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Um, it wouldn't?
No, not everyone knows that everyone is aware. The trans person himself does not know that everyone is aware. In particular he doesn't know that everyone else won't take issue with him being trans. So he doesn't want the subject brought up. Polite people know this and so uphold a social norm of not outing a trans person unless it's been made clear that he is ok with it. If he knew that everyone was aware, and observed that everyone is friendly and respectful to him, there would be little reason not to discuss the subject. One of the very useful things about common knowledge is the ability to freely discuss matters like this without potentially crossing someone's boundaries.
I figure that if one is deviating from sexual norms like that, they might be deviant in a way that makes them more likely to encounter transgender people. Regardless, people discuss disclosure because of the potential legal liability, not necessarily because it's so likely and frequent that a trans person passes to the point they have to think about disclosure. It's the same legal mindset that promotes always labeling "this package may contain walnuts" even if it's very unlikely to happen, simply because it reduces the 0.001% chance it does happen and results in a lawsuit for failure to disclose.
Bad example. The comments aren't even sure if the girl OP is referring to is even trans.
Hard to find an explanation for a random Reddit post when not much detail about the situation is given. Any arguments made would inevitably be smuggling in assumptions. Should I assume OP is an adult? How much dating experience has he had, especially with real women? When I was young (around 13) and didn't know much about the world, I incorrectly identified a girl as a boy, but now having seen more women I don't think I could make that mistake again.
Those signs aren't being used whenever I correctly identify someone's gender.
I admit I'm not the average person. I wouldn't be saying trans people don't pass if I've never actually seen a trans person in real life. But I have, many times, likely due to life circumstances I won't divulge here. I've met them and talked with them and know a lot about them. They are easy to clock.
My argument does not depend on any logical fallacies.
I still disagree.
I suspect that if I counted the number of noticeable toupees I've seen and divided it by the number of people in my daily life, it would not be proportional to the percentage of the population that wear toupees. Though it's probably hard to empirically test this when I've noticed zero toupees. Either way, I wouldn't argue that toupees look awful.
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