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I really don't think you can be "absolutely" certain about this one. I.e. you don't and can't know how worse your life could've been if you weren't tall.
I remember reading a chart a long time ago, probably in /r/blackpillscience, from some dating page, that showed ratings of men sorted by their and the woman raters. The was a mild positive correlation, but the important part was that the ratings fell catastrophically if the woman was taller. Basically the entire half below the diagonal was red. There's some pretty demonstrable assortative mating going on, the number of couples where man is the shorter one is much smaller than what you'd expect is people paired up regardless of height.
Anecdotally, I know a guy who successfully scored himself at least one girlfriend basically by towering over near her at a concert, then bending down to ask her something face to face. He didn't even mean to hit on her :D It helps that he also has a striking face, I don't want to doxx him but he looks very much like Yuya Fungami from JoJo part 4 anime, minus the tattoos.
(Also he was a founder of /r/UNBGBBIIVCHIDCTIICBG/. Small world.)
I may not be able to tell if things would’ve been worse for me, but I can observe everyone else around me who ‘isn’t’ me. And based on what I see, there’s zero evidence to me that suggests I incur some substantial advantage over others based on 3 inches, a foot, or whatever you want to say. I’m typically not into the content you’re referencing but I think you can cherry pick experiences any way you want to have it. Considering there are people much worse than me in the height department that seem to fare just fine, if height is the only variable you’re controlling for it doesn’t prove very much to me in my own experience. Yeah if I wasn’t as tall, things would not be as good for me as they are, but the presumption is that shorter people in general aren’t doing as well. And that straight up is completely false. I see it every day. If you want to say there’s ‘other’ things going for certain people that validate why that’s the case then that’s almost certainly true. Height isn’t a defining feature of why though.
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