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Attraction isn’t a choice, yet how many relationships today are the product of genuine mutual attraction? Sex work still happens among all kinds of parties and only one side is typically paid for it, precisely because the exchange isn’t normal and mutually desirable. Men pay for it either way, it’s called “marriage.” Only a woman who gives it up at absolutely no cost or price to the other party can be said to be doing it out of attraction. Attraction isn’t a necessary driving force for getting the two genders on with each other, but for the fact that the controls which typically mediated those arrangements got washed away beginning in the 1960’s. Inb4 some jagoff says “relations between the two weren’t a utopia back then either!” Yes, but that’s not the point.
Everyone will eventually put their hand on the stove and play with fire if there’s no downstream consequence to them doing so. If no measures were taken to prevent anyone from walking into a bank vault and taking whatever they wanted, you’d see a ‘massive’ upsurge overnight in the amount of ‘normal’ and ‘ethical’ people who engage in the activity. There’s nothing that would prevent even me from doing it, save for my own piety, which is absolutely at odds with the prudential value of my own self-interest. But “good will” is no way to predicate a society upon. If there were zero consequences to any man who chose to beat a woman for any reason he wanted to, you’d see things absolutely flip the other way and there would be enormous compromises on attraction. Only the utmost dysfunctional people would stay.
All individuals have their hidden kinks and preferences but that’s a very insignificant comparison to the ‘real’ violence they’d experience if they dreaded coming home every night because they didn’t know what was going to happen. You need to revive the social controls that keep both parties in check and on their best behavior. Punish dissent and detractors on both sides.
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