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This reads like a feminine fantasy of the male psyche. You hope that the man you admire wants to be an alpha chad. In reality the average man prefers something like 50s white America or postwar Japan, where every man is guaranteed an acceptable female mate. Every man knows that if he lived in Alpha World he's screwed. Every man! Every man who has ever lived has grown up around men older and taller than they are. We have all been cucked by the father, the uncle, the brother, the cousin, the grandfather, and the jock down the street since the day we were born. I have met men a hundred times hotter than I am desperate to be screwed by a man 10 percent hotter than they are. Every day I see extremely hot men who seem completely unaware of their attractiveness with ridiculously ugly women.
In the 50s housewife-for-every-man scenario, all he has to do is behave, fit in, and one woman out there will be fine for him. We all know that as soon as that breaks down we're in a horrible competition with the fittest guy around. Men are obsessed with NOT being alpha chad males: Every day I see dozens of men who would be so hot if only they didn't have some fugly male ponytail or godawful neon polyester workout gear or xy other little signaling device that says to women they're vulnerable, to treat them easily, that they are not a rugged alpha male so please don't expect much, because they're embarrassed of their ranking in the sexual world of competition. Do women really like this? Men want to have their vulnerabilities assuaged by a woman but I think women find this off-putting.
As a man, I find competition unfair, hierarchy a hideous evil, inequality morally repugnant and status an empty and sinister mirage. I relish none of these things. If I find myself winning in any of these areas, it boosts my ego, but in an immoral and unethical way.
I think it is possible but only in extremely small groups of people, no larger than an extended family. I can accept that my father and uncles are perhaps a better mate for the women in my group, but that is with the understanding that they will step down at some point and I will dominate once their time passes. The complexity of modernity and the city erases the stability of this and erodes in-group solidarity. I suspect men in pre-60s America were able to come to some sort of equilibrium of understanding among each other that echoed this sort of arrangement in modernity but its undoing has been nothing but terrible for men after its interruption.
I doubt this. I have always imagined it as a gentlemen's arrangement to equally distribute sex to everyone other than the alpha chads. Monogamy of 1950s seemed to result in millions of the offspring of non-chad-alpha men being now sexually outcompeted by minority and immigrant chad offspring in the USA today. Imagine men of any race moving en masse to Japan, or look at mating patterns of Thai nightlife: more dominant men of non-Asian descent outcompete the local 10th generation beta sons. If given a choice, these men should choose the monogamy path for solidarity with each other rather than screwing over the 90+% of men who are not alphas.
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