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I'll correct you in a moment about it being my argument - the thing I'm trying to convey are the observations behind the arguments, any interpretation / argument / conclusion I make ("the gods struck down Diane Keaton as just retribution for her poor hospitality") should be assumed as for rhetorical effect and unimportant in its details or accuracy - but: same. I too dislike the fuzziness, the lack of conceptual boundaries.
Do I need to even write out the punchline here? Best start believing in ghost stories, Reeves-ian "whoa", facts / feelings, etc.
Disliking the fuzziness of the underlying reality is a matter of taste. Like all likes or dislikes. Understand that now, right now, you're telling me that you're too emotionally upset about the possibility that reality itself is fuzzy and lacks conceptual boundaries to process that as a possibility.
That may not have been your intention. Read your actual words again from the eyes of someone with no access to your thoughts, feelings, or intents. Internally, in your own feed, you should stick a gigantic mental flag every time you feel yourself going down a path that begins with "I don't like" and it isn't something like picking ice cream flavors. You may still be totally correct in your conclusions. You should be very suspicious of yourself though.
Anyway - the reality is fuzzy. Sorry. And they're not my arguments.
I apologize if you got the impression that I was saying it did. If you re-read my post with the understanding that I'm absolutely sincere when I tell you that I agree with everything you said about no residual guilt or responsibility, you'll see that we're saying the same thing. I used a fleshy appendage metaphor. But we are so close in our thoughts here that you could pluck them from one of our brains, transport them to the other, and neither of us would even notice that it wasn't "our" thought. We agree because it is correct. It is obviously and fundamentally true.
Yes, many radical leftists / rightists / feminists / chauvinists are correct in some parts of their critiques and then go off into crazy town when they try to ascribe meaning or responsibility to these things. You should not feel any guilt - I do not feel any guilt - over things for which you are not responsible. Your sexuality is one of those things. Doesn't matter if that cashes out into accepting someone for being gay or a statistically average heterosexual man. The conclusions are completely reversible because the underlying reality is always the same: people aren't responsible in many significant ways for who they are. They are responsible for their choices in a practical, we didn't choose to live together but we are, and self-improvement / locus of control sense. But they will fuck up badly and every one of them has fucked up badly and judging someone because their fuck up is a different shade of retarded than your fuck ups is ridiculous.
But even the bug nuts craziest people are correct when they say something that is correct.
I'm just saying - you don't need to feel guilty about your maleness, desire, or sexual escapades, and then pretending the radfems have a point to compensate. It's okay. So, that is my emotional-psychological read of the situation. You can stick a mental flag on that.
Consider it stuck. I have regret for some actions for personal reasons that make them actually regrettable for me. I don't think I'm trying to curry favor with the radfems - as you correctly note, they would happily take my balls for all kinds of things I have done, will do, and functionally cannot change as they're part of the body I didn't chose to be born into but also don't condemn - but my own motives should always be most suspect.
Reader, you should listen to Tintin here. They are speaking the truth in the parts they are correct, which in this case are the important parts.
But I'm not pretending. I agree they have points that are correct when the evidence shows they have points which are directionally correct. You did too. It is good that we both believe that we don't need to prevaricate or feel regret about saying true things.
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