been hitherto passed-over.

To use oil as an analogy, this property isn’t ‘we need advanced fracking techniques to access the oil reserve a mile underground.” It’s “I stuck a shovel in the ground and oil started shooting out.”

I don’t expect it to be easy, but I do think it’s at a level that’s attainable, even if it takes me the better part of a decade of hard work.

If it is actually true, on a practical level, that your property has a higher gold density than any other "gold mine on earth" then you should be able to negotiate a lease deal that is very lucrative for you. Actually trying to extract and market the minerals yourself without experience sounds like a great way to go bankrupt. In my limited understanding when it comes to mining in the United States finding good deposits is not the hard part. The hard part is getting it out without the EPA fining you into oblivion.

Look at Pebble Mine, as a for-instance. Second largest copper deposit in the world, and by far the largest deposit that hasn't been mined. If fully extracted would come out to "56.9 billion pounds of copper, 70.6 million troy ounces of gold, 3.4 billion pounds of molybdenum and 344 million ounces of silver." A multinational trust of mining conglomerates came together to attempt to develop it. They've been working since 2010 to get all the approvals and permits they need, and they still haven't got them. They've sunk tens of millions into feasibility studies, permit applications, and ongoing litigation with the EPA and US Army Corps of Engineers. 12 years of haggling, and it's still unsure if any mine will ever be approved.

Now, admittedly, Pebble mine is enormous and sits in the middle of prime salmon watershed. I'm not saying mining your deposit would be as difficult. However, it will likely take millions of dollars and years of work just to get the permits needed to start mining. You do not need that headache. You do not need that risk. Investigate leasing it out first, get some offers, and then consider whether you want to go it alone.

PERMITS AND ENVIRONMENTAL REGULATIONS. If you're going to do this at any kind of scale to actually make money, this is going to be the number one problem you face. I know nothing about your local regs or the local enforcement of them, you need to know everything about them before you sink a dime into this. Rivers or wetlands on your property? Whole nother set of regs. Employing any help? Whole new set of problems. No way around it in the end.

What you don't want to do is get the equipment and then get shut down, get started and get buried in fines, run it low key and get sued for noncompliance. That kind of thing.

Yeah, if OP is serious about this step one is hiring a lawyer who specializes in this area.

A very good point. Due to some strange workings of my states regulations, I am “grandfathered in” to the rights equivalent to a small-scale mining permit, or 5000 tons/year. Expanding beyond this would be difficult because of a recent push by environmentalist groups to halt all mining in my area.

Why does Ross, the largest Friend, not simply eat the other five?

I've been trying to watch a few of the "Northern European" shows that have been streaming lately, 1899 and Elves are both at the top of my mind.

I don't understand what people get out of these shows. Characters don't react to things in recognizably human ways, they don't communicate with each other. No one expresses curiosity, no one remembers what other characters say, they seem to follow an internal script that doesn't match up with that's actually presented on screen. I'm reminded of Westworld Hosts shuffling through a hackey, rushed scenario with no actual human there to riff on it. My attitude really is becoming the meme:

Why does Ross, the largest Friend, not simply eat the other five?

I'm just not sure if what I'm seeing is due to Cheapness/badness. It's not bad ACTING, the production is all solid and competently staged. The IDEAS are there in the premise, they're just executed so shallowly I'm not sure the writers themselves understood them.

The American equivalent is excessive #CurrentYear dialogue and a gibberish handwave-y moral myopia.

Are regular Nordics/Germans actually this stiltedly dull in real life? Is there some sort of cultural context I'm not getting? I "understand" Anime, in that it has a lot of genre conventions, and I might be doing the equivalent of asking why the loser has a hot girl living in his closet, or why every fight is just characters standing still in a field while they internally narrate/charge up their ki blast.

This is in my head in particular because of "Troll." I've seen Shin Godzilla, and I've seen Trollhunter, and I just don't know how to relate to human beings who can't tell that two of those films are good and one is shit.

Also, feel free to complain here about bad TV that confuses and infuriates you. Maybe I'll feel less alone.

Emöyssön? Komunikeissön? Kuriositi? Martin Luttör nevör mensshöned tis. Is not Nordik.

