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Actual paedophiles (in the sense of men primarily attracted to prepubescent children) exist, we even had one on the Motte. But they are vanishingly rare - the number of actual prepubescent kids molested by actual paedophiles each year in the UK appears to be in single figures.
Men fucking sexually mature teenage girls is illegal for good reasons, but it isn't really deviant - ephebophilia is just normal straight male sexuality, and 13 year old girls with periods used to be marriageable essentially everywhere (though rarely married in practice in cisHajnal cultures).
The other thing that is an unfortunate aspect of normalish sexuality is pederasty. The age at which a boy becomes attractive as a twink to a man who wants to fuck twinks is even younger than the age at which girls become attractive to ephebophiles - Greek boylove started when the boy was 12 or occasionally even younger. I think social scripts around modern gayness-based male homosexuality (versatile means bottom!) have developed in a way which mean that Greek-style boylove is no longer considered a normal part of male homosexuality and this has done more than horror at paedophilia to get NAMBLA kicked out of Pride.
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