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I do not necessarily disagree with you, but I don't quite understand how you came to this interpretation.
UPD: I checked a few pages of the DB subreddit, and very few low-libido men on it are truly low-libido, as in, not really interested in sexual pleasure. At least half of them aren't attracted to their partner, a quarter have medical issues and are frustrated by the lack of sex drive. Less than a quarter are significantly less libidinous than their partner and consider themselves normal.
Sure, I think the low libido vs high libido terminology isn’t accurate, it’s about having a partner that doesn’t want to have sex with you, and this happens to women too.
If you’re brought up with the idea that men are always willing to have sex at any time, and that the way to satisfy a man and get him to marry you is to be “a whore in the sheets” for him, what do you do when it turns out your man doesn’t want to have sex anymore?
And if a man is turning down sex and instead prefers to watch porn and masturbate, that feels far worse than him just having no libido for medical reasons!
Smash his wifi and put trenbolone in his coffee.
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