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Well, innocence of personality can be endearing. And chastity, continence, fidelity, strength, self-control are admirable character features in both men and women.
But purity isn't any attribute of the beloved themselves, it's just an imagined state of non-contamination by sex: for instance, feeling that a woman is pure when no cocks have ever touched her but impure when 1,000 cocks have touched her, whatever. That's a clear setup for a fetish-based arousal, i.e. arousal by a thing itself separated from the person, because the energy of the appeal comes from one's feelings toward the contaminant, not toward the partner themselves.
For some folks, it appears to be impulse of underlying disgust for one's own sexuality, the virginal submissive tradwife envisioned as a retreat from all those dirty whores and your uncomfortable desire/repulsion toward them. For others, it seems more motivated by aggression/dominance and the appeal of getting to be the one whose sexual contact destroys the pure thing. Either way, the big complex feelings driving that attraction would be between the guy and his own self-image, not actually between the guy and his partner.
Which is a point the article also makes, actually, when the writer realizes that all the gooners' cave photos seem to center on their own erect penis standing up in the middle.
If a man married a virgin and then lost sexual interest in her after the wedding night, when she was no longer a virgin, it would be fair to say that he suffered from a virginity fetish. But as a practical matter I've never heard of that happening, which suggests that something else is going on.
Seriously? Stories of guys eagerly pursuing naive virgins, seducing them with promises of marriage, then becoming becoming disgusted and rejecting them once they succumb ("I could never marry such a slut") are commonplace to the point of cliché through most of Western history. If you don't hear as much about the dynamic in the context of marriage, it's because (a) people generally have more serious reasons than pure arousal for entering or maintaining a binding economic contract, and (b) the SOP for a man who's less aroused by his wife has not been to shout it from the rooftops but just to pursue alternative options elsewhere.
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