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Isn't women's "base" instinct to not sleep around, and to want a relationship? That's what evolution tells us. Wanting to live like a man is the more difficult thing for a woman to do, as it goes against their nature (i.e. base instincts).
Does evolution actually teach that though? Or is it just a narrative that uses evolutionary terms to make itself sound more plausible?
It is not like you can actually empirically test evopsych theories on real people. All you can do is make theories about evolutionary pressures. Notably, evolution doesn't always lead to the most rational result. Eggs are more expensive than sperm, pregnancy is taxing, and child-rearing requires community support. This implies that women should be wired for stability, and since sleeping around is anything but, there is a rational argument to be made that women would not be wired for this.
But evolutionary theories need to be adjusted to fit reality. In reality young women have a constant sex drive. Not as high as men, but still significant enough to cause some amount of distress if they don't get laid. In reality, a good amount of women cheat on their partners with men they barely know. As barriers to casual relationships have been removed we see more women preferring them. As practical reasons to get into stable relationships with men have been reduced, we see a decrease in desire for stable relationships with men.
In general, if your theory not only fails to predict reality, but actually predicts the opposite, then clearly the theory is wrong.
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