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This makes me think about the bravado culture that many blacks, who most people here wouldn't consider problematic, get trapped into. It is such a pervasive, and sometimes unavoidable, mindset. You will occasionally hear other blacks talk about the absurdity of it, and how the only real way to win a disagreement is through violence. We've all seen a convenience store video or two (or a hundred) of a young black male shooting another young black for the grave sin of bumping into him without apologizing, or something similar. The only recourse in these areas is violence and/or revenge violence, and the cycle just continues to perpetuate itself. They are told from a young age that whites, and more specifically police, are the enemy and not to be trusted. The result is that the only real justice to be had is the street kind. The blacks that win through nonviolent means, via an argument, or a scoff or anything else are dealt with in the same violent way so that the only real way to win is through violence. It's a bucket of crabs culture that needs serious intervention, but one that won't accept the hard truths being said from their white "enslavers." They'd rather latch onto the enablers who tell them the problem is someone else's fault and not theirs. It's a very human thing to not want to accept accountability when a short term path of less resistance presents itself constantly.
I do feel for the blacks who recognize the dysfunction and who criticize it. They are stuck in a uniquely difficult position. They criticize and hate the norms around them, and they are predictably labeled as sellouts or worse by their own people. "You a bitch." They have more in common personality-wise with the average white but they also know they don’t fully fit into white communities either, because they carry the background and experiences that their white peers don’t. That limbo position has to be psychologically brutal, and I know a lot of people quietly live in it.
I believe Ta-Nehisi Coates has an anecdote from when he was a young man, new to the white-collar world, where basically he was ready to physically fight some guy who was arguing with him, and an older guy had to step in to talk him down and also explain to him that starting a fight in that situation would have almost certainly wrecked his budding career.
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