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I don't wear lipstick because I hate the sensation of it on my mouth, but bright red lipstick is considered "sexy" and does draw attention to your mouth. So if you have a wide mouth, for example, then it will be a lot more prominent. All below is my own personal aesthetics, so don't take it as gospel.
Brinton has a potato head (apologies to the person but that is their head and face shape). This picture shows how the bright red mouth makes their entire face/head look unbalanced (the shaven/bald head means a lot of empty space). So down-playing their features is the best way to go, not emphasising them. I don't know what they were like when they had hair, but their beard is ginger, so yeah: red hair and bright red lipstick is a bad combo. "Ordinary and conventional as possible" is the way to go here. Or else have a full face of make-up, because they have narrow/small eyes so they need to use something to 'open' their eyes up. Their nose is also snub (to be kind), i.e. short and broad.
But as I said, this is my own opinion only. The bald head doesn't help because it creates more territory for their facial features and so gives them a more oblong shape. All kinds of guides online as to how to apply makeup for your face shape, like this one.
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