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Can't speak for them directly, but personally the daughter would be relevant because I would care significantly more if it were my daughter than me.
To answer further questions, if you sent it directly to my friends + family I would be very unhappy (though that's rather the whole point of the anonymity concerns).
If posted online with my name (so it would show up on Google etc, though once again rather the point of anonymity concerns) I'd be moderately unhappy since that means there's a decent chance friends, family or potential employers would stumble upon it.
Posted without my identifying info, I'd be a bit wigged out if people I knew personally happened to stumble upon it but its existence on the net to be used by strangers would not bother me much.
If kept on your hard drive for you and maybe a horny pc repair guy to find it I wouldn't mind at all, assuming no personally identifying info attached so the horny pc repair guy can't do scenarios 1 or 2.
If it were my child (thinking on it I would mind quite a bit if it were my son too), I would be distressed to a greater degree about all the above scenarios.
Hope that helps clear it up, that the degree of separation is being used because it is perceived as worse.
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