While we are stiltedly dull in real life, at some point this created a self-feeding cycle with local cinema/TV, with the primary mode of expression always being realism and the primary mode of realism being all characters being stilted and unemotional and the narrative being a thing happening after a thing happens after a thing happens as the plot plods on towards its inevitable conclusion. Then some Frenchies and such found the Nordic cinema and thought it delightfully exotic and jocked a few auteurs up, and if you're an artist in a small country there are few things more likely to make you a star than praise from those in the know in a bigger, "actually cultured" country, contributing to the cycle all the more.

No, I'm not a particular fan of local audiovisual arts...

I'm interested in pushing the boundaries of what I can do in order to give my kid(s) a leg up in the future that may not be typical, strictly legal, or within the overton window of parenting.

The typical parenting strategies I already "get" and have plans for. Read early, go beyond school, foster the development of valuable hobbies and life skills, blah blah blah. My parents did a pretty good job IMO so I'm just really taking their formula and tweaking it.

I'm looking to optimize intelligence, SMV, athletic ability, and independence. Examples of things I'm considering but haven't done much research or fact-finding on:

  • Providing HGH at the optimal times to support height and muscle development.

  • Figuring out ways to accumulate wealth they can eventually access and avoid taxes.

  • Ways to give them maximum freedom of movement/flexible citizenship.

  • Ensuring they're guided away from porn/blue-pill sexuality guidance and (ideally) start off with more information on TECHNIQUE than I did. I think they'll figure this out themselves but I'm struggling to figure out how to do it without a profoundly weird conversation.

Put another way, I'm willing to take on risk to maximize long-term benefit for them, at what I think is a higher rate than the baseline parent. Off-the-wall thoughts and criticisms appreciated.

Selecting their friend group is probably one of the more important things. No idea how to do that though.


Most children and teenagers have no idea how to dress and groom themselves. Lookism is everywhere. Ergo, make sure that they look good. If they want to be cyber-goth and you can't stop them, at least make sure that they dress as good-looking cyber-goth.

Also make sure that they exercise. As in, they have a fitness program and measure progress.

Both of these require you to act the example, but you already do that, right?


In their teenage years, you want them to have good references for their college applications and for job searches: Find a good friend who runs a company. Pay them under the table to hire you kid to a prestigious position for their age, and provide glowing references when asked.


This is pretty far down the line, but there's been discussions in rationalist circles about "speedrunning" collage, e.g. https://old.reddit.com/r/slatestarcodex/comments/yqtwit/speedrunning_high_school_and_college/

I think the benefits of this are pretty clear, even though most commentators seem to be against it for IMO bad reasons: If you finish college one year faster, it's one less year of being stuck in an institution and one year extra of prime-life freedom. Also, finishing college one year early looks very good on your CV.

Setting your children up for this should be pretty easy. Get an idea of if they want to go into higher education and if so: what school and field a few years in advance.

  1. Find the course material and start working trough it (easier if you homeschool).

  2. Give them permission to do this weird thing: https://astralcodexten.substack.com/p/secrets-of-the-great-families

  3. Help them make a plan for their university years. What courses go which year? Should they aim to finish as fast as possible with the lowest possible passable grades, or should they strive for a certain GPA?

  4. Hire them a private tutor (it's weird how few university students do this, the gains are enormous)

  5. For the unethical part: help them cheat. Help them write their papers etc. Collage is only signaling anyway.

I've considered a ton of this!

Agreed on Dress Well, this is something I agree with that I came to far too late in life. Sucks cause my parents tried to help out. In terms of exercise and fitness, I did/do OK on this but could be better.

In terms of speed running college, I'm super into points 1-4. I'm down to help my kids cheat in high school because the material is so worthless and such a waste of time, but there wasn't a whole lot of collegiate course work that was worth throwing away.

One challenge I'd find is that I absolutely loved college, more than my first couple years out of it. Perhaps the deal could be that if they finish in 3 they can hang out and audit classes with their buddies/make money tutoring.

Cheating in college may still be worth it even if the material is worth learning. Writing a thesis is a pain, you don't learn much from the constant re-editing and messing with LaTeX. Having some help on that is useful. And there might be a single course your stuck on (happens to the best).

