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While this is not untrue, thinking of it like it is either acceptable or frowned upon sounds a bit too binary. What they should strive for is an environment where as far as cultural expectations of romantic and sexual shenanigans go, what happens (if it happens) is classy. The memetic "be attractive, don't be unattractive" is surprisingly apt if you add in a time dimension, too: "as far as anyone is concerned, you continue to be attractive and remain not unattractive afterwards, too".
Should EA take in to account the "dudes in their 20s consciously or subconsciously" effect or take advantage of it for recruitment and yet keep their eyes on the nominal target (longtermism and other grand causes), they should develop adequate cultural antibodies. Dudes who make attempts at romance need to those who can dance successfully, that those who can't, do not. Those who dance, should dance in a way that mitigates the reputational risk.
There are also the practical adaptations: Do not admit that it is a factor, nor do not create a situation where people would have to notice it is a factor, at least not any more than in any other high status well-respected professional endeavor. Doing one thing while not admitting doing it to avoid not-spoken thing to become too prominent is not maybe 101 level social skills, more like 201 or 301, but a successful organization may need to operate above the 101 level.
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