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How is that relevant when there are a ton of men (and women) complaining about being unable to find a partner, who don't say those kind of things? Aren't you just focusing on what you consider aesthetically displeasing (and is most likely downstream of the cause(s)), and by doing so talking past people who want to discuss the actual issue?
Aren't you violating the rules now by straw-manning people? Crowstep nor Faceh seem to suggest to use the threat of starvation. It seems pretty clear to me that the system Faceh describes curtails the choices of both men and women. Ignoring that first part by pretending that only women's choices would be limited, and then also framing that curtailing in an unreasonable way, suggests that you are incapable or unwilling to actually debate the real beliefs of the other person.
The entire 'settle or starve'-framing is completely absurd anyway, since in traditional cultures, women are or would be fed by her parents until marriage, or by the church. In those relatively poor cultures, the parents would want the daughter to marry early to offload the burden of providing from the parents to the husband. That starvation/severe poverty was a possibility was not by design. It was a consequence of food being expensive in the past and governments being poor, so they couldn't have welfare like today, nor have parents take care of their children for a very long period in most cases.
I think that one of the reasons for the decline of traditional marriage is that modern wealth has reduced the benefits of marriage, not just to the people themselves, but also to their parents and society as a whole. So the social pressure has declined.
However, if the resulting behavior is actually very bad for most people, then isn't it a fair suggestion to try to restore that behavior? If you want to discuss the mechanisms to do so, wouldn't it be better to ask people what they propose, rather than accusing them of making proposals that they never actually did propose?
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