The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Thank you for the words of encouragement. In my situation, I have no doubts that I will thrive more in college as I will be surrounded by like-minded peers who share my worldview and aspirations, and not just a zip code. Even now, thanks to activities at my church, I've managed to get out of the house more and realized that if I'm proactive in applying my skills/interests and can maintain healthy relationships, I should be able to find happiness. Most people at my school have been busy scrolling mindlessly on Reels, getting high, and hooking up. On paper, I realize that I should be able to endure 4 years of a suboptimal social life to later discover something better, yet sometimes I am briefly reminded of how formative years went down to the drain thanks to my family's relocation, coupled with the toxic environment within the household. It was only a month ago I attended my first ever concert, with an acquaintance who is not a close friend of mine. I've never gone on a road trip with my peers until recently, never had somebody I could go to the mall or Six Flags with, etc. I see my peers posting themselves on their Instagram stories, enjoying quintessential teenage experiences I had to sit out on. Hanging out with the bridge Mormons that accosted @self_made_human the past 7 months, joining in on their door-knocking and street outreach endeavors, taking them out to try exotic cuisines in the big city or do some sightseeing, etc., has helped me fill in that gap significantly. I'm told people who rave on about their high school years throughout their adult life tend to be pathetic malcontents, if it's the same people who currently tell me how much they miss the middle school they've badmouthed throughout their entire time there, I have no trouble believing it. Perhaps I just need to find the right people in college and not let everything sort itself incidentally, then I'll find this concern trivial and not give it the time of day. I have plenty of time to recalibrate myself for my professional life and learn everything my parents never bothered to teach me, through grit and perseverance.
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