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Hmm, I don't know you that well, or what you struggle with. I'd say generally writing yourself off as a loss in a big area is a recipe for unhappiness. You can be pretty dysfunctional and still do OK. Plenty of guys I know are scrapping by paycheck to paycheck or odd job to odd job, and they have steady live in 6/10 gfs. In the modern age, you don't really have to fully financially support a girl, more like 50% support her.
Sorting your stuff out can also happen faster than you think. You don't have to solve everything, just figure out enough coping mechanisms and strategies to get what you want. If you really try you can change a lot in just a year or two. And if you're worried about the age gap, plenty of asian girls look your type into their early thirties. You got options man.
Sorry for Wellness Wednesday posting in the Fun Friday thread. But almost everyone can grow into being able to get what they want. Denying that is just choosing familiarity over happiness.
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