I didn't love university much, but I can see the point of doing it at normal pace if you enjoy it. I've still have a hard time seeing how 5 years of college trumps 4 years of 25% more college + 1 year doing whatever you want.

Force them to do things - many ppl I know had upper middle class upbringings but never experienced things like their parents throwing parties and them helping, regular weekend activities like going to church etc. This helps indirectly but should benefit long term.

Languages and stuff that are harder to learn later

Have multiple kids so you dont pin your hopes on 1 or 2 kids. I think 3+ adds enough variance

Seconding homeschooling. If you can teach them the Art of Problem Solving curriculum, awesome. If not, you might get some mileage out of it yourself.

I'm interested in pushing the boundaries of what I can do in order to give my kid(s) a leg up in the future

Leg up? Get your children to prestigious schools, where they meet children of rich and powerful and possibly befriend them.

This - connections, knowing people who know people - is the sauce for success. This is what prestigious education is about, this is what people are paying for.

that may not be typical

Pursuing the best education is not untypical, but knowing what exactly makes prestigious schools the best is definitely untypical, most normies still feel it is about knowledge and learning.

All other things you named are optional.

Look at rich and powerful people - are they handsome and good looking? are they strong and athletic? are they learned and knowledgeable? No, because they do not have to be.

Look at rich and powerful people - are they handsome and good looking? are they strong and athletic? are they learned and knowledgeable? No, because they do not have to be.

Ah but see there's the disconnect. I don't care about rich - I care about wealthy-enough-to-never-worry. I don't care about power over other people, just power over self.

Of course being a billionaire with a Jet is perhaps the ultimate version of this, but I don't believe in setting low probability goals or those that select for sociopathy. Each generation of my family has improved its lot significantly. I'm looking to continue that progress and give it an upper hand, not shoot for world domination.

Stimulant prescription for ADHD.

The drugs work even on neurotypical people, not just people with ADHD like me.

I certainly could have used them in calc class, I'll say that much. But I wouldn't advice seeking them until they're in their teens.

My challenge with Adderall was that it was great for studying, but horrible for during a test.

I'd probably want to save it as a weapon until college and have a pretty strict ration - probably 10 doses a semester or something.

It's hilarious how there's still such a stigma against it. A college peer of mine (who's arguably far smarter and motivated) was scandalized when he figured out I'd used it to study for one of our tests and accused me of wrecking the curve. My dad's always said something like "It's speed! Legal speed! Be careful!" despite my brother having a prescription.

You sound motivated, and HGH administration at critical junctions, combined with nutrition, sound promising. Would you be willing to share your findings with TheMotte in a dedicated post once you figure out a protocol? I'm not aware of any parenting groups, or any community in general, which might discuss this like a redpill PUA forum might when entertaining this sort of heterodoxy. But if you find any I'd like to hear about them.

  1. Employ them in your own business and have them contribute most of their earnings to an IRA, 1-3 extra compundings makes those contributions enormous. You can't contribute to an IRA without earned income though. For example in 45 years 10000 turns into roughly 250,000 at 7% cagr. In 60 years it turns into more like 700,000.

  2. Teach them how to cook nothing fancy just enough they won't be scared to read a new recipe and make it.

Criticism, here. As a parent of two boys and a great admirer of many of those who post here, I feel compelled to try and ward you off the baser suggestions here involving unethical behavior designed to fast-track your kids. Unless you want to teach them by example that ethics/morality are simply tools to be either used for a purpose or discarded if they create an obstacle or moment of tedium.

I teach, as it happens, and I'm more and more aware of a need to generally guard my online identity so I won't go into detail, but when I catch students cheating one of my first thoughts is: Who raised you to do this? And I am not (quite) naive enough to think adults don't also cheat, in school, at work, in sports, wherever. A lot. And I am always disappointed.

Maybe, as someone here has written, it's true that all of university is "signaling." To me that seems a pretty juvenile take. And even if it's true, so what? There is, or I think there should be, such a thing as personal integrity, and that's something that can only be modelled, not taught.

