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Wellness Wednesday for November 5, 2025

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Okay, here’s the part you might not like. The only free version of this that I personally know of is church.

Yeah, people keep recommending that to me, despite my being a lifelong atheist who's never attended before. Though mostly from different reasons than what you seem to be pushing. Because I don't see the point of just sitting and neither listening to the sermons nor interacting with anyone.

You don’t want a megachurch

I don't think we have any big enough in Anchorage to fit that description

I would say you want to ID every church in a distance you think is achievable in winter time, then go check them all out.

I've kind of looked at them, and none seem like good fits.

Find one that has about 75-100 people in the pews

That sounds bigger than most of the churches around here, from what I've seen.

Bring an audiobook or something, put in an earbud

Isn't this both rude, and get in the way of the point of going, which is to meet and interact with new people? Because I don't see any point to just being around a bunch of people.

and just get used to being around a number of other people

You say that like I have a problem with "being around a number of other people."

If anyone says anything to you, just make the usual mouth noises

Having never attended a church, and being an unbeliever, I have no idea what those are.

Please don’t join a cult.

That rules out the closest church, because it's part of a Mexican cult. The "no whites allowed" Samoan church moved elsewhere. So that just leaves the black Baptist church that advertises local Democrat politicians, or the Lutheran church with the woman pastor whose LinkedIn page has the usual rainbow flags.