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A counter-example to Clav would be a Youtube channel like Sickos. It's six childhood friends who try to make viral videos by doing Redbull-fueled stunts into water, snow and dirt, and a big part of their videos is just six bros ribbing each other, goading each other to bigger stunts, partying together and just hanging out.
They've been doing that for half a decade now, and their fans (mostly tween boys, from the crowed they pull at fan meetup events) got to watch them progress pretty considerably in their extreme sports skills, get rejected by girls they hit on, meet long-term girlfriends for the first time, and become financially successful on Youtube. While most are conventionally attractive men, several of them are self-admitted short kings who struggle with approaching women. While most of them are extremely athletic, their wide variety of sports almost guarantees that at least one of them sucks at the sport they're filming at any given point, which gets exploited for laughs. They show that all that is OK. And a recurring part of their videos is showing that they're afraid before big stunts, and that overcoming fear is worth it.
They speak Clav's language, but mostly make fun of it. They're very aware of status (they often approach girls in clubs by telling them they have "surfed Nazaré" - highest wave in the world in winter, they surfed it in summer, neither of which most of the girls will be aware of) and "chester-maxxing/peakcocking" (they often go outfit shopping together before partying and end up buying crazy fits), but they always show that not taking those things to seriously is important.
Certainly not without its faults (getting this good at surfing/skiing/motocross it's an expensive way of life), but a much better world view than red pill/PUA/looksmaxxing culture.
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