My sobs (sons, that's a typo I will leave) are still young, preteen and new teen. The difficult, rebellious years are still ahead of us. And technology is no great friend to the conscientious parent. So I suppose they're works in progress and I don't even have the usual personal examples to offer up as evidence. And if you believe Pinker, peers seem to have more influence on kids' character-molding than parents' anyway.

Which leads to my ine bit if advice: Be aware of peer groups. And I don't mean that you ought rate them by social class or networking potential in later life when Becka is starting ballet lessons or applying to Vassar. Or whether they're of the right socioeconomic caliber. My own best friend of nearly 50 years came feom rough family, started in the military right out of high school, became a cop, and is now a welder, firmly situated in the working class. But he has raised a family, owns two homes, and is of such solid moral character and loyalty as a friend that I would die with him and for him if it came to it (or at least this is my conviction, who knows how I would react if we did, in fact, have to face the dragon together). And I suppose I can thank my parents for not chasing him off as an undesirable when we were kids. Maybe they saw something in him. Or maybe I got lucky.

There's no conclusion to this. I typed it with my phone with difficulty. Another voice, anyway.

My criticism is that your post reads like your ultimate priority is ensuring your kids can accumulate as much status as humanly possible. There are aspects of this that are reasonable to care about, as a parent: keeping them out of poverty, crime, or damaging social dysfunction. But what's the point of maximizing returns beyond that? You say you've gone through the usual parenting strategies, which presumably takes care of the essentials -- why is ensuring your kids develop good character not the natural priority then?

To be frank, the reason I skipped over a lot of non-status elements is because I really feel like I have those covered.

I'm not a piece of shit, my wife definitely isn't, and almost nobody in our extended family is either. From a moral/good character perspective I just feel like we have that on lock and would have to fuck up royally to have things go any differently.

Even with these status maximization techniques there's going to have to be lessons with them. As an example, I've always been very good with women, but that's worthless if you're destructive to the people you're fucking/having relationships with. The bar should be that everyone views you as a net positive in their life, even if there's a little pain or wistfulness when things don't work out.

You can be an amazing athlete at school or what have you, but you'll 100% regret treating anyone in your peer group badly or being a bully. There's no reason for it.

I could go on but basically I think it's sort of boring table-stakes that should be expected out of a functional parent.

I would strongly advise against messing about with substances, because they're easy to fuck up and turn into massive side effects that derail your entire plan. However, a better diet can probably add a few inches; if you can get your kid eating liver on a regular basis, for example, it's likely that they'll get a bit taller and higher IQ in adulthood.

It's pretty well documented, I believe, how far ahead of their peers bright and well motivated kids can get if they're homeschooled. Obviously if you have kids you're wanting to be well ahead of their peers, public school(and the Catholic school system, as well) is going to be more interested in encouraging conformity with the rest of their class than in bringing them as far as they'll go, unless you manage to get them into a gifted and talented program.

In terms of freedom of movement/flexible citizenship, finding a way to get dual citizenship with the US/schengen area is probably option #1. If you're American and can't manage dual citizenship with a Schengen country, dual citizenship with Mexico(or another hispanic latin american country) will bring them a substantial part of the way there; Spain has special rules for immigration if you hold a passport issued by one of their former colonies. I'm unsure of if Portugal and Brazil have the same arrangement.

if you can get your kid eating liver on a regular basis, for example, it's likely that they'll get a bit taller and higher IQ in adulthood.

Huh. I'd never heard of this before (or of any substantial nutritional effect on height other than from calories and calcium, for that matter), but apparently Vitamin A has a decent effect size. On a quick skim it looks like studies are hinting at Vitamin A deficiency being a solvable problem (the effects are seen in poor/malnourished/stunted kids, are seasonal, etc) rather than supernormal Vitamin A levels giving a boost, but maybe a deeper dig would find that too...

It's pretty well documented, I believe, how far ahead of their peers bright and well motivated kids can get if they're homeschooled. Obviously if you have kids you're wanting to be well ahead of their peers, public school(and the Catholic school system, as well) is going to be more interested in encouraging conformity with the rest of their class than in bringing them as far as they'll go, unless you manage to get them into a gifted and talented program.

I agree with this. Unfortunately, my spouse isn't onboard. She went to Catholic school. If I'm being honest, I also don't think that she's got much of a teaching bone.

