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There's forms of incompatibility that are just 'figure it out' and whatever you get, you get and that becomes your expectations. There's also forms of incompatibility that have massive mismatches in desire that don't care what each partner's expectations are, or where one partner has such limited desire that it's obvious to anyone who can look at other families and do math, so on. And then there's forms where a couple literally can't have penetrative sex to completion, either because the guy's pushing rope the entire time, the woman's gone to such an extreme level of vaginismus that no level of stretching is going to solve the problem without blood, or one person's only comfortable position is another person's snapped frenulum (you don't want to know).
Worse, there's a reason deadbedrooms is such a horror show, and it's not because I think anyone's going to die from blue balls (blue ovaries?). Even the traditional right-hand rule solution to the biological problem can leave the other partner wildly demoralized, and the bonding that most people get from sexual behavior papers over a lot of things that would be extremely frustrating in a roommate or a long-term guess.
There probably are alternative solutions to this problem, but very few of them are compatible with social conservative interests (even those used historically!), and many of them have other downsides.
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