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I assume Amadan is being sarcastic here, because it’s a silly comparison.
I have a hard time when discussions of dating come up because my personal experience is just not that women’s standards are unreasonable.
Despite being socially awkward and not meeting any of the 6/6/6 qualifications, I’ve been able to meet and date my fair share of athletic, attractive, interesting 20-something’s. (Not so much submissive and agreeable because I find those unattractive.) Many of my friends have as well.
We have all agreed that our greatest difficulty is finding women who are sufficiently interesting with good chemistry. It is genuinely hard to find people with compatible lifestyles (My most specific gripe is that many women (and men!) spend most of their time consuming shortform videos and very few actually live intentionally, but I have found plenty who care about life.), but my rejection rate among women I’m interested in is not unreasonably high. I’m not bragging here, certainly I’m not having crazy success, but my experience leads me to believe the problem doesn’t lie with either gender, and are more a result of broader weakening of social ties. (Or geography. If you don’t live near a city then it is harder)
If I can offer any thoughts, I think many men and women don’t know their market. Most people don’t want ‘most people’, they want a more specific type of person. If your standard for a woman is ‘young + hot’ then you will be rejected more often by that pool not because they have unreasonable standards, but because it’s too broad. If you pool is ‘young, hot, outdoorsy, wants a family, reads, etc.’ then you will have more success, (provided you fit in with that pool of course) In the first you get rejected 19/20 times, while in the second it may only be 2/3 times. Even though it’s smaller, it’s significantly more productive.
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