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The Bailey Podcast E031: We Say Gay

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In this episode, we discuss gayness.

Participants: Yassine, TracingWoodgrains, Sultan, Shakesneer.

Links:

Ezra Klein Interviews Dan Savage (New York Times)

Stonewall: A Butch Too Far (An Historian Goes to the Movies)

Mattachine Society (Wikipedia)

3 Differences Between the Terms 'Gay' and 'Queer' (Everyday Feminism)

Exploring HIV Transmission Rates (Healthline)

Boys Beware (PBS)

Recorded 2023-02-02 | Uploaded 2023-02-28

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A fascinating episode, and worth listening to. It taught me much. Thank you all for your honesty; I understand my dead uncle, a bisexual creative more at home in bustling New York than in quaint Albuquerque, a lot better now. (He died of AIDS in the 80’s.)

Thank you! What about your late uncle do you feel that you better understand now?

The constant, passionate needs he had, the encouragement and sharing of such proclivity among creatives, the always-on nature of ambition and how it intertwines with those passions. The closest “straight” analogue I know is how powerful political men need to have lovers constantly, like Bill Clinton.

Seeing past the squick is difficult when there used to be a death sentence hanging above it. When monkeypox was spreading through the men-who-orgy community, it was impossible for me to see how just not having sex for a week was never going to happen. Now, it’s obvious why not: it’s a cultural everyday event in their world, and such meaning is invested in fulfilling one’s sex drive that going without is as painful as me going without food for a day.

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