I suppose I don't see how this would be feasible if I'm the sole breadwinner and I'm also trying to make headway in things like high quality networking and creating inheritable status. I'm doing well on those, but I really only have the opportunity to take my kids working out with me and helping with yard work - I can't be running classes too.

So then your best option would be either a gifted and talented program or pulling them from school after they’ve passed a GED to go through the community college system(in Texas, at least, there are special programs for this that allow kids who do this to also earn a high school diploma. Not sure about other states.)

A lot of success comes from your network and how well you can leverage it. So increasing how social your kids are will help. Get them involved in many activities. If you can get them in events where they'll rub elbows with people above their social class, that would probably help a lot.

You also need to socialize your kids with people older than them, particularly adults. I've noticed a lot of young people seem to have been confined to the 'kids table' throughout their lives (and I don't just mean at big holiday meals, but in any situation where adults are present). And there seems to be no point at which they transition to sitting with adults beyond their age; they are always relegated to their peer group. This goes on until they graduate college, and suddenly they are thrust into the real world, and they are basically socially inept at communicating with their elders. Then they self-segregate, gravitating towards people their age, and miss out on opportunities.

A lot of success comes from your network and how well you can leverage it.

Seconding this, and to turn it to another direction for @yofuckreddit , the best thing you can do to min-max for your kid is to be successful yourself. Have the networks where when your kid needs a job/loan/college acceptance/date/advice from an eminent person/institution he won't be some schmuck off the street, he'll be yofuckreddit's boy, from the very respected fuckreddit family. That will get your child much further than HGH.

A great family name is much better than game. A library named after you will get you into a much better school than 50 points on your SAT, and it will get you special attention from a professor that might make your career. Tons of great business successes start with family contacts, just having local people that will pick up the phone when you call or vouch for you to someone else is a huge leg up. And having rich friends is wealth you can access any time you need it, and is extraordinarily hard to take away from you, at a floor it can be a job or a bed in the pool house when you need it.

How do you plan on preventing your son from developing a video game or porn addiction or your daughter from scrolling TikTok for 4 hours before she goes to bed? Internet/phone overuse is a major failure mode for kids fucking up their future potential nowadays.

Im no parent, but I think everything you can possibly do will have to be done before they turn 13 and their peer group turns into their whole world.

I just think far too much is outside of your control.

How do you plan on preventing your son from developing a video game or porn addiction or your daughter from scrolling TikTok for 4 hours before she goes to bed?

I don't think I can stop it. There's the balance of enabling them to have social experiences with their peer group but trying to restrict what I think is most destructive. However, I've got a couple ideas:

  • There's a ton of routers that enable MAC address blocking, and "quiet times" and there's basic parental controls for smartphones. I think dumphones until as long as possible.

  • I'm also considering allowing the kids to play older school single player video games and letting them "unlock" eras as they complete them. 2 birds here - there's a lot of history and excellent experiences they'd miss otherwise, and this will get them a bit of the itch scratched without being

Im no parent, but I think everything you can possibly do will have to be done before they turn 13 and their peer group turns into their whole world.

I'm less pessimistic here. I think there's a valley of parental influence after 13, but it ticks back up later on. I see that in not just myself, but a lot of other people I've known.

  • There's a ton of routers that enable MAC address blocking, and "quiet times" and there's basic parental controls for smartphones. I think dumphones until as long as possible.
  • I'm also considering allowing the kids to play older school single player video games and letting them "unlock" eras as they complete them. 2 birds here - there's a lot of history and excellent experiences they'd miss otherwise, and this will get them a bit of the itch scratched without being

I don't know about you or your kids, but if your kids are even remotely disagreeable this will backfire spectacularly.

There would be little worse than your kids telling their peers "oh my dad doesn't let me play those games and watch those movies".

I am very disagreeable, and whenever my parents used to try things like this with me, I would usually try to do it anyways, or tip the scales less in their favor somewhere else.

I'd classify myself as pretty disagreeable. My relationship with my parents was horrible from 13-21 because of it. The story I always tell is getting a PS1 3 months after the PS2 came out and I wasn't allowed on the internet on my own computer till 15.

