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I think it's about ~3/20 for me. Some of the women in the Not Marriage Material category are very nice people that I have nothing but fond memories of, but they just weren't smart enough to be someone that I'd want to spend my remaining years with. A couple of them were actually pretty terrible people, but came around at times that I needed an ego boost, or that I was desperate enough to tolerate terribleness. The three that were in the Marriage Material group:
Girlfriend that I was with for nearly three years during grad school and the beginning of my postdoc. Foreign, very religious, sweet demeanor, very attractive. She's probably a fantastic wife and mother. We eventually had too many conflicts - language, religion, her dislike of my hobbies, me generally being an asshole for no good reason at that age, and more. If we'd met at a different time, I probably would have figured it out, although I suspect I wouldn't have been happy. She deserved to be treated better and I hope she has been.
Brief fling with a girl that worked in my lab for the summer. Genuinely amazing person, absolutely hilarious, very kind. I have nothing but positive things to say about her, but she went back to Scotland after summer and we didn't try to make that work.
My wife. Marrying her was among the easiest decisions I've ever made in my life. We've been together over a decade and have never had an actual argument. I think I could reroll life many times and never find someone that I fit with more easily.
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