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If you’re a terminally online man, that’s the only kind of women you’ll be exposed to. You’re going to be checking out baddies on instagram, not some woman sharing her hobonichi setup and fountain pen reviews.
Funny enough, this describes my SO and probably about half of the girlfriends in my friend bubble (as in women who I know because I was friends with their male partner first). Is stationerycore the meta for Mottizen types to find well-adjusted gfs?
My mom's social media is like this with lots of office setups, planners, and forms of paper-based organization, in addition to street food vendors and "OMG life in Japan/Korea is like the 22nd century." Organization and orderliness appeal to the professional woman.
My girlfriend's new obsession is mechanical keyboards, which girlyTok has discovered and is now a part of the "complete the ultimate feminine office setup" social media trend rotation. Linear switches are now being called "creamy."
I have no problem with this -- women deserve good keyboards too -- but yeah, women love stationarycore and office setups. I think it's just part of the larger trend of women beautifying any space they enter into.
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It’s also something I feel men could easily get into! It might be a hard ask to get Mottizens to be interested into crochet, but surely writing systematic colour coded checklists and buying fancy Japanese notebooks has to appeal to guys who are somewhat on the spectrum.
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