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If you're looking for a more traditional but still secular romance, first gen immigrants from Asia might be a good option (if that appeals to you and there are any where you live).
Even in my small town, first generation Asian immigrants are present, though not in huge numbers. However, I don't know any, and cold approaching is scary to me. I also question the assumption that Asian immigrants would be much different. I was talking to a Chinese girl on a language learning app, and she described the same dynamic I see: traditionalist upbringing that sex was special, falls for the first man that pays attention to her when she starts college, gets burned by him, but realizes that she has a high sex drive and starts to convert more to the sexual liberalism thing.
I will give you that Asians are hot, though it would make me wonder if I should use a sperm bank to make the kids all-Chinese instead of just half. That has its own benefits because I don't know if mental illness and overthinking run in my blood. Also the kids could speak Chinese and English, but Chinese writing is dumb and the kids would probably turn out illiterate. My idea was that American citizenship would be something valuable I could bring to the relationship, but plane tickets are expensive and there's so much you don't get about someone through text. It was okay practice for talking to women, though. Turns out they're not really that much different from men in terms of personality, they just have different things they're interested in, and conversation is about finding mutual interests. Also that girl is really nice. I told her so many things about myself that I thought would be weird and make her stop talking to me but she was so accepting of everything.
As an aside, "Kill Your Inner Loser" is a guide for dating apps that I have seen posted here more than once by people that presumably find it helpful. My reaction was shock. "This is what it takes to be successful on dating apps??" That guide is disgusting to me. I thought to myself I'd rather stay single forever than do that, because that guide isn't who I am and isn't even who I want to be.
There's all types of people everywhere, but at least in my anecdotal experience the distribution is different.
I'd strongly suggest against this, kids are orders-of-magnitude safer with their biological fathers than with step-fathers.
Yeah, the distribution is probably a lot more favorable.
The sperm bank thing was a weird thing to suggest, sorry, but I don't think that it makes sense to put that type of parenthood in the same slot as "stepfather". That's a totally different thing than marrying into some kids.
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