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I'm married with kids now and she's decidedly not those things. She's still great to talk to + a lot more popculture interests in common than my wife, but also my life is very much better than it'd be if I'd remained with her.
Unicorn hunting/open relationships as a guy just insane juice-to-squeeze ratio unless you're really good at scoring casual sex. I'm attractive enough to be capable of it but it's still a grind of apps and relationship management and not some sort of 'I'll organically go to da club and pull with chutzpah' thing so why do I want to add a massive chunk of complication and stress to my monogamous sex life by adding something I'd essentially consider a chore to occasionally get laid by another woman.
I'm a little interested that you two still talk, but I guess you transitioned into friends towards the end.
Normally unicorn hunting describes a couple looking to date together/trying to put together an MFF threesome. If you were essentially in an open relationship and dating/hooking up separately... yeah, that's a relationship that was about to end.
Glad to know you embraced monogamy and cisheteronormativity. It exists for a reason.
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