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I would like to invite you to the rust belt of the upper midwest! My father, a thin short blond rich white man, born in the 1950s, lived his whole life in this area, and would often see white women with a Black man around town and ask me, rhetorically, "Do I have to be a Black man to get a white woman in this town?" He was a funny man, and couched it as a joke, but if I had a nickel for every time I heard him ask it, I'd be Noticing a lot of nickels.....
Incidentally, he had no trouble dating multiples of women while I was younger, but he spent the last 15 years of his life single and alone. His brother, similar in status and such on the other hand, moved to Texas and married a woman from Hong Kong and is living happily ever after today.
Look at culture from one of the most ethnically homogenous zones on the planet with few to no Chads? This is what I was pointing to with my Chadless baboon Asia concept and is logically consistent with my broader point
I really don't think that this is a matter of inability due to size or race difference. My own father started dating another women approximately instantly after enough time had passed since my other passed away. I suspect that you father could have found women to date if it was a priority.
Perhaps, being gay, you have not been around enough straight women, but k-pop obsession is very much not region locked to the east. I hate to straightsplain, but really women seem basically to just want their partners to be larger than they are and then move on to other criteria. For gay men race might generally be a dominant factor here, but sexual dimorphism means this is only really a biting problem for the marginal man. A 5'4" short king destined for bottomhood by your typography is taller than half of all women in the US. Even a 5'8" short lord like myself is 95th percentile amongst women.
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