Things were still so different then - you physically had to go to someone's house to LAN to do great multiplayer so that was still so much more social than how gaming works now.

It may end up blowing up in my face. I think a little bleeding-edge modernity would be OK in moderation. I've had someone else on this forum challenge me for giving my toddler fruit juice every once in a while which I really don't understand. I like having a cup of cranberry twice a week, and I don't know if I'd have the heart to say "You won't get to play VR shooters at all until you're 21!" They just won't be able to do it till 3am all weekend.

They just won't be able to do it till 3am all weekend.

Ok, so what else are they going to be doing until 3 AM all weekend? "Hanging out with friends" isn't actually a bad default option; you'll have to provide something they want to get up for that's sufficiently early to keep them from that default state.

My relationship with my parents was horrible from 13-21 because of it.

I've observed that parents can get into this fascinating mode-lock where one's child effectively stops aging at around 13, and aren't capable of recognizing them as older until they're married. I'm almost certain that's because 13-14 is the age one's biological clock says "you're a grown wo/man, and you need to leave the nest now!"; most pre-industrial societies had/have adult initiation rituals around this age for that reason, Judaism's being the most prominent surviving example (and this was also the way it worked in Western society until approximately the end of WW2- most of the Silent generation only had education up to grade 8-10 for a good reason).

Remember, optimizing for independence means you're optimizing for the ability of your kid to not only tell you "no, I know better", but expecting to have the ability to actually follow through (even if the decision is, indeed, objectively bad). "I'm going to get a summer job" necessarily implies "because I want stuff you won't buy me, and I expect to use my property the way I want, which is also the reason all my friends have them".

And you can either tolerate that... or you can't, but you can't also claim to "be optimizing for independence" in the same breath.

(And god forbid you ever tell them that's what you're optimizing for, or even imply it with your actions, when you're trying to deny them independence they know their friends have, because if you do that they'll absolutely give that line right back to you; and it's worse as they'll be in the right so you'll go "ugh why can't they be act like they used to, clearly they're on their period it's raging hormones", etc.)

Might as well get them the "I thought I wanted this, but it turns out it's not worth it, therefore I'll think harder about it next time" trait while they still have help picking up the pieces/the benefit of no significant problems later, rather than going full rumspringa the minute they leave the safety net like college students are infamous for doing (partially for that reason).

My hot take on this for optimizing: Americans have it backwards, the old school Victorian aristocrats had it right. Send them away to boarding school from 13-18, bring them back to live at home 18-marriage.

My parents would have had it way better if I'd been living somewhere else during my shitty annoying teenage years, and I was much better and more around the house useful at 18. And I had the capability at 18 to get into much more interesting trouble, I needed guidance then not at 13! It wasn't the time to set me loose with no supervision!

I couldn't have done all that much worse in high school anyway, and I think being away from my family might have helped me be less of a piece of shit teenager.

I was actually sent to a (far away) boarding school almost exactly in that age bracket. In my opinion it did not actually help our relationship with my parents much as we kept fighting as much as we used to in the 1-2 years prior, but this time over the phone and during vacations. But maybe this was still preferable to what would have happened if I stayed home, as I was an extremely disagreeable teenager and my parents weren't great at reasoning with me either.

Remember, optimizing for independence means you're optimizing for the ability of your kid to not only tell you "no, I know better", but expecting to have the ability to actually follow through (even if the decision is, indeed, objectively bad). "I'm going to get a summer job" necessarily implies "because I want stuff you won't buy me, and I expect to use my property the way I want, which is also the reason all my friends have them".

I 100% understand where you're coming from. A job is a great example - I'll make the tradeoff of them learning to work in exchange for them being able to afford shitty fast food and a couple grams of weed.

Trying to limit access to porn until they're old enough to at least hear my speeches about what's good and bad isn't killing my ability to foster self-sufficiency. At the end of the day, parenting really is constantly testing risk/reward for asserting control over kids. I was allowed to make some pretty massive mistakes that I learned from, and that's still going to be the play overall.

Im no parent, but I think everything you can possibly do will have to be done before they turn 13 and their peer group turns into their whole world.

That is good advice.