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This seems stupid. If I was a billionaire intent on living a long and healthy life, I would probably get a full MRI scan once per quarter year. "Oh, we could have detected that tumor three years ago but the scan might have made you anxious" seems like a stupid way to die. If you care about anxiety, simply tell your medical staff not to tell you everything.
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Regarding the topic of men being dangerous, the elephant in the room is that bad boys and dark triad traits are broadly considered attractive by (some) women. There is certainly the trope of a woman falling for a guy who did time for some violent crime, and then becoming his next victim.
Some might call this victim-blaming, but I would argue that it is not. If I go into a bar full of bikers and loudly declare that their favorite brand of motorbikes is garbage, then I might find myself get assaulted. The one responsible for the assault would be whoever decides to punch me in the face, not me. However, far apart from the fact that people are morally and legally responsible for whom they assault, there exists the wisdom that my own behavior can have a bearing on the probability of me becoming victimized.
The main difference is that I am not naturally inclined to educate rockers on the technical superiority of Japanese bikes (or whatever). People can however not freely pick whom they are attracted to, telling women have you tried to be into low-T accountant types? is no more actionable than telling me if you were into guys, you could get laid with little effort.
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