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The intersubjective element isn't the only concern; there's also the personal issue - of regret.
There's some empirical evidence that males tend to regret the sex they didn't have, while women tend to regret the sex they did have (as you say, we come up with cultural justifications for this). Might want to factor in future regret as a cost of picking the wrong strategy.
I've seen other men in this position say similar things and I really wonder if they're just using a female regret-reduction model (especially when they're also passive - not a good male strategy).
If OP knows himself and regret isn't a potential issue...well then ignore the general tendency. But something worth considering.
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