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Culture War Roundup for the week of June 23, 2025

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I know little on autism diagnoses. I have a cousin who might be autistic, and then also one friend who is autistic, she's a former FTM who transitioned ~2011, married a man at about the same time and they're still together, moved out of the country and detransitioned a few years later. She's appreciably different from any of my other friends, especially compared to the ones who describe themselves as on the spectrum, but she and I mostly swap pictures of our dogs and I've had some burning questions, assuming you don't mind answering:

  1. Did you read much as a child? If so, what?
  2. You mention childhood hallmarks of social issues, did you have few friends? One best friend? Are you friends still? How long have you known your oldest friend?
  3. Are you attracted to the opposite sex? When did you first notice?
  4. And this one's just angled at MLP; have you ever read or watched Japanese shoujo? If yes, had you before MLP?
  1. Voraciously, from age 3, whatever I could get my hands on that looked interesting but focusing on sci-fi almost exclusively from my teenage years onward.
  2. One best friend, serially, and I lost touch with each as he or I moved on. My oldest friend I've known for fourteen years.
  3. Yes, teen years.
  4. I watch anime when the show suited me, including shoujo series Sailor Moon in the mornings before high school and Tenchi Muyo! on Toonami in the decades before MLP. I'd also watched MLP G1 in the 80's for the adventure fantasy stories but shunned the song segments.